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Don't Stress.
Image Source. https://www.pexels.com/photo/woman-in-white-long-sleeve-shirt-standing-near-white-and-gray-house-during-daytime-103127/ I used to care what people think about me when I was growing up. In fact, I live for those moments to know what goes through everyone's mind. I saw it as a way of being perfect just by knowing what they think of me until I got to know that there is nothing you can do to please humans. Most people tell you what they want to say as long as they can manipulate you to do what they want. This life is a funny one but we have to live it. Selfishness has hit an all-time high and everyone is busy tending to their field. It's hard to see someone show genuine care without something in it for him or her. To even accept generosity from others these days you have to be careful because it might come with some terms and conditions which you might certainly not like. I don't know how we got to this point but it's the reality of life that we are facing. Rather than live in self-denial we have to accept this new reality and work our ways around it because that's the only way to grow and ease yourself of unnecessary pressure and frustration. You have to stay ahead of situations where life is concerned. Everyone would always have an opinion. I might not agree with what you said but I would defend your right to say the things you want to say. It's yours to speak what you feel but it's mine to accept the reality of it. The truth is, we need to know ourselves more. Most people lack confidence, they don't even know themselves that much or believe so much in themselves which is why they scramble for the opinions of others that can be riddled with lies and deception.
Image Source. https://www.pexels.com/photo/women-s-black-leather-jacket-1816225/ When you know yourself, you can tell yourself the truth and know when someone is trying to manipulate you for their advantage. When you know yourself, you won't stress about what the opinion of others says because you know your truth, you know the areas you need to improve from the few honest feedback you get and know when to ignore certain people's views of what they think of you. Everyone would always have a view of who they think you are and that's fine. Their view doesn't mean that's your reality. Knowing yourself does the trick because it means you are not selling yourself short. It's how you see yourself that the world would see you. The world wants to reduce you to rubbles and others want to do the same so they can inflate their egos and claim to be better than you. This life is a tricky one. Don't stress when someone gives an opinion of who they think you are. Seek for ways to be better if there is any truth in it but if there is no iota of truth in it, stop trying to validate their feelings just so you can appease them. You are not in this world to make everyone validated. You are not in this world to make everyone feel happy - you are not bread and beans or Garri or Pizza hahaha. Jokes apart, even at your best, you still can't make everyone happy. Give your heart to everyone there would always be a few disgruntled who would feel too entitled that would say you have done nothing for them due to their unrealistic expectations. Stop living your life based on how others perceive you. Human standards change from time to time so if you bend yourself to satisfy one aspect, they would come up with something else and you would easily get frustrated as a result of that.
Image Source. https://www.pexels.com/photo/man-standing-on-road-108153/ *What others think about you is their opinion, please don't stress* *It's their perception of who they think you are like the press* *You still won't please everyone even when you look the best in your dress* *Everyone would say anything to manipulate you so you can digress* *The more you bend to make certain people happy, your self-worth grows less* *Stick to your guns and that's the only way out of this mess* *Everyone would always have their opinion, don't stress* *Life would always happen. Humans will always be humans* *Potatoes are still going to potate* *Human standards would always still rotate* *Good mannerism isn't only when you prostrate* *Being a better human has nothing to do with your state* *You will feed some people and they would still hold your hand on your plate* *They would say you did nothing for them even when you gave them the best estate* *Just know humans for who they are, don't stress and don't hate* Trying to understand how people act might throw you off your own game. Just be you...as long as you are doing your best to be a better person and not intentionally hurting others, don't stress. Leave room for growth and stop chasing after the opinion of those that don't matter. *Thank you for your time.* *My pen doesn't bleed, it speaks. I am love's chemical content in human form and that's why I advise people to take a dose of "****Olawalium****" daily.* š Kindly follow me on **Noise.Cash**... I am trying to engage more with people and connect with everyone with this account. I look forward to seeing you there... You can say hello to me there so we can get familiarized as well. Click here. https://noise.cash/u/Olasquare
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I used to be like this too, minding what people will say about me..but the truth is, we will only stress out ourselves if we keep living in other people's heads. We are what we are, and they shouldn't care about us, and we shouldn't care about what they think. Let's not stress ourselves.. I shouldn't š
ššš¤£š¤£šš¤£ exactly. They don't care about us, why should we care about them? I've stopped worrying about people a long time ago. I just follow my heart and do the right thing.
The ' ate ' sound which ended your poem speaks so much truth. Seeking people's validation is unhealthy and makes us feel we ain't done enough. Just like you stated " Everyone would always have an opinion. I might not agree with what you said but I would defend your right to say the things you want to say. It's yours to speak what you feel but it's mine to accept the reality of it. " we all have our freedom of speech and expression and should stick to it and know this when others speak theirs, we should learn that they have the freedom too and the reality of accepting it, is ours. That's where the no-stress comes in.
We all have it...most people would say things just to get into our heads. We shouldn't stress at all.
I am still like this. I don't why but I can't get this thing out of me . But I know I am damaging my own self through this because yes it's true we can't make everyone happy. If let 100 people are good and they show positivity to us, there will always be those 50 people that never appreciate you and no matter how hard you try you would never get them to like you
You know how I stopped mine lol, by causing a little tiny quarrel between us like I don't greet them anymore, I just walked past them! Sounds crazy yeah! That's what I did! I have been to good to realize that their validation don't matter, cause they would make you feel like a dummy in your own game!
Their validation doesn't matter. I love that part.
I understand you, Raheela because I used to be like that. There comes a time we have to grow a thick skin. When you understand that what they are saying is to throw you off and not because it's true, it would get easier with time. Just take it with a pinch of salt.
