Learning life lesson the hard way
There is nothing as important as one being able to learn from his or her experience and making sure never to let such things happen to them again.
So today, I will be answering the question that says, **What life lesson did you learn the hard way? How did it alter your perception or attitude?**
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Funny enough I have a friend who thinks I still have anger issues because of who she knew me to be when we first became friends.
So, before I go on to narrate my story, I will be saying that one of the life lessons which I have learned over the years is **Anger management,** and one of the ways it altered my attitude is by making sure I always have control over my anger no matter what or who is provoking me.
So, I used to be a girl with a short temper and wouldn't spare anyone who tries to get on my bad side. That I know but my younger brother did not know that bad side of me because we never really stayed together while growing.
He came to visit me one year and I wasn't liking most of the behaviors he was putting up because truth be told, I was becoming impatient with his attitude even when I tried to let him know I didn't approve and won't condone his attitude, he never tried changing.
One day, I came back home with the home of eating since I left in the morning to work without taking my breakfast and had rushed back home with the home of eating the food I left behind. I was shocked by my marrow when I realized he had eaten the food without letting me know.
Even when he saw me return from work, take my bath, rested before going into the kitchen to get my food, he did not dim it fit to let me know there was no food for me to eat. I guess that was what got me worked up because I had warned him severally to always let me in or perhaps if he realizes that he plans to eat what I left behind for myself, he should at least let me know, so I get to plan on what to do but he wouldn't listen.
To say that it was late all ready for me to go out and get something to eat got me even angrier the more that I was already seeing red and was planning in my head on how best to hurt him since he could not see anything wrong with what he did. I got tired of talking and was searching for something heavy to hit my brother but didn't see anything. I just needed to hurt him that I threw my phone at him.
I didn't realize the gravity of what I did until I was able to calm my anger but it was already late because I had damaged my phone beyond my repair.
The worst of all is that my guardian grounded me for a complete year without a phone, I was grounded for letting my anger get the best of me to the extent of destroying my phone in the process.
It wasn't a fun experience for me as I had to go for a year without a phone and my guardian made sure of that and I learned a life lesson, I guess the hard way.
Even though I get angry most times, I have learned to take control of my anger and not to harm anyone or destroying anything while angry because it is not the best way.
Nigeria Palava
Okay, so many of my Nigeria bloggers here on this platform would understand the meaning of wahala. Wahala is a Latin word that means problem. So in other words, my article is saying **Nigeria Problem.**
I don't know if the problem we have here in Nigeria also happens in another country, I guess that is why this article came, to find out from others in other countries if they go through what we go through here in Nigeria.
I am going to be listing the wahala we have in Nigeria but before then, I will be sharing the experience I have faced for the past three days and I guess I have people who will attest to this.
So, I left my house to my workplace to work, but when I got to my workplace, unfortunately, I could not work because of the bad network.
I am sure you would be wondering what kinda work I do that I would be needing network for, yeah, I blog and I do that for a living. Are you surprised? Well, don't be because Covid-19 helped me realized I could still take of myself and that of my family by just writing articles on different platforms and that's what I have been doing for the past year.
Fortunately, I have a place I decided to always go there just to kill boredom and help me have a life, I guess you know staying indoors and not interacting with people isn't a good idea? So this faithful day, my network was so bad that I felt frustrated.
I did everything I could, reset and onset my phone network and settings just to get network but unfortunately, that day wasn't my day. I wasn't discouraged after all with the hope that when I get home or before the end of the day, the network would be good for me to make a post, little did I know that my wahala was yet to begin.
Throughout that day and the next and the next, my God for good three straight days, my network refused to work for me. Frustration was an understatement. I did not know what to do or who to help me out with what's wrong with my network.
I stayed for three days without posting any article on any of the platforms I write on and this kept me devastated. I couldn't even log in to any social media sites like Facebook, Instagram, and WhatsApp to view people's status which always kept me occupied any time I just want to enjoy myself and not make posts or read and comments on other people's articles.
I did not know who to run to or where to get help until yesterday when I tried once again and realized that my network was back and could do anything. I can't explain the joy in my heart when I found out about that. 💃💃💃
Back to the list of Nigeria Wahala
It is in Nigeria I see that when rain falls, PHCN takes their light.
It is in Nigeria that a bad network can last for more than one.
It is in Nigeria that when you wish to withdraw your money for an urgent matter, the bank will tell you they are doing some maintenance and you will have to wait.
It is Nigeria that when a young boy or girl is well to do, they say he is doing yahoo or she is selling herself for money.
It is Nigeria that when you board a motorcycle or tricycle which cost fifty (50) naira and finally alight, giving the rider hundred (100) naira, the driver will say, you should have told him you were holding 100 naira before boarding his vehicle.
It is in Nigeria that a tricycle rider will prefer to drop all his three passengers and allow them to board another vehicle just because one passenger refuses to give him twenty naira.
Don't bother telling a typical Nigerian man about a virus because you are wasting time. He believes germs don't kill a black man.
It is Nigeria you tell someone Happy Birthday and he tells you the same to you 🤣🤣.
It is Nigeria that I see that PHCN refused to give light for one month but after that month, they come with a bill for us to pay for what we did not consume.
It is Nigeria we see a blackbird and say it is a which.
It is in Nigeria that we dream that someone is very wealthy and healthy and we say it is a bad omen for that person.
It is in Nigeria we believe that when a person dies, it is his family people or witches.
Don't get me wrong, in as much as I can go on and on about my beloved country wahala, I still love my county no matter what.
You can add your own funny country problem or funny Nigeria problem and let's have fun here. It is raining over here right now, and as I stated, there is indeed no light.
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My Plans turn to my Nightmare
It's a good morning from me to you all and I am wishing you all the best as you begin this new day.
For some days I have been meaning to write this, article but I could not because I was a little bit down with the normal sickness we all know malaria and typhoid or perhaps down because of the weather, it's raining like thunderstorms over here making the weather not smile on us. So I guess it's either I am down with malaria and typhoid or I am down because of the weather but whichever way, I will bounce back.
Before I go on to write my story, I would love to appreciate my sponsors who saw me worthy of their sponsorship even though I have not been doing pretty well on this platform for the past two months, @ARTicLEE @McAdeleye @Codename_Chikakiku I say a big thank you for that and to those who find time to read every of my article, I say thank you for that and I love you for that. I appreciate you, it means a lot to me.
So, back to my topic, I had decided at the beginning of august to be making at least five to ten comments on everyone's posts have and make at least one post a day on this platform.
To me, I felt it was the best I could do to build my blog and get to meet people on this platform, and also perhaps I could also learn how others make their post which can fetch them a good amount of upvotes and sponsors so I could get mine as well.
I guess it's not a bad idea because it's been two months since I joined the platform and I could not get an upvote in my article, I was becoming frustrated and was about giving up until I started engaging and then, I got some reasonable amount of upvote in my comments and then, I got my sponsors.
I realized that the platform is made up of engagement, and since I could get a 0.015 BCH on a comment out of at least five comments made a day, I was no longer bothered if my article was upvoted or not. I decided to give more of my engagement whether or not I get an upvote because I realized that I could get my engagement and upvote on my article and yeah, I started getting a good number of engagement and can upvote which I am always grateful for because it is better than nothing.
But unfortunately, my dream of making quite a several engagements was cut short on Sunday which was the first day that when it was brought to my notice by one of the persons I commented on his article that day stating that my comment has been added as one of the low comments. It happened to all the comments I made that day and I just could not place my hands on why that should happen. The comments I usually make are not low for those that are unknown 😪😔.
I don't know why this happened or what I did to get such, but right now, my fantasy of writing at least five to ten comments only becomes a nightmare to me and I need your help to how I can remove myself from such a list.
This is how my fantasies become a nightmare in just a twinkle of an eye. I am greatly distressed and don't know what to do.
I need my freedom and someone please tell me what I can do to get it? I need help, I need to stop having this nightmare because it is getting me frustrated.
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Treat people with love
Omg, Jesse, you are so dumb and foolish at the same time.
Hahaha haha, David laughed at the innocent girl because she failed to get the answer.
I can't wait for class to dismiss, so I can mock you dumb ass.
He whispered into Jesse's ear while the teacher wasn't looking.
After class was over, Jesse was not left alone as all her classmates made fun of her always getting the wrong answer in class and for looking fat and ugly.
Jesse cried but nothing can stop this bully from her classmates. She got home and went straight to her room because she knew her parents were not always at home and she doesn't have anyone to complain about the bully she was always receiving from school.
While on the bed, Jesse began thinking and concluded that she can not take the pain alone and decided to end her life since no one was listening to her or paid attention to her. She had no friends because nobody wants to be friends with the dumbest, fattest, and ugliest girl in the class. So they thought.
The next day, everyone waited to continue their bullying act with Jesse but did not see her in school. Her classmates were surprised because Jesse never stays back from school no matter the amount of pain inflicted on her, her teachers were worried because they had tried calling Jesse's home phone to be sure she was alright but nobody was picking. The school knew Jesse's parents were not always in the house until the weekend because of their work.
After school, while on their way home, one of the students decided to go and take his bath in the stream, coming closer, he found a body floating in the water and out of fear ran to alert the passersby.
Those who heard his cry for help rushed to the scene and after much work, they were finally able to pull out the body.
I guess I don't need to tell us who's body was found because it was Jesse's body found floating. She was already dead by the time they brought her out, she drowned herself because nobody, not even her parents were treating her well.
When the school heard about the death of Jesse, they wept, the students who always found it fun to bully and treat Jesse wrongly all regretted their action and wished they had not done what they did.
They could not bring back Jesse but they all learned never to treat people badly and will always live with the guilt of their actions which caused the death of an innocent girl.
How many times have we treated people badly and with disdain not minding the repercussions or after-effects of our attitude, how many times have we succeed in sending someone into a depressed mood without realizing that we killed that person instantly even if the person does not end up committing suicide?
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Every day we see the rate of youth that commits suicide, and the rest even worst than Jesse and this is as a result of the way they were treated, this as a result of the depression that came in due to the way they were treated.
Many have lost their lives because of the way people had treated them and mocked them because of their body size, and the rest of them that we can mention.
The news talked about a young girl who just graduated from the university as a lawyer who committed suicide after taking to social media to thank God for seeing her through. After her post, she got so many comments but negative comments talking about how fat she was and the rest of the terrible things.
Worst of all was that she was dished by her boyfriend who told her she was too fat and would one day become obese. This led to depression and after some days, it was said the girl committed suicide in her room.
As funny as that may sound, it is real and many more stories we hear every day about people who did the same thing or worst than that.
There is no harm in treating people well, there is nothing you will lose if we learn to treat people fine, there is no pain if we learn to treat people the same way we would want and love to be treated, why then treat people bad and expect others to treat you well.
Treat people the way you want to be treated, treating people badly does not define who they are, it defines who you are and who others will see you as.
If you treat people like they are smart, they will be eager to learn, if you treat them like they are dumb, they will tend to disengage and may end up hurting you back just to ease or Quincy there hurt or going into a depressing mood but will either last them forever making them go for something that will release their depression-like taking hard drugs, joining a bad gang and the rest we can think of or lead them to commit suicide.
I am sure, nobody wants to carry the guilt of pushing someone to commit suicide because of the way they treated the person, then let us learn to treat people the best way we can to avoid death and guilty conscience.
Treat people like they are human and not like an animal or an alien who was thrown down to planet earth and do not have feelings or blood rushing through their veins. They are human and absorb every action and word thrown at them whether good or bad.
I am sure nobody loves to be treated like an animal no matter how poor, wretched, or unschooled they are. We all want to be treated well, so learn to treat people well and you will be happy you did.
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Celebrate your Failure
I guess considering my topic, many would-be wondering why I would be using such a topic or perhaps why I would say we should celebrate failure, but that is the truth.
Many people are so bent on winning that they are willing to do just anything to win and not sit to analyze why they failed and what could be done.
Nobody wants to be a loser or a failure but if we think that we can only be proud of ourselves only when we win then we are saying that without a win, we are insufficient and not enough.
