One Last Time.

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I honestly can't remember how many times I have said this. I have a soft spot for showing consideration to people. Every time I say "This is the last time" or "One last one and I am done" I find reasons to get dragged (in a good way) into what I thought I wouldn't. It's not because I can't stick to my works but mostly because I like being considerate and show support.

I read @George_Dee 's post regarding the last wedding he was dragged to go with his girlfriend even though he enjoyed it and it was a pleasant surprise to the person that invited him. I am just like him in a way and I shared that in his comment section. You can read about his post here.

I am a private person, an indoor person to the core. You would have to drag me out to go anywhere; except I want to go and buy my favourite plantain, anyway hahaha. I derive comfort in being in my own space and if I give that up for you, trust me, you are really important to me. Having to sacrifice my personal space just to be out there and show support is one of the highest levels of sacrifice I can give anyone 😂🤣😂 apart from parting away with money of course.

I know how many weddings I have been invited to that I actually turned down. I simply told them I won't or something came up hahaha... Well, my comfort and playing FIFA on a game console came up haha. At least, I didn't give a ridiculous excuse like "I would love to go out with you but I had to babysit my friend's cat".

Most of the weddings I've gone for are either a close family member that I couldn't avoid or I was told to be the best man or there is a distance issue and work didn't allow me to go like a recent one where I couldn't go because in all honesty, something came up and it was quite a distance too but I didn't mind if something didn't come up. Most people know, especially guys that I hardly go out so they either ask me to be the best man or one of the groom's men hahaha. They got me there.

I have lost count on the number of best man duties I have done and so many suits I have bought in the process, ranging from my cousins to my immediate brother to my older brother's friend (he didn't ask my brother, he asked me instead hahaha) to even those who simply want me to be there and offered that slot. I've said it many times that I wouldn't do it again and I felt it would stop but it didn't. I was asked over and over again and I always say yes 🤣😂🤣. Am I supposed to make them feel bad before their big day? Hahahaha don't judge me but then, it's no trouble. It's another opportunity to go out there too, so, yes... it's cool.

The last one I did was I think 3 years ago after I already took a year break. A Church member asked me to be his best man after I thought I had retired and even declared it on my Facebook wall and WhatsApp status. I found myself saying yes to him again and it was a wonderful small wedding. I love it. I felt that was the last until 2 months ago when another family member asked me to be part of his groom's men this time around. I had to get a suit and a white traditional outfit with a pair of shoes to go with it. My items got delivered and I am ready to rock the wedding 🤣🤣🤣😂.

I am used to saying this is one last time and I have failed every time I said it. I am not sure if I would say it again this time because I always go against my word especially where weddings are concerned. The venue of the wedding this time is the state I grew up in and happening in my city back there too, so it's another opportunity to visit there. I know a lot of people would want to see me and I would try to see the few that I can see.

In as much as I am not the outgoing type, I've always had a thing for weddings. It's special and amazing. I recently travelled to my hometown I think last year for my cousin's wedding and it was fun. Funny enough, I wasn't on 'duty' hahahaha. I just went as a big brother and I met so many of my aunts. It turned into a mini-reunion. I don't like talking much but I can scream with my writings hahahaha. I am not so good with noise and crowd but then I make exceptions when it comes to weddings or any other gatherings I sacrificially go for.

Going to weddings as one of the groom's men or as the best man is one of my many ways of being social. The question now is, who is going to get married next and ask me to be his best man? I know I won't be able to say no but I hope there would be people out there who wouldn't ask me 😂😂🤣😂. I am tired of buying suits.

I guess I am ready for the wedding. The suit came from the groom. My neighbour made my white 'agbada' and I got the shoes from my brother's wife - she sells them.

Thank you for your time.