Spoilt Beyond Repair.
Amelia had a beautiful family. She was the only child of her parents. They loved her so much and gave her everything she asked for. That's what you would expect of the only child of rich parents, right? Maybe most of them.
She got used to the "royal treatment" her parents gave her, as I would call it and expected everyone to do the same. It's natural for her to think the world revolved around her since she is used to having her way. She became entitled to people's properties and she was so rude while at it especially when they question her as to why she is laying claim to what was not hers.
Whatever wrong she did, her parents never scolded her. She became so spoilt and she pushed even other family members away because she can be somewhat territorial. Her mother gave her too much freedom and was at her beck and call. This made Amelia have no respect or regard whatsoever for anyone.
After her secondary school (high school) she gained admission into a university far away from her home. Everyone was surprised to see this happen because they expected her parents to want her close as usual. I guess reality was beginning to dawn on them and they felt they can force her to grow by sending her away. They should have started the lessons earlier not when she's off to the University (college).
She felt not supported for the first time in her life and this made her vulnerable to anyone willing to accept her. She continued with her rude and nonchalant attitude in her school and people began to wonder why she behaved in such a manner.
Later on, she met a girl, whose name was Grace. Grace came from a wealthy family too and was also an only child. Her parents spoilt her and gave her too much freedom also. Amelia and Grace became very close and Grace introduced her to other people of their calibre. They were all drug dealers. Amelia was easily influenced because she needed acceptance. She started taking drugs too and it affected her.
After two years in this indecent act, she was addicted and couldn't stop it. Her parents found out and were disappointed. They regretted overindulging Amelia too much and ruining her in the process. They felt they were protecting her but didn't know there were basic lessons of life that should be taught which no amount of money, toys and goodies can buy.
Amelia still didn't stop taking drugs. A year after her parents found out, Amelia was found dead in her bathroom. They reacted too late in enrolling her in an institution that can help her. They felt their words would only be enough till she finish school at least. The reason for Amelia's parents' attitude towards her was that she was their only child. They didn't want her to lack anything and wanted her to enjoy herself.
They felt they were protecting her and they lost her. Parenting is about finding a level ground - not holding too tight and not letting go of control. They found out the hard way, losing their child before she even started to live.
Raising a child is not a child's play. In fact, you just have to hope to God to help you while praying for that child too because there are some things beyond the control of parents. There are so many fine lines that shouldn't be crossed because it's not easy. You might think you are showing care at some point while you don't know you are overindulging that child. You might think you don't want to overindulge the child yet that child would feel you are getting harder on him or her which would make him or her pull away from you further.
There is no manual to these things. Sometimes, you just have to be observant and think deeply about which approach to take at some point because there is no one-size-fits-all where children are concerned because they are all different on their own. The ability to learn from other parents while seeing how it fits into the life of your child takes wisdom. You don't just use other people's templates to run your home when you haven't even studied your child well enough to know the kind of approach that works for him or her.
Just do your best, pray to God and be observant.
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What a great story, so many learnings here. You're right raising a child is not that easy, you need the guidance of God also to help you and guide your children to the path they need to take. Spoiling children is not the answer for her/him to have a better life, we're just making them suffer in the future.