Two weeks ago, our church decided to organize a football tournament between the youths from different branches, and this tournament aimed to bring about fun and help us get to know each other on the field.
I am not a player but one of the days, my branch was to play and unfortunately, our goalkeeper couldn't make it to the field for some reasons best known to him and as a result, we had to substitute one of the players to become our keeper.
The guy who we asked to become a player is an amateur, although he is a player but that was his first time taking up the role of a keeper.
He tried his best but fortunately our opponents best us to a 3-1 score. It was devastating because the other opponents were not as better than us but because we did not have a good keeper, who could guard the post for us, it was easy for them to score.
Many complained which was a normal phenomenon, but I saw the game as a friendly game and to me, it doesn't matter if we win or not, what matters is that we did something.
Like I said previously, this life is all about winning even though winning is important, we don't have to base our lives on winning because if we do, we will always feel insufficient, not enough and frustrated any time we don't win but if we come to the terms that life isn't all about winning even if we wish to win, we will be happy whether we win or not.
As silly as this may sound, let us learn to celebrate failure, let us learn to celebrate our failures, even if that isn't what we wanted but being able to get to the point we got is a reason to realize that we aren't failures and we never failed.
A failure is someone who never tried, but it takes confidence for someone to start a thing or try a thing even though at the end of the day, we will fail.
Failure doesn't come to make us feel discouraged and incompetent, it comes to encourage us and to help us prepare our minds for the unpredictable. Failure comes to help us show us our wrongs, where we left a loophole, where we did not prepare or do well and help us to know how to prepare for the next opportunity when it will come knocking at our door.
Every successful man here on earth passed through one or two failures and during their failing process, they learned life and realize that there was more to life than winning and that alone kept them moving until they were able to succeed.
Now, back to our football tournament, on that day, although we were not happy about the scoreline, we celebrated our loss and learned from our mistakes, and came back home to work on ourselves for the next match.
Today, we played again against another branch and just in the first half, we started the ball with a 2-0 score although the other team was good because the first half ended in a 2-2 draw but at the end of the game, we went home with a scoreline of 3-3 draw.
We not only shouted for joy but we also pop champagne and celebrated our win.
That's the evidence of what our first failure can do. We should always learn from our failures and improve instead of wallowing in our failures and thinking life is all about winning.
If you fail today, it isn't the end of the world because in life failure is inevitable and those who celebrate their failure always hope for a better win.
It is good to win, but it is also best to realize that life isn't all about winning. Don't depend your life on winning because it only makes one feel when he or she loses, they are incompetent.
Do what you've got to do and when it is time for winning to come, it will come knocking at your door. Nobody wants to lose, everyone wants to win bs, anytime you fail, don't wallow in your failure, know your wrongs, accept it and think towards working it out, take yourself out, be happy for the stepping stone you were able to take, and don't forget that you can do better.
The Magic isn't in the winning, the magic is in you and me. Each failure is one step closer to a goal. If we never experience what it feels like to fail, we can't fully enjoy the emotions when we win.
Winning is never everything about this life but it's the people we meet and the life lesson we learn along the way.
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Time is no man's friend
**John:** Babe, please hurry up, we are running late.
**Gloria**: Please give me a second, I will be with you, let me grab my bag.
**John**: Just be fast, I hope you know that time isn't on our side anymore. We've got just five minutes more.
**Glor**ia: Okay, I will meet you down soon.
**John**: Oh my gosh, what are you still doing up there? We are late for the program and may likely not get a sit by the time we get there.
**Gloria**: I am coming, I need to put on my lipstick.
**John**: Don't do that anymore, we are already late, just come down let's go, we are behind time.
I hope, we can understand the scenario I am trying to portray, many of us just like Gloria and John have always been behind time for most times, things and people that are actually not worth it.
We forget that time waits for no one, nobody can stop time or hold it from ticking and as such it will continue ticking as long as the earth and human still exist.
I remember when we were kids still attending primary school, there is this particular adage that was always taught to every one of us that says, "Tick says the time, tick tick, what you have to do, do quickly." Another adage says, "A stitch in time saves nine" and another also says; Early to bed and early to rise makes a man healthy, wealthy and wise
My class teacher will always say that adage in class whenever she realized that some of the students refused to do their assignment for no reason except that they forgot because they were playing when they were supposed to be doing their assignment and as a result forgot about the assignment given to them.
She would then flogging the offender while asking them to chant the two adages written above. She would go on to say that, this time for us is to study and know what we are expected to know because there will come a time what we are been taught in our primary class won't be taught but another thing and it will be so bad when we realize that we don't know because the time when we were supposed to study, we did not but we were playing.
That word alone put so many of us in action and we always set our time correctly and know when to study and when to play. Both adages are explainable because they are talking about time and also encouraging everyone to be time conscious because time ticks faster than we realize.
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It is obvious that time waits for nobody and as such, whatever it is we want to do or plan to do, we should learn to do that at the right and appropriate time to avoid not doing them at the end.
The time ticks and as such, we are all running out of time, so don't be stubborn, or perhaps, do not let your emotions get the best of you or make you stubborn that you fail to realize when to do a particular thing in your life.
If u love somebody tell them now, if you gonna be good to somebody, be good to them now, If u gonna apologize, apologize now, if you want to learn how to cook, learn it now, if you are gonna spend money, spend it now if you gonna enjoy, wine, dine and celebrate, please do them now, because time waits for no one, and if you fail to watch your clock, you are only gonna end up realizing all your life, you never did what you had a passion for or loved doing.
Don't let ur emotions make you stubborn that you fail to watch the clock. Don't let your emotions name you stubborn that you fail to realize every day you wake up, is a sign that the clock is ticking forward and not backward. Don't let your emotions make you stubborn that you fail to see that every sound of the clock on the wall is a sound to keep you conscious of what you are expected to do because we are all running out of time.
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The tick of the clock waits for nobody, the tick of the clock will continue to tick every second, every minute, every hour, and every day because the sound and its tick is a wake-up call and not a kind of a fancy to anyone. The tick and sound are there to remind us that each minute, seconds, hour, and a day spent on planet earth counts and is supposed to be utilized to the fullest.
Drink in your summer, gather your corn, whether we like it or not, some things are inevitable in a man's life, the likes of the birth of a man, the death of a man, the sun rising in the morning and going down by noon, the moon bringing forth its bearing and going down when it is it appointed time and the passage of time with the tock the of the time and the sound.
No man can control the tick and the sound of the time, no man can detect what will happen in the next minutes, and as such, one must act immediately because the passing of time is unstoppable, and it will march on regardless of what anyone says or does. So it is high time, we get up and own it.
The problem with us is that we have so much time but in reality, we fail to see that we do not have as much time as we want even though it is free. It is priceless and as such, we should learn to stop wasting our time doing what isn't worth or of benefit to us. Do not let things that are not important and ignorant people subtract your time because the time is ticking.
Chase your dreams, let your time be fulfilled with what makes you happy and be the winner you are designed to be.
Tough Times Never Last, But Tough People Do!
It is in human nature for us to become weak, hopeless, and give up when things are not going the way we expected them to go, forgetting that the tough moments we face in our lives are seasonal and come to make us strong and ready for the future.
The difference between those that always win and those that don't and never is the ability to apply the positive mindset or the possibility mindset even when things aren't going the way they ought to go.
The difference between those that keep moving, keep pushing, and keep trying is the ability to apply the **NEVER GIVE UP** concept even when people are giving up in that same period and in that same business.
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The ability to dare to try, the ability to dare to take the risk, makes them tougher, stronger than even the tough times they are faced with. They dare to try, they dare to take risks even when the risk is supposed to make them shrink in fear and give up.
They believe in themselves, they understand that failure isn't the end of a person's life or the end of the world but an event in a particular season that brings about success when they know it is up to them to make whatever they are after work. They know, that if it is going to be, then it is up to them to make it work and they commit themselves to it. Working fervently, diligently, and focused till they get exactly what they are after.
They never quite neither do they give up so easily, they become stronger and more equipped to fight and survive the tough times when others are overcome by them. They soar high when others sink and that is exactly what makes them last.
Over time, they have learned to react positively to any tough times they are faced with and sees a possibility even in an impossibility, they manage their season tough times and try to start somewhere instead of sitting down and wallow in their failure.
They take charge and control of their tough times, align their problem orderly and critically, and then they begin to take proper actions and perspectives to see it work. Tough times come in different ways and they come to make us stronger. Our inability to make lemonade out of those periods or times keeps us inches away from our success story.
During your tough times, never give up, never lose hope, never say you can not keep going because it is only a test to see how far you believe in yourself and in what you can do during the hard times.
You know a man isn't known for his strength when he has got it all and got everything figured out, he is known for his strength when things aren't going good for them or in their tough times.
Keep toiling from sun up to sundown, don't give up, because they are just for a season, even when you return home feeling sore and worn out, it is not a time to be discouraged, it is not a time to be disheartened, even amid your time of battling discouragement, keep going, never let the words, I can never do it,
I am never going to be able to move it come close to you because they will only deprive you of getting one step closer to your victory.
Don't disturb yourself about how you have not been able to even budged the rock by half a centimeter, it is not your duty, your duty is to keep pushing, your duty is to have a positive mindset that the rock will finally get to where you want it to get.
My friend, keep pushing against the rock with all your strength, which you have done, have you taken a close look at yourself, your arms are strong and muscled, your back sinewy and sturdy, your hands are callused from constant pressure, and your legs have become massive and hard, why do you want to stop all of a sudden just because the rock hasn't moved from a reasonable amount of distance?
Why would you think that you have failed because you lost just this once, why would you dare to give up because the plan did not work as you anticipated it, why would you think it is the end just because you did not get an overflow of increase like you expected, why would you think it is the end just because you did not harvest as much as you sowed?
It is during our tough time we begin to realize that consciously, we have grown much and our abilities now surpass that which we used have, we also begin to realize that we begin to put to use most of our potential, abilities, and strength we never knew we possessed or good use when we were not faced with such a time.
Being tough during your tough times doesn't mean you can not break down, it means even when you break down, you stand up, pick your piece together and keep moving even when you are surely limping.
Strong times are seasonal but strong people remain strong forever no matter the crisis.
I drop my pen here 🖊️...
Fear ~ The Most terrible opponent
Many times, we have refused to do something not because we can't do it, but because of our fear of failure. Fear has kept so many people and thousands of people looked up in their cage. Fear has deprived many people of their happiness because they are afraid of the future, they are afraid of the unknown, they are afraid of the things that are yet to see and don't even know will happen or will never happen.
Many times, we always feel like vanishing into the thin air or perhaps pray for the earth to open up and swallow us up because of our fear. I have many times been first of taking a step to do something and at the end of the day, regretted why I allowed my fear to get the best of me depriving me of success I would have had if I had taken that step.
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Our fears over a particular thing even when we are not sure if the thing happening as given heart pain or perhaps headache even before we have the opportunity of trying out that thing or even before the thing we have been anticipating will happen to get to happen.
Life is about the survival of the fittest and if we let fear overwhelm us, then we are sure of not surviving a day in this world, it is not about what you have, it is about how much, you can overcome fear even when you are faced with it, it is how far you can go even in the face of fear. It is better to accept an honest defeat, knowing that you have tried your best, at least you did something than to sit down doing nothing because of fear.
Take a chance, don't rush it or don't rush yourself, take your time, pull yourself together, keep the energy, you can do it, you can rise, even if you fall, fail, tear down, tear it off like a band-aid but never let your fear put you down and you will be shocked at how much you can overcome your fear and the victory you will win when you never let your fear put you down.
In a man's life, the most important competitor opponent isn't the other opponent, but fear, fear will bring a man to nothing and make sure a man remains there wallowing in his or her shell. Even when he has got the ability, capability, intellect, and strength to win but fear will never make a man take a bold step.
Many men and women who are depressed and frustrated about life aren't because someone made them, they are frustrated, angry, bitter, and depressed about life because they let their fear overwhelmed and stopped them from taking so many good steps they should have taken whilst they were young and vibrant that would have made their future a better and happy place for them.