You are right. I am working on it now. Thanks
Please do. It won't be easy but it's for the best. Learn to overlook and speak positively to yourself daily.
I also care a lot about what the other people think of me but the good thing right now is I am working to eliminate that traits. Yes, let us be true..let us be just ourselves and nothing more.
That's it, Sydney...we need to care less about what others say or think. We have to be true to ourselves.
Caring about what people think too much will never yield a good result because they will always think one thing or another and you can never please them all.
That's the point...you can never please them...so why stress?
I mean who cares huh? Those days, am always trying to be a good and trained girl so that when making validations about me , I can stand out the best! Turns out, I can't please everyone even when they feel they cannot manipulate you they would be angry! I had to start living the life of I don't care attitude... Like we are not on same boat duh!! You have ur life to live so is mine..
That's very good. I will try to do the same
Cool.
They have their lives and we have ours. We cannot please everyone. When they can't manipulate us, they get angry and use emotional blackmail too.
Living to impress people is costly. I love the fact that you mentioned that there is nothing you can do to impress humans. I've always learned to do my thing in my way instead of living to impress other people. I've trained myself not to let other people's opinions get to my head. I just do whatever it is that pleases me
You are smart and that's they best way, Bisola. There is no point trying to impress those whose opinion won't count.
As it is now, I don't even care about what you say and that's why some people think I have I don't care attitude, well I still don't care, there are lots of things to care about these days than what people are saying
There are a lot of things to worry about, exactly...so worrying about what others think is a waste of time and effort.
It's worthy to note that no matter how self-aware we are, there are things about us we will never see. This is where the opinions of those we surround ourselves with matters. But still, you don't have to react to every opinion. Take them all in good faith, learn what you can from them and then discard
Exactly... We have to choose how we react. We have to decide which one we accept and the one we have to discard.
>What others think about you is their opinion, please don't stress Someone posted and said "if you are talking behind me or heard bad thing about me, then so be it because I am what they say I am" Why trying to get people's validation when you can see the best in you? No matter what we do, they will still talk behind you. They even talk behind the dead, much more a living like you. When we stop assuming what others think of us and channel our time on beautiful and important things, we would see our lives being productive.
Hahahaha they even talk behind the dead. I love that. Indeed, we don't have to stress ourselves to change what people say of us...we shouldn't stress and we should do "us."
Abi na, š š Whether good or bad, dem go still say something about them.
Princess is awake hahahaha. They will always talk.
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ššš¤£š¤£š you are still battling with them?
Indeed, why worrying and stressing ourselves for the validation of others if they only want nothing but to mock you down. I have been there. Pleasing people, obeying their want's and considering their opinions as it was for your best and for your own good, is manipulating. They are trying to change the whole you and that makes things more complicated between you and the society as you are allowing them to manipulate you. Accept the fact that we have flaws, and so their words won't bother you at all. You don't need everyone's validation to be the best , you just need you, the whole you, so don't stress.
This is brilliant, my friend. All they try to do is to manipulate us. We need to accept our flaws and work on it...that way their words won't hurt us.
I guess all of us passed through that phase of worrying about what people think about us and that's perfectly normal because children are usually naive. But as we grow older, Life finally teaches us series of lessons that makes us realize we don't have to live life that way and we should rather focus on doing the things we love without worrying about what people might thing.
Exactly...we have to worry less about what others think. It's better to focus on what we are doing rather than what others are saying.
I would say that I have made a conscious decision to just be happy and do what makes me happy. As long as I am not hurting anyone in the process. You can never please anyone no matter what you do, and if you still do what someone else wants, there will be others who will crucify you for it. So, why bother then?
Exactly...why bother? They will crucify us anyway... It's better to do you.
As the saying goes, one man food is another man poison, even God can't please everyone, that's we some complain about rain while others say is disturbing them.
It's a hard task trying to please everyone. It won't happen...it can't happen...
Self confidence is very important of life,care less about what people think about you and pursue that beautiful future full of greatness
Short, simple and accurately said. Well said.
As they say " we can't please everyone". No matter how good we are there would be some people who see wouldn't see our worth, achievement or goodness in us. Well I believe those who throws negative comments or convincing that we can't do this and that are just silently jealous...lol. Just crab mentality
That's it...they are silently jealous and they want to make others as miserable as they are.
Yeah, like hey! We should be in the same situation!
Terrible humans.
One thing I think that makes us human is that at first, we teach ourselves that we truly and sincerely want everyone to like us a sad reality but the moment one finds his or herself then it will be the middle finger to everyone who doesn't like you even though you remove your heart for them they will still not like what you do. This character of people not liking you is mostly done by the elder those that are a bit aged, the millenniums too do that with the wide spread of the internet, social media becomes a platform where everyone lives a life to please their followers and even get attention of people they don't even know personally
It's not mainly based on the elderly but it's a human thing. Some people just want to get under your skin and throw you off balance because they feel threatened.
There's no need of stressing ourselves much just to make other people become happy. People will still be people until christ comes. There's no need at all.
No need at all. Humans would always be humans...selfish and inconsiderate...always willing to manipulate.
This...is so beautiful Mr Ola, one thing I love more is the beautiful poem you wrote at the end, the rhyming words was just aweeesommmeeeee.... I got the picture, people would still talk even if you're in your best dress, really deep. There's so much more to life than being bothered about people's feeling towards you. Those that would hate, would hate, those that would love would love. Just like you've said; we should only work towards a change of there's an iota of truth in what they said.
Absolutely, Ella and I am glad you enjoyed this. People will always talk. Those who hate us would see us walk on water (which is a miracle on its own) but they would still manage to say it's because we cannot swim.
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