They are frustrated. They did not give themselves a chance to prove their worth because their fear of falling and failing had put them behind the scene and hid them from real happiness. They are frustrated because they regret letting fear taking over their life when they should have allowed confidence and boldness done that.
They regret because they allowed fear to deprive them of enjoying the now, the today while they were busy getting afraid of the future and the unknown that they never saw or may never see till the end of the world.
I say this today, it is not inherent for human nature to struggle against fear because we've got the power to crush it and subdue it but our inferiority and low self-esteem as made it become an everyday issue.
The only thing that should be foreign for humans is fear. We are afraid of doing things, we are afraid to go into a battle, we are afraid of starting up that business, we are afraid of taking a step, we are afraid of doing practically everything in life because we don't want to fail, fall, be mocked or laughed at and at the end of the day, because of our fear, we end up feeling remorse instead of training, failing, falling, and trying in real life.
We begin to build our thought around the negative things that would happen if we decide to give it a try, we being to imagine how we will fall, we begin to Hypervent about how we will be mocked and laughed at if we take a slow step even when we have a part of us, even when we can hear that little whisper and our inner mind telling us we are made for such things, even when we can feel that we are good and we've got everything within us to make it but fear won't let us take even a tiny and slow step.
Fear cripples our destiny and brings our life to ruin living us shattered, bitter, and frustrated about everything.
In as much as we refuse to work on our fear and let it go, we will end up dying feeling unfulfilled and bitter about life. Take the bull by its horn, take a slow and steady step even when it involves doing it one at a time, you are not competing with anyone, because the most terrible opponent is fear itself, beat it and you will get to the top.
Only those who can wait out the night will see the dawn and will be opportune as well to see the first rays of the sunshine and I tell you, it is worth it. In other words, only those who are ready to take a step even when it is becoming tiring, even when you feel like falling, even when your fear is telling you to let go will see the light at the end of the tunnel and I tell, you, then and only will you realize that your struggle, hope, confidence, hard work, persistent, are worth it.
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There is nothing as sweet as waking up every day, over and over again to know that even when the world gives you a thousand reasons to be afraid, you are not afraid, there is nothing as happy and fulfilled to know that you start each day with confidence even when the fear keeps lurking around you in a tiny place, there is nothing sweeter than realizing that you've got yourself on hold and can go over and over a thing, you can do anything you so wish, again and again without fear of failure, without fear of the unknown, without fear of mockery or fear of falling.
There is nothing sweeter than conquering your fear every day of your life as you wake up and by doing that once, you realize how confident you have become in yourself even when no one is there to believe in you or have confidence in you, you already sure of yourself.
Our best confidence is ourselves, our best supporter is ourselves, our best cheerleader is ourselves, and how much we know that we can do just anything we set our minds to do even when no one is there to keep on cheering us. Not letting fear get the best of us and deprive us of our happiness is the best thing we can do for ourselves now and in the future.
When we overcome fear, we will be very glad we did it when we turn around to look back at our lives and how far we have gone and done by not letting fear get a grip on us. Fear is the worst thing that can ever happen to any man, get a grip of it, let go of it, and watch how you will get to the top even when you have thousands of opponents trying to push you down.
The most terrible opponent is fear itself, not others, so get a grip of your fear and scale through.
That's the best thing you can do for yourself and your future.
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I am human too!
When did getting angry over hurtful words or action become a bad thing, when has voiced out your hurts or pain to the person who caused it to become sin. In as much as I have my good side, I also have my bad side so you love me because I show my good side but all my names and judge me over my bad side. Isn't that interesting?
You get made over what I did wrong and let me know, and I see my wrongs and apologize, and then I get angry over your hurting words and actions and you see me as the bad guy, you judge me and think I am been too over paranoid about it.
Where has the consciousness of men gone to that they don't seem to think about the feelings of others or at least put into consideration others' feelings before killing them with their actions and words just because they decided to tell them their hurts?
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I don't get it, we all have our bad side and I don't see where and when getting angry and letting someone know how you feel becomes a sin. Because a person decides to voice out her opinion over wrong deeds she doesn't like makes them evil.
I know you might be thinking that I am just being paranoid, maybe I am, maybe I am not but notwithstanding, I guess I am trying to make a point. I don't know why I decided to write this here today, maybe because I am pained or because I just feel like ranting out but whichever way, you can decide to stop and read or move to the next article but whatever the case, I am still going to write this after all.
A few days ago, a friend of mine said something which doesn't sit well with me and I had to let him know how I felt over what he said considering that we were friends, but as much as I tried to let him see where he went all wrong, he just wouldn't have it and before I knew, things were escalating and he was throwing bad words at me.
You know, because he is my friend, I didn't take it hard because we are friends but after waiting and realizing that he was not going to stop, and I didn't want to exchange vulgar words with him. You know our words can either mare or destroy people, I wouldn't want our friendship to be destroyed because of my words and you know, even though we will later settle our differences and forgive each other, and move on our words will always linger in our heart.
So, I decided to do what's best by keeping quiet but as much as I tried to keep shut and let him do the talk, I was becoming angry with his use of words, and since he wasn't ready to stop talking, and I didn't want to talk back before I said what's wrong, I decided to do the only thing that came to my mind and that was to block him.
Blocking him did not stop him from being my friend, it only stopped me from seeing his words which were making me angry and making me lose my temper to retaliate by replying to him badly and with bad words. I was angry but I wasn't ready to let my anger get in the way of my friendship with this person, maybe if it was someone else, I would have replied to them the same way the person was talking to me but this is my close paddy we are talking about here.
So, a friend was aware of the issue and asked me about it, I told him, about what happened and how I had refused to retaliate but blocked him because I didn't want to insult him and what I got from this friend shocked me to my marrow. According to her words, she said I should have tried to play cold, I went too far by blocking him and I should learn to understand people.
Why should I be the one understanding someone who is throwing vulgar words at me, why should I be the one to sit cold and watch someone else insult me, why should I not react towards the hurtful words of someone.
Imagine how I became a bad person because I voiced out my hurt and did what I should have done to avoid more problems. I became a bad person for refusing to let anyone step on my toes over an issue that isn't my fault and I became the bad person.
I don't know why people make it look as though it is wrong for one to express their hurt. Why would you feel hurt that someone decides to tell you or show how you hurt them so badly. When has telling you how much you hurt me become a crime?
I ask, am I not human? Don't I have blood flowing in my veins just as you have? I get hurt too, just the same way you get hurt, and should be able to express my feelings because I am human.
Or, have you forgotten I am human too? Why do you have to make me feel like I am some kinda robot who has got no feeling whatsoever? I should be able to express my hurts just the same way you should be able to express your feelings.
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Never Have I Ever Challenge
Hello guys, so I remember when I was young, there is this adage that says, "All work and no play makes Jack a dull boy". So today, I will be participating in the Never have I ever question challenge @zellypearl Invited me and few others to participate and yeah, the questions are very funny 🤣🤣🤣 , and then, I saw the challenge also from @Davinchysax blog and I decided to participate in the challenge.
Sit back as I answer, the never have I ever question.
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**- Never have I ever Googled my name.**
🤣🤣🤣, who hasn't done that. I don't think there is anyone or should I say any child who hasn't done that. For some people, my name sounded out of the world and still does. So many times, I have been asked my name and then the look they always give me because of my name is sure, not fun to see and at the end, I would be asked, what is the meaning of Evelyn and where are you from.
Funny enough my middle and last name are both Hebrew, so it is always difficult for people to understand where I am from and why I bear the name. So because of that, I can't even count how many times I have had to google my name just to be sure, in case I meet people who don't or never heard of the name.
Well, a million and one times, I have googled my name and gotten a piece of paper just to write the meaning of my name and where it was derived from. Don't laugh at me, because I am actually laughing at myself 🤣🤣🤣. So I have googled my name countless times.
**- Never have I ever had a crush on a teacher.**
🤷♀️, please, no one should look at me like a spoilt girl, just got attached to this particular teacher that is all and that was in my Primary School, my primary 6 I guess.
Teacher Abimbola was my knight in shining armor, although he was not my class teacher but I always ran to him for help anytime I never understood a particular subject. The teacher was not only intelligent but he was handsome as well and was the talk of our girls. Although he never paid attention to other girls but gave me his full attention anytime I run to him for help. I remember once he saved me from been beaten by my class teacher because I was making noise.
So, I have had a crush on a teacher.😉😊
**- Never have I ever been in a "friends with benefits" relationship.**
🤭🤭, I think I have done this once upon a time in my life 🤣🤣🤣, please don't start thinking about what you are about to think. It was fun though and the good thing is we both parted ways in a very mature way. We were not ready to give our love even though we knew there was chemistry but we were willing to do the friends with benefit shit and after a while, he went his own way, and I did 🤷♀️, no big deal I guess.
**- Never have I ever eaten something I dropped on the ground.**
Well, as long as it is mine, I think I have done that countless times most especially if I have got no extra money to buy it and if it is my favorite biscuits, sweet, or whatever, I can not bear the loss. So, I don't mind bending down to pick and eat. Anyone who does not like it, should walk up to me and buy for me.😏😏
**- Never have I ever dated a friend's sibling.**
Even though I have friends whose siblings are hot, I won't do that. It's a Never for me. I have had a crush on a few of my friend's siblings like seriously, who know like better things but never thought of dating them because it is not on my agenda. So, NEVER.
**- Never have I ever farted in an elevator with others in it.**
It is a never for me because I have not gone to a place that warrants me using an elevator but I have farted inside a church and to say that those at my back we're pregnant women who were the first to perceive the smell and ran out of the church is a funny one 🤣🤣🤣.
**- Never have I ever eaten street food.**
I have and I still do and I think I prefer most of them to this classy restaurant or eateries who think they cook better than anyone. Street food is delicious and cheap. So why wouldn't I eat something delicious and cheap and save my money for something else than to eat expensive food and not enjoy what I am eating?
**- Never have I ever eaten a spoonful of sugar and anything else.**
Who hasn't? Of course, I have and I still do. Although I do that once in a while now and secretly to avoid getting a spank. I think I have a bad toothache because of too much intake of sugar. I am even afraid of my tooth myself.
**- Never have I ever late to school.**
🤣🤣🤣🤣 My lateness became a part of me that many teachers got tired of flogging me because I became a regular late goer.
I was always late to school and most days, I prayed for rain to fall so I can give that as an excuse as to why I came to school late for that day. Like going to school became a habit, I usually entered class either after the first period into the second period or a minute before the first-period bell will be over 🤦♀️, don't ask me why because I can't tell why.
**- Never have I ever pretended to be sick when I wasn't.**
This question brought back old memories 🤣🤣🤣, I have thousands and one time did that even while I was in school just to avoid been flogged or avoid writing a test I did not read for just because I know the end of the test will end up landing me into bigger trouble.
I have pretended to be sick one of the days I knew it was my turn to darken the board and I didn't want to do that to avoid getting myself and my uniform dirty.
**- Never have I ever tried to hide my report card.**
It is a Never for me because I had no reason to do it even though I wasn't the best in class, I wasn't also a dullard. Even if I had plans of doing that during my school days, the kinda father I had would have dealt with me till I brought out the result. I was a bad child in other ways, but this wasn't included except I was ready to die. 😅😅
**- Never have I ever visited a haunted house.**
Like, NEVER, I want to have my sleep in peace, I don't even watch movies that are full of horror how much more houses that are haunted. What exactly am I going to look for there?
**- Never have I ever ridden on a school bus**
It is a big never for me even when I was asked by my dad to use that because my school was far away from my home, I never did that because I love using public transport and because I hate waking up early. I love walking with my classmate because of the fun and I hate the school bus naturally.
**- Never have I ever dated more than one person at the same time.**
Have I? I don't think I have because I hate the double dating shit. Why should someone engage in dating more than one person? I have never done that and I don't think I will ever do that.
**- Never have I ever walked up to a stranger and asked them out.**
Do I have the nerve to do that, I would prefer the ground to open up and swallow me than do that. So, it is a never for me.
**- Never have I ever played hard to get.**
Well, what is the fun there if I don't play that role. It's a role of come and gets me if you can. I don't think there is any lady that has never done that even when we know that at the end of the day, we will give in to the person but we still have to put that part, of course, I have done that.
**- Never have I ever accidentally worn a piece of clothing inside out.**
I have done that and I remember wearing my lingerie inside out without knowing until I came back from work and my mom saw me wearing it. I remember wearing my inner wear inside out and did not know even when my mom was telling me it was the wrong side, I told her it was the right side with so much boldness until I finally saw it and that was when I might have come back from church.
So, this is where I will be stopping for today and I would not mind going on and on with the question but for now, I drop my pen. Thanks to @zellypearl for the mention. It was fun. https://peakd.com/@zellypearl
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The surprise birthday
It was the end of summer and few days to her birthday, but Lily wasn't having it funny at all and the whole place was becoming bored.
She just wasn't happy about her soon 20th birthday that was coming up in five days, just because she had never anticipated that she would be celebrating her 20th birthday without her boyfriend Jordan.
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For some reason, Lily did not know, Jordan who was the love of her life no longer talked to her, he stopped calling her as he used to in the past two years of their relationship and always found excuses not to spend time with her like he used to.
This act from her boyfriend was frustrating Lily but any time Lily asked him what the problem was, he always made excuses saying he was busy at work and stressed out.
Lily knew there was something wrong because she was sure of Jordan's love for her the same way she was sure of her love for Jordan but she just couldn't tell where and when everything went down the lane that made Jordan avoid her like a plague.
She wanted to tell her parents about the problem going on in her relationship with Jordan but did not feel it was necessary to bother them with such issues but she wasn't taking it lightly as she was no longer eating like she used to and became withdrawn.
Although her friends had told her not to worry that it was just a normal stage in a relationship that two people go through and in no time, everything will be fine but Lily wasn't having it.
A day before her birthday, she came downstairs to see her parents making calls but she did not know why they were making calls and when she tried asking her, they told her whatever they were doing was in preparation for her birthday which would be coming up the next day.
She tried severally to talk them into letting her into their plans for her birthday, but they only told her it was a surprise. Even her friends were fully aware of this surprise birthday planned but none of them were willing to let in the secret.
She felt like talking to someone about her frustration and then the thought of Jordan creep into her mind but she couldn't call him as he has been intentionally avoiding her. She decided to go to her room and sleep off her worry.
She didn't quite remember when she was off but shewas suddenly woken by a happy birthday song played by her friends and parents. Lily was surprised and excited as well as she can not believe it was D-Day, the day she has been anticipating although not really as she was sure Jordan will not be with her to celebrate her birthday.
She thanked her family and friends and a beautiful blue satin long dress with a slit was placed on her bed for her to wear after taking her shower. She was surprised to see the dress as she could remember only telling Jordan about her love for that dress on a particular day they both went shopping.
She had a lot of questions but decided against asking as she did not want the thought of Jordan to spoil her day. She went into her bathroom, took her bath, dressed up, and peppered herself with makeup.
Lily looked so gorgeous in the dress, still admiring herself in the mirror, her friends came in and blindfolded her. She was taken to her backyard, although she was excited, she still could not understand what her friends and parents had planned.
They came to a halt and the blindfold was removed, being surprised was an understatement for Lily, as she was already flabbergasted and with drops of tears pouring down her cheeks as she stared at her boyfriend, Jordan on his knees in front of her with a ring proposing to her.
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At her parent's backyard was everyone close to her, with different cloth spread on the floor, different cookies and drinks for everyone who came to celebrate with her. She just wouldn't believe her parents, friends, and boyfriend had planned a picnic on her birthday in her parent's backyard.
A picnic with a boyfriend on bended knees proposing to her in her backyard was never what she had anticipated as a 20th birthday but she was shocked and relieved to have gotten more than what she asked for.
She accepted Jordan's proposal and she enjoyed every minute of her birthday.
Never put up with anybody!
I have heard stories of people who got into a relationship and their partner start talking down on them or throwing at them hate and demeaning speech and because they feel they won't get a better partner, they decide to put up with that partner until they end up committing suicide or being broken finally.
It is a pity that in a world filled with people, we still have thousands of people who still feel they did their partner a lot of good because their partner is either too fat or too slim and they think those set of people won't find anybody better them to marry or date them.
I was inspired by the @Kitkit story about Lily and decided to pen this down today. We all are beautiful the way we are most especially if we are conscious of our health. When we see people slim, they decide to be slim and if you see others fat, they decide to be fat, if you can't stand them, then, don't get close to them to the extent of throwing bad words at them.
Don't put up with anybody, never put up with anyone who does not see the good in you because they told you that you won't be able to get a better person and because you were told you are being managed.
It doesn't matter your size, color, race, you are beautiful, never feel you can't be a better person, or you will never see anyone who will love you the way you are because there is an adage that says, "One man's food is another man's poison".
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Learn to love yourself, learn to cherish yourself, learn to appreciate the you that you are, and learn to eat and exercise healthy. When you learn these tips, you won't put up with anybody just because you feel you are not good enough for that person and because you feel the person is actually doing you a favor by being with you.
If he or she doesn't like or love you that way, please open the door wide for them and ask them to take a walk out of your life because you are special and unique in your way and if he or she does not see that in you and it is their loss and not yours to bear.
To remain in an abusive relationship or marriage, putting up with the emotional trauma their words and actions are causing you, your life is too sweet and precious to let that happen to you when you could walk away and leave happily with yourself. You know life is too sweet to try to put up with someone else's bad words all in the name of love
You know what happens when you put up with people all in the name of love;
It t destroys your confidence
It brings about low self-esteem
It brings about emotional trauma
It leads to hating oneself
It leads to living a life filled with insecurity and hate towards a particular gender or people
It leads to depression
It leads to one committing suicide or nursing a thought of committing suicide.
It shortens our life span on earth
It leads to a life filled with sadness and unhappiness
In as much as we want to be love and be loved, staying in a relationship that leads to us putting up with a certain horrible attitude from our partner that will affect us emotionally or otherwise is not advised because we are all beautiful and unique in our way.
There is nothing wrong with us, so why put up with attitudes or words from our partners that are killing us, when we are supposed to be living our lives to the fullest because life is actually too short to be kept putting up with people who don't love us.
You should not be the one to bear the pain of a partner who can not look beyond your outward look and see the beautiful you, you should not let someone dictate our we are supposed to live our lives just because he or she is trying to protect their image, just for their selfish reasons without knowing how much harm and hurt they are causing us with their unhealthy and demeaning words.
We all were created beautifully and wonderfully in our way, we were created to live our lives to the best and not to put up with people or live life the way others dictate for us. We were not created to put up with people who don't see us the way we see ourselves.
Let love be, build yourself and I tell you, love will come at the right time and with the right person who will love and treat you like a queen or king just the way you need and deserve. Nobody, I mean, nobody is worthy to make you feel unloved and not good to be loved by others. You deserve to be happy and you deserve to be with the right person who makes you happy always and puts your happiness first.
You deserve to be with the person whose goal is to make you smile always and forever no matter what happens.
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No one is worth that, no one is worth your tear and pains, everyone deserves to be loved and treated just the way they want and feel they should be treated. So anyone isn't treating you the way you feel and want them to treat them, please gladly and boldly take a walk out of their lives, don't succumb to putting up with them because girl, you've got no time for that. There are thousands of people playing around just to take a walk with you or to be seen and acknowledged with you.
Stop coping and putting up with an unnecessary attitude from someone who doesn't deserve you.
Because they don't deserve you.
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Thank you for reading my blog, from your coach.
Let your success speak for you
Sitting down to think deeply about people and life, I realized just one thing, and that is nobody is interested in how you started, nobody is interested in the struggle, the storms, the rain, the sun, the mountains, the valley, and the muddy path you passed through to be where you are. Nobody cares to know if you wore just one pair of shoes, one pair of trousers or skirt, one pair of shorts or a pair of blouses while moving in the journey, they only care about the result you table before them.
They only care about how far you were able to withstand the heavy wave of the sea to get to your destination. No one, I mean no one cares about the story you are telling them or wish to tell them when they are yet to see the result with their own eyes, so why go about telling them, why go about telling them what there are actually not interested in, why go about wasting your energy telling them what you were not asked instead of using that same energy to work and let your success speak for you.
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Don't make too much noise about what you are doing and what is about to happen because nobody cares or perhaps, should I say, nobody is interested. Everyone is interested in what you can bring to the table and not in the words of your mouth.
Rich and successful men don't go about mentioning their names in one radio station or the other, they don't go about writing their names in school handouts or billboards but their success always makes the noise for them. Their achievement and success always make people look up to them and call out their names wherever they are found.
The truth is nobody cares to see the struggle, pain, and setbacks they had to go through and went through to be who they are and where they are. Even if they tell the story, it doesn't even stick in anybody's head for too long, what sticks is, they are successful at the end of the day.
So, don't be like a parrot who goes about saying what they are not asked because parrots talk way too much but can not fly high, they are only good at making noise and disturbing the peace of others,
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This set of people love bragging and saying things even when they are not asked to, they can never control their mouth. They say what is meant to be said and the things that aren't meant to be said or heard by others.
Be like an eagle who is always silent and they can only be known for their power and ability to fly higher than other birds. The eagles don't need to talk for someone to know that's an eagle but their ability and power to touch the sky allows people to recognize them once they are seen.
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The eagles take each step silently until they get to the heights they want to reach without making a single noise or attracting people to themselves because of their noise, but their power to move higher attracts people to themselves.
Let your victory and success speak for themselves, don't go about making the noise with your mouth when you are not even doing anything. No one likes to hear bragging, so don't go about bragging when you have nothing to show, don't go about talking about how great you because that should be the last thing you would want to do to yourself.
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Imagine going for a presentation in a company to get a contract from that company and fortunately for you, you realize that one of your clients which you worked for some time ago is part of the board of directors of that company and will be the one to choose if you are eligible for that contract.
Hmmm, I guess that's a hard one but won't be hard if the client can attest to your work or go against your work because you once did shabby work for him when your paths crossed. Now, here we go, you would not need to beg for the contract if your work did the talk while you just watch the contract handed to you in a platter of gold, but I bet you, you would start begging once you realized that you have only been making noise but did nothing.
When your clients brag about you, it shows how successful you are, and everyone is willing to listen but when you brag about yourself, nobody cares about what you have got to say about yourself. After all, nobody would want to speak ill about himself, everybody wants to talk big and good about themselves but don't be the one doing it all the time, let your success be the one doing it, while you watch from afar.
keep your head down, be silent, do what you've got to do, and let your hard work, do the talking for you. Don't be like the parrot who goes about making noise and saying things they are not asked but like the eagle who silently works his way up without shouting or making noise about it and they are known for their greatness once people see them.
They don't need to shout but their success speaks for them.
Keep Running ~ Don't Give Up Just Yet
There are several times life throw at us, what we least expected, there are thousands of times we've felt like giving up on the race and just walking through. There are times, we have dropped the baton and decided it is not best for us to keep holding because we feel we are no longer winning.
We have given up on our how's and dreams for a bright and better future. We have decided to rest even when the race is still on.
Those who run, aren't those who are quite good, they are those that have decided to keep running even when they are having a hard time breathing when it feels like their knees are giving up on them and they no longer have enough strength to continue.
With constant exercise even when he feels down, and with the great sight he has in winner, a runner becomes good not because he wants to be good, but because of the great future he has and has seen ahead of him, he becomes good even when people do not trust him to win and would do anything to stand out even if it means training under the rain and sun.
Many runners have given up and stopped running because of constant talk down at people, many runners have given up a run in because they feel they can never win. The truth is most times, running isn't to win, it is to exercise our strength.
We all want to win, so if at the point in time, we let go because we can not win, what then makes us a runner?
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keep on moving, keep on running, don give on yourself just yet, don't give up on life just yet, you've got so much strength and power within you to run as long as you want. Just go on, until you are sure it is the end of the line and there is someone at the other side to keep running.
Don't worry, start small and keep up the pace but never stop running no matter the obstacles you are facing. Those obstacles are there to stop you, but you shouldn't let the obstacles stop you from running and keeping up with the pace.
Why stop when you've got some many people looking up to you, why stop now when you've come this far, why stop now, when you've got people in the same line with you, waiting for you to reach the end of the line, so they also can reach there?
Why let down these people who are expecting you to come out strong, you aren't expected to stop, you are not expected to back off, you are not expected to let down the next line of people following after you, not to mention the generation following you behind.
I know how tired you are, I know how fatigue you are, I know how bad you want to relax, I know how bad you want to think you have been wasting your time and would love to take another lane, but hey, don't stop now, keep running, keep pushing, until you can see the other side of the line.
keep up the energy, keep up the bravery, keep running, keep pressing forward, put more strength on your knees, don't let them give away, don't let them feeble, because, we've got generations who depend on those knees.
So, keep running, don't give up just yet because sooner than you expected, you will get to the end of the line and will be victorious.
It is not too late to continue running but it is too late to stop running because you are not too far away from the winning line.
The Act Of Giving ~ It's Profitable
**Act 10:1-5**
There was a certain man in Caesarea called Cornelius, a centurion of the band called the Italian band,
A devout man, and one that feared God with all his house, which gave much alms to the people, and prayed to God always.
He saw in a vision evidently about the ninth hour of the day an angel of God coming into him and saying unto him, Cornelius.
And when he looked on him, he was afraid, and said, What is it, Lord? And he said unto him, Thy prayers and thine alms are come up for a memorial before God.
And now send men to Joppa, and call for one Simon, whose surname is Peter:
Giving is love. You are either giving time, attention, or resources. Our charity or act of giving enhances the chances of our prayer been answered. Giving is an act of service and should be done the right way and at the right time.
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Let us take out time to understand why it is necessary to give and why we should give wholeheartedly and not forcefully or grudgingly. Let us be International about giving somebody something.
Our prayers and charity work hand in hand. Our prayers to God can't take the place of our charity to people and there are places our charity will get, there are measures our charity will get to that our prayers can not and there are places our prayers can go but our charity won't.
We must not give when we have enough but we must learn to give until it becomes a part of us
If we do not learn to give in the small times, we will never learn to give when we have enough.
Don't be careless in your giving, but give profitably.
Don't give to be applauded or clapped for
Don't give to be worshipped
Don't give to receive. God isn't a Ponzi scheme, giving to people isn't a Ponzi scheme, so, when we are giving, we should learn to give wholeheartedly.
God is a God of motive before actions. He blesses our motives before our actions. He looks at our motives of giving, before blessing us.
He does not bless us because we gave, but He blesses us because of the motives behind our giving. As a Christian, it is advisable and needful that we learn the act of giving our we are been taught in the scripture by Jesus using an example of the woman who gave her last token.
Don't give grudgingly like Ananias and Sapphira. Why feeling bitter about giving when it is in your hand to decide what to give. Don't give at pleasure only. Give beyond your current level of finance, you open yourself up for something.
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The same way our prayers can pave the way and open doors for us and also go to places we can not go, the same way our charity or act of giving can open doors, paving the way and breakthrough, and also go to places we can not go on our behalf.
Our acts of giving and prayers work hand in hand. Don't forget to pray because you are giving and don't forget to give because you are praying. Pray for people whilst you give to others.
Learn to know when to pray and when to give to someone in need. When we give to people in need, we give them hope of a better tomorrow and we give them that assurance that God still got them in the plan no matter what may be their current situation.
Give sparingly and you shall receive abundantly. Don't wait until you have too much, a show or act of love can go a long in healing a broken heart.
Give happily even in the service of God and see Him work wonders in your life. Don't give because the church authority forced you to, or because you want to be tagged a good person, but give with the knowledge that it is God who sees the heart of a person and rewards them accordingly.
Reaching out to people no matter what it may be at the point they are in need is one of the best things we can do for ourselves and those people because it goes a long way to save them.
Call upon the name of the Lord
**PSALM 118.5**
I called upon the LORD in distress: the LORD answered me and set me in a large place.
Scripture says and God gave Him a name that is above every other name that at the mention of that name, every knee must bow, things on earth and things in heaven, every situation, every challenge, every trouble, every health issues, every difficult situations and pain we are going through must bow down and every tongue must confess that Jesus Christ is Lord.
In times when we find no reason to live and have lost hope in life, the name of the Lord is a strong tower to call upon and the sure thing is that He will always answer us no matter what.
Let us not allow what the people around us are saying to stop us from calling upon the name of the Lord in our distressing moment, let us not allow our challenges to deprive us of calling upon the name of the Lord, let us allow our health issues overwhelm us that we forget to acknowledge a name who can heal us in just a twinkle of an eye.
That name is the strong tower that the righteous run to and they are safe, that name is the name that the sick call upon and they are healed, that name is the name that the hopeless look up to, and their faces shine with so much hope and believe for the future.
Many times, all we have to do is call upon the name of the Lord like the woman with the issue of blood did. He knows our needs, He knows what we are faced with daily, He knows our health issues, but He needs us to take a bold step towards Him and not sit down waiting for manna from heaven to fall without us doing something to get what we want. It will not always happen that way. He will not always give us, He most times will want us to call upon His name for what we want, to ask, to knock, to seek, and find what our needs are.
Jesus Christ knew that there was a woman in that street who have been suffering from the issue of blood for years now, but He needed her to release that only Him can save her, He needed her to realize that those people she has been looking up to will never heal them because He created them all and He is the creator of everything and only when she acknowledges the Greater one will her infirmity be healed. Luckily for her, she was wise enough to realize this before He left her street.
Many of us are like this woman with the issue of blood, running helter and skelter, failing to realize that there is a name that when we call, every storm ceases and remains calm. All He needs from us is to call out for help, all he needs from us is to come out of our comfort zone, all he needs from us is to realize that not everything needs our money, most situations needs to hear a voice to speaking or crying to God, all he needs from us is our total submission and humility, acknowledging that only Him can save us.
David reckons that He cried out to God and He heard him and came to rescue him, no man has ever called upon the name of the Lord and has been failed. So the name of the Lord is the best and only name we should call upon when we are met with challenges because only Him can save.
Just maybe if the woman with the issue of blood had not come out of her comfort zone and taken a step to cry out, Jesus Christ would have passed the street and the woman won't have gotten her healing that day. Just maybe, who knows. Many times we just need to take the step first and cry out to the Lord for help even when He knows.
Let Him know we are tired, we are not liking the situation, we need a change and must get it. Moreover, Scripture says, right from the days of John the Baptist until now the kingdom of heaven has suffered violence, and the violent take it by force.
Many times, we just have to and need to keep on, calling on the name of the Lord, we just have to or need to keep on cry out to for His help and until we get what we want until the healing comes until the blessings come, we won't stop calling upon the name of the Lord.
It is only His name that can save us and help us in our distressing times, no other name works better than His name so as Christians, let us not forget no matter what happens to us never stop calling upon the name of the Lord.
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What will we be remembered for?
Just yesterday, I was watching a movie named second chance, and after watching the movie I was inspired to write about this today.
Like the topic implies, **"what we will be remembered for when we are gone?"**
And then I asked myself, Evelyn, when you are gone and no more, what would you be remembered for, what would your family remember you for and which it wasn't you that would have died, what would your siblings, friends, close relative, and neighbors remember you for when you are gone?
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This is a simple truth many of us know but refuse to accept, this is a simple truth many of us have refused to live and abide with.
Many of us are after the positions, fame, wealth, and the rest, which of course isn't wrong but when you acquire those things, what next?
Just yesterday, I was told about the well-known man of God by the name **Temitope Balogun Joshua**, A.K.A, **TB** Joshua who died after holding a program at Lagos on Saturday, in his hotel room and when I got to the church I heard a few of my church members say, they can not believe the man is dead.
I don't know why he is dead and what killed him, but my focus is what he was remembered for while he was alive, the good deeds he did, and the lives that were down and he was able to restore them by putting smiles on their faces.
The millions of people he fed, gave job opportunities, put smiles on their faces, and restored their broken lives and the numerous of them that can not be counted. That is what I am talking about here.
Many people are brought your way just so you can touch their lives positively, maybe financially, or by putting smiles on their faces but because of our selfish reasons and ambition, we refuse to pay hears to these people and just try to do what we call, "I am minding my business".
I know, many of us would say that is the right thing to do and yeah, we are not wrong. It is the right thing to do in a world as bad as this, but then, we were not brought into this world to **" mind just our business"**, we were also called to be a **"blessing to other people's lives, one way or the other"**.
I don't know about you, but for me, I want to be able to write in the sand of times, I want my name to be written down in the sands, in the blueprint of other people's lives that won't be forgotten any time soon for my deeds.
It takes a conscious effort to do that, and it might look difficult, but a little step at a time won't hurt, by touching one soul whether you are celebrated or not today, it would tell in your tomorrow.
You see, when we one day die, the fame, positions and wealth would be given to another person who would come after you, but you know what, your name and your deeds won't and can never be given to someone else no matter how the person is a resemblance to us.
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Like the adage that says, "**A good name is better than all the riches"**. I am sure, we all understand what that means.
Hey you, yeah you, accumulate all the wealth and riches, yes, do that because it is indeed necessary but don't forget to touch lives, as many as you can that comes your way and I bet, you won't regret you did that.
I know, most times, we might feel a little discourage that those people are not appreciating us, but you do not need to feel that way, because your name has already been written.
Sadly, death isn't a respecter of anybody, it comes at the time and picks whomever he sees, the man I mentioned is just a 57years old man who died, and yeah, I would say he lived long, even when people think he died too soon.
And I would say he lived long on earth by the number of lives he jas touched and reformed while he was alive. I am not a fan of anybody, and would not want to use this medium to praise anyone but would love to say, be the reason why someone out there or perhaps a family is smiling.
Let me ask you a quick question if something happens and by chance, you need someone to help you out of such situations, are you sure, you have someone you can reach out to and you are sure of the person helping you out?
Life is not all about you alone because you are not alone in this world, if you must move forward, you need people around you.
Don't forget what the question is, *"what we will be remembered for when we are gone?"**
Thank you for having time to read my blog. Your comments are greatly appreciated.
The arranged marriage
With so much excitement, Clara jumped out of her car screaming at the top of her voice and calling unto her parents but it took few minutes, for her to sense that their compound was filled with too many cars and quiet.
She stopped her screaming when this realization dawned on her and decided to enter the house to check what is wrong and why they were so many cars outside their home.
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When she stepped in, she was greeted with the eyes of people who seemed to be crying or have cried and we're all looking sober like someone had died. Lols... Just maybe someone has died but who would that be she thought within herself and she searched for answers in the eyes of these strangers in their home.
She did not know how long she stood in a daze until she felt a tap on her shoulder. Clara! When she turned to look at the person who was calling her, she was met with the most handsome man with a beautiful blue eye staring at her.
I am Micheal Junior and I am the first and only apparent heir to Mr. Micheal Crown, he extended his hands for a handshake as Clara tried to process all that he just said and what it meant.
She just couldn't understand why this man standing in her home and front of her was exhibiting so much arrogance and prise because he is the son of the most wealthy man in their city and what has that got to do with her and why he was in her home.
Clara did not answer as she turned and asked about her parents and who they were and what they were doing in her house.
Without wasting time, she started shouting for her mom, but her mom wasn't responding. She continued searching all the rooms to be sure that what she was thinking wasn't true but bit by bit, her subconscious could not deny the fact about what is happening.
Clara rushed stormed into the room with so much rage that the tension could be felt by all in the room.
What is happening and where are my parents, she asked?
After what felt like ages of silence, one of the men in the room stood up and addressed.
Clara, he said, your parents had an accident and now the doctors need 5million naira to operate on them but currently, your family's business is ruining a bankruptcy due to the debt your father has been owing to the bank, getting that amount of money is impossible t the time being.
So we thought within ourselves and concluded that the only way we can get that huge amount of money is by loaning money from one of the wealthy family but we've got to give your hand in marriage to their son as collateral.
Clara couldn't understand what they were saying as her head was already spinning and she was beginning to have a blurred sight. She saw the man talking but the only thing she got was she was been given to a man as a wife just to have her family. An arranged marriage! She gasps for air.
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Her mind was playing her prank she thought. She was only able to snap back when she felt a hand placed on her shoulder.
She knew she couldn't break down in front of these people as they would gladly help make her life miserable if she consents to their plan. So, she asked them who they are planning to marry her off to just so they could have the will to take her father's wealth.
With so much smirk and hatred in them, they pointed her to the man who had introduced himself and paraded himself immediately she walked into her home.
Clara was amazed at how this person could help her decide her life in just a space of an hour after her parent's accident but they would be so sorry with what they would be hearing.
So, Clara took a step forward as she began to smile, she walked up to where she had dropped her bag, got her phone, and made a call that changed all their smiling face to fear.
They never had an idea that Clara was actually in a relationship and was dating the President's son.
When Clara finished making the call she noticed a drop of sweat forming on their forehead and how they were fidgeting.
She gave a sweet smile as she walked up to the man who was arranged for her to marry and said with a mischievous glint, "I hope you don't mind if we proceed to get our marriage certificate right way because I wouldn't want to see my patents suffer and their company crumble to ashes because of lack of money.
She could sense the tension her call had created in the room and slowly, they began to leave the room without making any noise and begging with their eyes for forgiveness so they would not be punished by her fiance.
No one wants to be in the bad record of the President's son because he is known throughout the city as a terror and would not spare anyone who tries to harm him.
Clara with smiles and tears couldn't believe she was going to be one of those who would get into an arranged marriage.
The End!
Happy Birthday to an amazing person
When it comes to the month May, I am always happy and so excited because of the numerous people that I have crossed path with and because some of these people are not just acquaintances but they have become best of friends who I share the same birth month with.
This person may not be a best friend but since I came across her and her family, I am always amazed and perplexed at the blessing at which God has bestowed not only to her but to the rest of her siblings. I am not missing words here or neither am I trying to flatter somebody but I am being me and sincere.
I am a lady with few words but when I see the grace of God in the life of people, I appreciate God and celebrate them for that kinda grace. Of course, if you know these families, you will agree with what I am saying but without much ado, I want to use this alternative, to celebrate a beautiful, and amazing lady who is also on this platform.
I have stood from afar to see this lady's anger and I must confess it is what I call the world war, although she may not remember but those occasions kept me thinking what kinda person she really is. I have seen her in her happy moment and I must confess that it is, in fact, contagious and I have seen her in her down moments and it is not one to behold but all of these moments drew me closer to her.
She just in a twinkle of an eye had a keen interest in my brother and became his mother, 🤣🤣🤣 can you imagine🤷♀️🤷♀️. She is filled with so much wisdom, and information that I most times wonder where a girl of her age is getting all of that, but the truth isn't far-fetched. She is what I describe as a book monger and can retain as much information in that little head of hers.
But during those times, we became close, I loved her confidence and charisma, her goal spirit even at such a young age. She is what I call a goal-getter and a Moneymaking machine. She is industrious and was not ready to sit and wait for Daddy to give her some pocket money even when she knew they could provide for her. Girl, I love you for that 😍💋.
Although it has been a while we have been that close, during that period we were close, I loved her for who she was, and today, I decided to celebrate her birthday.
Happy Birthday to you **Edidiong Shammah Etim**, wishing you long life and prosperity.
Today, I celebrate you and I join the host of angels to say, may all your dreams come to pass, and may you fulfill your purpose in life.
As this day marks a new beginning for you, may a new phase of life be opened too, and may this new phase of life take you to the destination God has planned for you.
I hope you know that even though you are as dark in complexion as black color, you always shine wherever you step into, which is rare and that is more reason you should know you are not just special but peculiar and God is planned to use you for his work, I pray today that you will never quench your light or walk out of God's plan for your life.
You just have to continue been yourself and not forgetting that you have so much embedded inside of you, the world awaits your manifestation and your generation awaits the light that will brighten the dark tunnel.
I would have loved to call you babe but that name is for someone dear to my heart if you know, you know😎☺😉. So Sweetheart 😜, in all thy dealings, do not forget God at your youthful age. In as much as I know, you love to explore at your youthful age, pleas don't leave God, hold Him tight and I bet you, all that you wished to become and achieve in life will be at your foot within a twinkle of an eye.
I love you, your parents love and cherish you, your siblings admire and look up to you, but God's love is greater of them all.
Never you forget that.
Happy Birthday to you dear, and fruitful years ahead of you. Cheers To your new beginning 🥂.
Let your success make the noise
There is an adage that says, "An empty vessel makes the loudest noise". So it is with those who make noise while they are hustling. Their noise always ends up in vain because those who make these noises are those who are not doing anything.
We all have so many goals to achieve in life, We have dreams that we are working towards to achieve in life, the question now is, how do we work towards it? Do we work towards it by making noise about our plans or do we work towards it quietly hoping for success? I love this quote a lot because it is like a guide as to how we should do things in life.
We should let our success make the noise for us and not our hustle or plans in working progress. Most times, those plans fail and we have to re-strategies which makes people think we are not serious. Revealing our plans to people whether close or not isn’t the best because not everyone around us wants to hear them, and some of them that hear them, are not interested as they feel we won’t succeed.
People are always waiting and watching to see how that plan of ours is going to work for us. There is someone we should always make noise to about our hustle and that is God because he is the only one that can help us succeed in life. Every day, before I go out, I reveal my plans to Him and I am sure you know what the result will be when He is involved. I don’t have to tell people, they see it in my success and are wondering how it happened and when it all happened.
Don’t let people know every one of your plans and goals, don’t let people be able to predict your next line of action or next goal, always take them by surprise which is the best life for anyone who wants to succeed to leave. It is high time to start focusing on what we need to do and what needs to be done and then let our success later speak for us. When we are focused and can reach our goals today, we won't need to tell people, they will see it in our success.
So many people talk more than they should do, while most people tend to brag about what they will do but the funny part is those who talk too much, and those who brag never get to do what they talked about or bragged about. Those who tend to brag or talk too much always have nothing to show because their talk will not get them anywhere.
It is only our actions that show others that we are serious, it is only our action that will tell people how committed we are in succeeding, it is only in our actions that will let people know that we work and it is our action that will give birth to the success that people will know us for. Our noise can't do any of these, our noise can't give birth to success.
Success in life can only be achieved when we plunge to work, not when we go about making noise. Those who achieve lots of goals are those who are quiet but in their quietness, they are achieving remarkable things. Let us learn to hustle in silence and sooner or later our hustle will speak for us. We will see the result of our hustle.
Let me use an instance when a farmer plants seeds, we know we can't tell if the seed will grow or how many will grow especially maize. The farmer tends to them quietly and prays to God for his maize to grow. That is what we all should do, plant our hustle, and while waiting for it to sprout out, pray to God to bless our hustle and not make noise about what we are yet to see.
Nobody is interested in our hustle, they are interested in what comes out of our hustle. Those whose success speaks for today are those who silently work hard in life because they have God involved. Let your success speak for you and not your noise because your noise can become empty without actions or prove to show.
Noise-making is mostly done by people who have nothing to offer. Success is only possible with hard work and determination, not by empty words.
You can't be telling people about your plans, they will surely discourage you especially when they are the jealous type and they see that plan might work for you. We should only talk to God about our plans. He listens to those who pray for secrets and blesses them openly. Let your success speak to people for you.
We just have to keep hustling hard to make sure that we get to the goals that we set for ourselves.
And for the fact that we have God who is always willing to bless the work of our hands, then let's commit all to him because only through that can our success make the noise.
There are three things that I think we should always keep quiet about; **our plans, our relationship, and all our problems**.
We humans don't have the power to solve other human problems, why? Because we are limited, we are ordinary Flesh and bones and the only being that I know that has the power to solve all problems is God and when he does solve them, He makes sure he solves them to the end.
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Children are God's Heritage ~ Happy Children's Day
Children are a gift from God and our heritage. God packaged the children as a gift and gave them to their families. So every one of the children in this world is a gift to their family and none was born by mistake no matter the circumstances surrounding their birth.
Children are meant to be a joy givers. The world is supposed to have children and not be happy to have them because they are a gift. Children are the worlds' most valuable resources and it's best to hope for the children.
So, we decided to go out as a team and let them know how special they are and how they have got so much potentials in them.
Save generation next is a way of reaching out to the young ones and letting them know that no matter what they are going through in life, God loves them and got their back.
It is a way of making them know that they are gifts to the nation and not a tool of war to be used by the devil to destroy lives and people.
The desolation of our land and generation is in their hands and it begins from the children, so if we do not let them know how special they are, we will give rooms for the devil to compliment them and make use of her talents, potentials, and gifts which God has deposited in their lives to be used to save their generation.
It is time we're good and godly nations have to be birthed from the next generation and it needs to be a conscious step. So let us arose today and reach out to every young boy and girl in our society, showing them how important they are to the growth of our society. Let us arise and save our younger generations, so they don't fall victims to the devil's claws.
Children are the budding stars, the more you embrace them, the more they shine. So tell me what happens if they've got no one to embrace them? Their light dies and they would do anything to feel relevant in society.
Show some love to the girl or boy child you come across because you don't know what most of them are passing through in the hands of their parents or guardians. Some of them suffer neglect from their parents or guardian and all they need now is not the society calling them all sort of negative names but just one person telling them how beautiful/handsome, amazing, and smart they are will light up their world.
Most of them just need a hug to make them know they are special and can become whatever they wish to become in life no matter what or no matter their family background.
They are the leaders of tomorrow and if we don't let them know how special they are now, we will never have leaders of tomorrow and it will not only bring destruction to the nation but also jeopardy.
**PSALM 127:3**
Behold, children are a gift of the Lord,
The fruit of the womb is a reward.
Don't wait to repair the broken ones but start now to build the ones that are still growing. The would-be the reflection we would see how ourselves from tomorrow. Take a conscious step to love a child today and tomorrow you would be glad you took such a step.
I know what it means to be neglected by one's parents because I was once a child who was. Although I grew up with both parents I felt alone in the world which pushed me to the extent of having plans of becoming someone else but not who God wants me to become.
What we teach a child is what he or she would become in life. Even though we are out there saying let the child know he or she is loved, also discipline a child when there is a need for that.
Teach them what love is and tomorrow, they will be a product of love.
Happy Children's day to all the children across the world.
It turned out more than I Expected~My Birthday
I woke up feeling so happy and grateful because it was my birthday and yeah, I am a year older and I am wowed at how far I have gone and grown.
I did my morning prayer and took for long to stop myself from thanking my creator or has protected me thus far.
Well, it was my birthday and even though I had no plans of how I want to to be or how it should be celebrated, I knew it was going to be a fulfilled one.
Although, I had two or three persons who wanted to take me out, which were not my boyfriend as I actually do not have one. Don't be surprised, I am boyfriendless, so if you need a girlfriend, you can drop in your application letter 🤣🤣just joking anyway.
I got prepared pretty fast to leave the house because I wanted to do something meaningful and extraordinary for this birthday and so, I decided to follow my group of friends who attend the same student fellowship as me which we call FECA (Federation of Ex-College Students Association) to attend what we call #Save the generation young.
This was set as an avenue to reach out to young ones who are still in school, to let them know that they are valued and respected, and yeah, my team and I visited a school named United Basic Association and I must confess it was an interesting adventure.
We talked to them, counseled them, prayed for them, and finally ask them few questions that few of them were able to answer which resulted to give them a gift for answering the questions. We shared books for those who got the questions right and finally shared pens for every student in the class.
Yeah, wasn't it worth it? I was more than happy to have spent the beginning of my birthday reaching out to kids who are the leaders of tomorrow.
The whole thing came to an end and we finally dispatched to our home. I, on the other hand, did not plan to go home, so I decided to spend my day in the church with a few of my friends
Yeah, those guys made my day. My birthday wouldn't have been complete without them.
After a while, I followed this friend of mine to go and buy something and she surprised me with my first birthday gift. Wow, 😮, can you believe that? I had my first birthday gift for this year and I bet you, it was a beautiful one.
She bought me a shoe, a very beautiful shoe, I never expected it from her anyway, neither did I even think she would get me something for this year's birthday.
We came back and I decided to go over to her place to have some fun before I head back home to sleep. I got to her house and I was surprised by her brother who bought me chicken and a soft drink for my birthday and finally, I got to eat white rice and stew which was cooked by her mother for me specifically 😋😋😋
We took several pictures and at the end of the day, I went home with so much smile on my face that my day was an extraordinary one.
I enjoyed myself and yeah, my birthday turned out better than I had anticipated. I got calls and messages, prayers from friends and family, and it flattened my heart to know that I have people who care for me so much and love to see me happy always.
Be ready to grow in life ~ Growth is necessary for one's life
No child is given birth to and immediately he or she starts walking or talking, he or she needs to go through the process of growing from one stage to the other.
The growth they say is a process of increasing. We start from the infancy stage to early childhood, to middle childhood, and the adolescence stage.
Most times, we get to see kids that fall after attempting to walk and still won't give up, that's the challenge he just overcame. while some after falling are always afraid to take a step, watch them, they take longer in growing like other mates because of fear of falling.
So is life, In life, we can say we've grown up until we've passed through the rigorous level of growth we are meant to pass through.
Every growth level in life is meant to prepare us for the next phase of life and until we've been able to pass through such levels, we can't prove how much we've grown in life.
Growth isn't all about the physical attribute but also our intellectual, emotional, psychological, and otherwise.
Anyone who is not ready or willing to grow is not ready to achieve anything and he or she will remain ignorant about what life is all about.
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**TIPS ABOUT WHAT CAN MAKE US GROW IN LIFE**
**-Challenges**
For those of us who are always afraid of facing challenges in life, who shriek when we are faced we challenge, this is for you. Life isn't always fair and won't always bring to our plate what we want but will bring to us what we never expected but the truth is, for one to grow in life, one must be ready to face challenges. Our challenges not only build us but it is an eye-opener for us which gives us better experiences about life. It makes us understand life better. This is life, challenges will always come but when we stand strong and brave and face the challenges no matter what gives us a sense of confidence in things we are capable of doing.
**-Stretch Out**
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Don't get me wrong, I am not saying stretch out your hand and pick what does not belong to you, this is what I am saying, many of us are so comfortable with our current life that we find it difficult to move out of our comfort zone. Mehn! who wants to discomfort his or her body? I guess, I already know the answer, nobody. When toddlers are determined to get something, they will go to any extent like crawl-walking not minding if their body is paining them or will peel, if they feel tired, they will relax and after some time, they will go back, stretch their hands until they get what they want.
So it should be with us, leaving our comfort zone no matter what it takes, and reaching out to do the things that seem impossible in life makes a man grow. Anyone who isn't ready to leave his or her comfort zone can never grow in life. Rest, but don't stop there even if you fail, keep stretching out, just one day, you might get it. Nothing comes to you in your comfort zone, but when you stretch out, you get them
**-Be ready to take a good risk**
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The risk most times do not always end up in our favor but be ready to take a risk in life, and a good one at that. Most times, the risk is worth the trial. Don't push things away, stop leaving in fear of losing all. When you continue to leave in fear, you won't be able to do anything because you are already afraid of the outcome. I call it fear of the unknown. Being afraid of the unknown deprives us of the present happiness we are supposed to enjoy and the future happiness that we should have invested in. Risk-taking teaches us the do and don't, the norms, principles, and ways of life which help to build us as well.
Many people complain about so many things in life but the truth is, you never go to see them at their best. Opportunities never come knocking at their doors to meet them ready at all times, they always become ready only one opportunity come their way but that is not right. Any man who wants to grow and wants to take a conscious step in growing must be ready at all times to take risks but risk that is good.
Growth is one of the important tips for life and for anyone who wants to succeed in life either financially, business-wise, emotionally, academically, maritally, and otherwise.
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Meet Bingo, my funny and clingy pet
Hello all, how are you doing? I hope the weather is perfectly fine for you guys because isn't. The weather is extremely hot and disturbing badly.
Today, I will be introducing you guys to bingo, my pet, the funny and clingy pet who would not let me be but always clinging to me whenever she sees me.
I wasn't actually a lover of animals or pets perhaps because of the dangerous stories I have heard about pets most especially dogs until this beautiful dog came around. This dog came around late December in the year 2019 and ever since then, I have always found myself laughing whenever I see it.
As you can see in the above picture, she is sitting with her puppy. She gave birth to seven puppies in February but unfortunately, this is just the only puppy remaining, and ever since then, she jas been really aggressive with outsiders but always submissive whenever she sees me coming.
Even when I am returning from work and she sees me, she runs to me just like you have seen in the above picture. She always anticipates me and would begin to waggle her tail when she sees me. There are times when she is been aggressive with an outsider and then I walk in, she would stop barking and begin to run to me. If she is going into the bush and she hears me shout, she immediately runs back into the house.
**BINGO** is the name of the dog came, nobody had in mind of buying a dog, she keeps in as a surprise and when we saw her, we started contemplating on what name she should be called, when no one was able to come up with a nice name, we decided to name her **BINGO.**
She is very playful like most of us know how dogs can be playful and love me touching her like you are seen in this picture. Although, she became aggressive when she became pregnant and when she finally gave birth to her puppies.
Like I have said before, I wasn't a lover of pets and hated dogs more because I was afraid of their bites when Bingo came, she changed my mentality about pets and I would always go to her and begin to tinkle her that she became used to it.
So, whenever she sees me coming, she always anticipates a touch from me and would run to me and begin to roll around the floor waiting for me to touch her all over her body or play with her which I usually found funny and exciting and I would waste no time, I will begin to touch her and whenever I try to stop, she wouldn't let me stop even when I try to go out, she would run and stand in front of me, blocking me from moving, just so I can continue touching her ☺☺.
One of the days, when Bingo started been aggressive and would pursue anybody she comes in contact with most especially on the road, many people became afraid to pass whenever she is standing by the roadside.
One of the days, I went out to pour some dirty water away when I found a woman standing, she was refusing to move further until Bingo leaves the pace or she would turn back and use another route. I tried convincing the woman that Bingo won't harm her, but she said no, that she wasn't moving until Bingo leaves.
I had no option but to try my luck, but whenever I push her inside, she would always find a way to escape and run outside to sit at that same spot I pursued her away from. This continued for about 45minutes and even when I told the lady that bingo would not harm her, she said refused to move from her spot saying that one night, Bingo had barked and pursue her from moving and that she was scared, she doesn't want to be given by a dog.
I was able to understand the point at which the lady was speaking because I was once also afraid of dogs and always freaked out whenever I came close to any of them.
I did all I could to convince the woman and send Bingo inside but she wouldn't budge. She just sat still at one spot and concentrated on the road. It took me another thirty more minutes to be able to send her inside and that was when I began to touch her. Since she loved me touching her, she had to follow me in when I tried going into the house.
Apart from the bones of meat, Bingo's favorite food is garri mixed with soup, I wouldn't like to be disturbed when eating such kinda food. When she is eating and anyone tries to come near, she would begin to growl thinking the person is planning to take away her food.
That's all I think you should know for now about Bingo, just maybe, in my next article, I would write more about her.
Thank you for finding time to read my blog.
Hurry it's my birthday! Happy Birthday to Me.
Have you ever felt unconditional love from a friend even when you've wronged Him? if yes then I think all know how excited I am writing this.
God's wonderful love is beyond my imagination, I can't comprehend how and what would have been of me today if not for God's amazing love towards me even when I never deserved His love.
😂😂😂😂 God's love is more than gold, it is more than silver because it higher than my mind can know, deeper than the flow of the ocean, greater than the toss of my sin. Oh, Lord where can I hide from your love, I won't have been live till today if not for your Love. God's wonderful love has taken all my sins, guilt, and shame away. It has changed my life from deep within.
Your love is so amazing and divine. It has been my source of strength at a time when others left me, you never left, always in your arms whenever I grow tired, I receive strength from your arms.
God's wonderful love is so powerful that I can't stand it. How can I describe a mighty love like this, it is a privilege to be among the living.
Your love is bigger, greater than any other love human can profess to me. It is an unconditional love that I can not tell the depth of His love.
Lord, you have done more than I can comprehend, this your love, mercy, grace, goodness, and your unfinished work on calvary.
You have done enough for me because you have done it all even if you don't do anymore, I am more than grateful for all that you have done for me.
The owner of my life, since I have come to know you, all things are made possible in my life. Thank you for all that you have done.
This your love, is so sweeting me, and today, I stand to testify of your good works upon my life. See how you turned my life.
The one who makes all things beautiful, yesterday, today, forever, you never change, unchangeable God, unchangeable lover, you wiped my tears away and clothe me with a brand new cloth even when I never deserved it.
Look how you turned my life around because of your unconditional love and sacrifice to redeem me from the chains and shackles of hell. You've been faithful to me even most times, I never realized.
The lifter of my head resurrected Jesus who has shown me, love, even when I was still a sinner, every day of my life, I see how your love surrounds me. Goodness personified, Mighty man of valor who always turning tables in my favor.
Glorious God, I lay my crowns and worship you for all that you have done in my life and how far you have brought me. I praise your name, Omnipotent God for counting me worthy and privileged to be among the living.
The doer of all things, I appreciate your name. Your love is so overwhelming that I lack words to express than to say Thank you, Jesus.
Your sacrificial love is one of the reasons why I am alive to see today which is the 24th of May and my birthday.
My life is indeed a history that if I begin to write all my flaws and how your wonderful love overwhelmed all my imperfections and flaws and made me who I am today.
In different ways I have tasted of your love, Jesus you are too real, you are a great God. Time after time, I have tasted of your amazing love and I realize that of a true, you never change, the Chief Corner Stone, thank you.
I give you thanks for the melody in my heart, I give you thanks for all the things I have for they are all acquired through your grace upon my life. Thank you to my friends, and family. Thank you for the things you will do and the testimonies.
Happy Birthday to me😂😂😂.
Respect Everyone Regardless Of Their Background
Many times, I have kinda wondered how so many people take joy or derive joy in making other people sad or depressed.
So many youths today, derive excitement or joy in making the other young person feel dejected because he or she isn't from the same background or doesn't dress the way they do.
There is no need to make the other person feel less of a human or feel worthless because you feel they are not your spec.
Why laugh, ridicule, or make a mockery of others because you think all is well planned out for you and working out just fine the way you wish and not for them?
Why make other feel the world revolves just around you and you've got everything and everyone under your feet where you need them to be yo serve you, work for you and accept all your bidder?
Why? I ask once again Why?
Why look down on others with disdain, why look down on the dresses of others with disdain because you think yours is more expensive and worth the praise of others and not the other person?
Who says we all were not born with a silver spoon in our mouth? Who says we all do not have a bright future? Who lied to you that having all that you think you have now is what life is all about?
Good for you that you are opportune to go to the best school, college, and university just as you wanted but that never gave you the right to disrespect others who do not have that opportunity.
Who says we never dreamed to have the best life just like you are having now? Who says we never dreamed of having the best academic qualifications, serving our father's land as a National Youth Service Corp, working in the best establishment, getting married to the one we love, and starting our own family happily.
So what? So what? So what?
You know, because you have gone through all that and others who are your mate have doesn't give you the right to disrespect them.
Because they are still single without a relationship and you feel in the next coming months or year, nothing of such is going to happen to them doesn't leave them to be harmed using your claw.
Good for you that everything is working well for you, good that you are wearing the fanciest and expensive outfits, So what?
Good for you that you have all the money to get all that you wish now but hear me out now, Today doesn't count because there are still more years ahead of us all.
Stop making others feel less of themselves because you have all that you ever wanted, stop degrading others because you have been blessed with the perfect curve and beauty to go with. Stop humiliating others because you wear the most expensive outfits, stop laughing at others because you are opportune to be married while they are still single.
All may be going well with you today but you can not predict what will happen to the other person tomorrow. You don't know where and when you will be in need and need the help of those who felt you can do without but because of your behavior, you may never be able to get help from them because of how you treated them when they had nothing.
**STORY**
A story of a fat girl who wanted to be a gymnastic teacher but felt it is going to be an impossible accomplishment because of her body size but she was encouraged by her mother to go to the gym and learn all the basics. When she got there, her gymnastics teacher never liked her and always found a reason to humiliate her because of her body size.
After few weeks of trying to make her gymnastic teacher see reasons that she could be good in the class, she gave up and decided never to go back to the gym again but fortunately, her mother helped her to continue her gym classes by creating a space for her at home and giving her all the basic she will be needing by watching from the video.
Few months, the girl became the best and famous gymnastics teacher and was on the cover page of a magazine all thanks to her mother and her consistency.
She had her own space and began teaching people. Funny enough, her old teacher lost her space n her students came across the magazine and decided to meet her so they could work hand in hand.
Getting there, she was wowed to see how far this girl got going for herself and when she tried asking for a hand of partnership, she was rejected. She left in shame and guilt.
As shot as this story may look, it happens every day in our society and within ourselves. We look down and scorn others because of their looks, body size, clothes, and the rest that we can think of all in the name of we think we are better than them forgetting that today has ended and another will begin, we can't tell where that person will be and where we will meet.
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The world is too small of a place for you to throw your negative vibes at people's faces, it is too small of a place to accumulate enemies for oneself.
Thank God for that girl's mother who helped her child rise in such a situation like this but do we know or can we count thousands of people we have killed literally, can we count numbers of young souls that have gone down the drain because of depression.
Can we count the numbers of unused vessels and knowledge that commit suicide daily because of peer pressure? These things happen and more but we can only stop this if we learn to see people for who they are and learn to accept them just the way they are.
If you don't like them, walk out of them rather than humiliate them, if you decided to walk with them, then don't make them your servant or a tool to be used to satisfy your selfish craving for mockery but help them up and let them see the good in them.
You can not tell and don't know where you will meet them tomorrow and that is more reason why you should learn to respect everyone that comes your way. The world is small and just maybe you will need them tomorrow when you will need a hand to help you up.
Respect everyone regardless of their background or looks. Give out a helping hand to those who are in need and you know you can.
Thank you for reading through my article.
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Best friends Forever
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Jane wasn't always lucky with having friends in her college and fortunately, many bullies saw her as the weakly and found every reason to always pick on her.
No matter how much she tried to escape their sight and hide all day to avoid them bullying her, it never works.
Jane is the only daughter of her parents and her father works in a construction company.
Because of her father's kind of work, her family never stays in one place for too long.
Every new city they were transferred to, always awaits Jane because she never goes unnoticed from the sight of the bullies.
Jane was a beautiful girl with all the curves in the right places although she was young but had the perfect figure of a mature lady. She was a reserved girl and was very shy, never associated with anyone.
The reasons for her being bullied weren't far-fetched. It is either she was bullied by the girls of her school/class because they felt she was too beautiful and not only beautiful but got a big brain behind her beautiful body.
The girls felt she is causing their boyfriend to drool over her perfect body who she was bullied by the guys because she always refused their hand of relationship.
Once again, her father was transferred to California, and for some reasons, Jane had hope that this new place was going to be different from the six different cities her father had been transferred to, little did she know that it was no different and would be experiencing worst things than what she had experienced in the other cities.
Her enrollment was done even before they arrived because her parents did not want her to lack behind in her studies and was enrolled in one of the prestigious high schools in the city of California.
After the weekend was over, Jane was anxious about what her new city and her new high school have in store for her. Her mother tried to calm her down and let her know it wasn't a big deal for her. Jane knew it was a big deal because of her experience and just wish she could tell her parents about them but she did not want to make her fuss about them because they are now all in her past.
She got out of the car, bid her mother farewell, and just stared at the building of her new school. She did not know how long she had stood there but she came back to life after she felt something cold on her face.
She looked down on her self and that was when she realized that her uniform was dirty and that was because someone just splashed water on her. Expecting to hear sorry from the person who did this to her, she was surprised to hear a chuckle and from a chuckle into a burst of laughter.
Jane looked at where the laugh was coming from and she found out it was from a group of boys who just purposely splashed the water on her and was mockingly laughing at her.
She looked down at herself and felt so angry that not only was her faced drenched but her uniform was dirty because it was muddy water.
She just did not want to make her first day at school a bad one, so she left the place immediately. As she entered the hall, she became the center of attention as girls of her age began to laugh at her. Jane felt like the ground should open up and swallow her up but it was never going to happen. So she began to look for a place she can clean up herself.
Lucky enough she was able to maneuver her way into the toilet as she let the tears she had been holding for a while drop freely.
She cleaned herself up and decided to go out so she can rush back and look for her class but unfortunately, she tried opening the door only to find out that the door had been locked by someone.
She just didn't know why her first day was like this, she felt dejected and began to cry for help. She banged as hard as she could but it was obvious that there was no one around to help her out of the mess. She had no choice but to give up and stay there.
She did not know how long she had been in there but she began to hear clicks of shoes from outside and so she began banging once again.
Whoever was outside was the same person who had locked her up as they began to laugh at her plea for rescue. The door was finally opened to reveal the persons outside.
She just didn't believe it was the same boys who had splashed her in the mud water that had locked her up. She tried running out but was grasped by her hand tightly to stop her from running out of the toilet.
Fear gripped her as she was wondering what exactly were their plans as they began to give themselves a knowing look and smirked as well.
The door was locked by the boy at the end and one of the boys began to advance at her. She began to move back but unfortunately, there was nowhere to escape and just as he was about to raise his hands, the door was hit hard from the outside by someone which caused the door to break on its own.
The boys were all surprised and whoever it was caused the boys to shriek as they began to find a hiding place for themselves but unfortunately there was no place for them.
The person outside came in and gripped the first boy collar with his hand hitting his face on the wall. When the rest of the boys saw this, they were afraid and began to panic begging the bigger boy.
The boy's lip switched turning into a devious smile as he saw the boys who were once looking brave kneel before him to spare their life.
Jane was dumbstruck all this while watching the whole scene unfold before his very own eyes and couldn't believe just one boy could instill fear into four mighty boys.
She was so lost that she began to admire the boy and did not notice when all the boys in the toilet had scrap out of the toilet and she was left with this strange guy staring back at her.
He wasn't staring but he was talking to her but Jane was lost in his eyes that she thought he was staring at her.
Hey, he tapped her on the shoulder, can we leave this place now, if not, we will be stuck in here till tomorrow.
Jane cane back to her senses immediately and was forces to ask him, what the time was. With a smile on her face, he told her it was already the end of school and the gate would be locked soon.
She had to hurry with him out of the school and when they were out of the school gate, Jane thanked him for saving her life today after explaining what happened.
The boy who later told her his name was Henry told her he wasn't surprised because those particular boys were the notorious bully boys of their school and always made sure to bully newcomers.
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Just as they moved farther from the school, Jane could see her mother's car come to a stop and so she extended her hands out, "Best friends?", the boy was surprised as he hesitated for sometime when he finally understood what Jane was asking, he also caught her hands and replied, **"Best friends forever"**.
They walked hand in hand with smiles on their face to meet Jane's mother.
**Note:**
Good friends who are willing to stand by us and stand for us are rare and hard to find but when you find them, keep them forever.
The Betrayal
Happily, joy walked into her soon-to-be fiance who she has dated for the past two years only to be proposed to a few days ago.
She was just returning from her hometown where she went to see her mother inform her about the marriage proposal from Frank.
She had begged her supposed fiance to follow her but he had told her he had an important meeting to attend.
While Katherine who was Joy's friend had told her she was going out and would not come back till the next day.
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Joy had no option than to go see her mother alone to inform her about the marriage. Her meeting was indeed a bad omen as Joy's mother bluntly told her daughter that she does not like Frank and wasn't in support of her getting married to him.
Joy was unhappy with her mother's word and just couldn't understand why her mother never like Frank neither did she support their relationship from the beginning, the only man that cared, loved, and made her happy.
After several pleas to her mother and their daughter's mother heart to heart talk, Joy's mother had no option than to accept Frank if only that will make Joy happy.
Joy did not know what awaits her at home as she bid her mom farewell and drove happily to see her soon-to-be fiance.
She came down from her car and brought out the key to the house to open the door since Frank had told her he wouldn't be home but unexpectedly when she tried opening it, she found out the door was already open.
Fear gripped her heart and she opened the door and entered tiptoeing. She could hear voices coming from Frank's bedroom as she got closer.
Fortunately, the bedroom door was left slightly open that she could see whoever was inside without having to open the door.
She just couldn't understand what the person inside her fiance's bedroom was done with so many clothes on the floor, her curiosity got the best of her as she opened the door silently without making a noise and what she saw made tears slide down her face unconsciously.
Her best friend and her fiance on the same bed making out. She couldn't shout as she stood there in silence with tears dripping down her cheek uncontrollably.
Her friend was the first person to see her as she pushed frank away from her body and tries covering her body out of embarrassment. Frank did not understand why Katherine behaved the way she did and as he tried following her gaze, his eyes flashed with guilt when he saw who was in the room with them.
Frank didn't know what to do as he tried looking for his boxers to wear to cover up himself out of guilt. The both of them felt guilty as they started begging her for forgiveness but Joy could not tell why she stood there looking at them with a broken heart and pained eyes and lacked what to say. Pain surge through her heart as she tried to wrap her head around what she has just seen.
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She let out a breath she did not realize she has been holding since she came into the room and saw this disgusting sight.
She did not know how long she had stood there looking at her best friend and fiance begging her but when she got back to her senses, she did what her mind told her to do.
She twitched her lip into a smile as she took her finger the diamond engagement ring from Frank had been sitting and threw it at him. With one last look, she left the room and never turned even when she heard the both of them calling her name.
She ran out of the room and into her car without thinking of where to go, she started the engine car and drove off. Joy did not know where she was going but kept driving until she finally came to a halt in front of a building did she realize that she was looking at her home.
Joy's mother saw when her daughter's car came to a halt in front of the house and was wondering why she came back, looking through the window, she realized her daughter was not planning to come out of her car any time soon.
Her mother decided to come to check why she was taking longer than necessary to come out of her car, as she took a slow step towards the car, she could hear her daughter sobbing uncontrollably.
Joy saw her mom coming and ran out of her car to meet her. Running into her mom's arm, she cried out her eyes as she tried to explain to her mom what had happened.
Her mom felt sorry for her daughter as she just did not know what to say other than to let her pour out her heart. Joy felt lighted after crying for long and promised within her heart to make sure Frank and Katherine paid for their
She just could not understand what exactly she did to her best friend and soon-to-be husband of hers that would have made them betrayed her to this extent. The more she thought about it, the more she was making plans in her head on how to do a revenge mission.
Although she would have loved to tell her mom, considering who her mom is, she will make sure she does everything possible to change her mind from revenging.
As minutes clocked into hours, her heart grew cold and she could no longer put up an emotional face, she was like an iced still and watched her mom look worried not knowing what to do for her other than to comfort her.
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Foolish Crook
Grace, you know I love you right?
Mr. Davis asked Grace his secretary, after having a hot sex session with her in his office.
I don't know about that because you are yet to prove it.
How do you want me to prove it more? I shower you with gifts and take you to expensive places, what else do you want me to do? Mr. Davis asked Grace
Divorce your wife and marry me, Grace said
Oh my God, Grace! why would you think about such? I thought we've talked about this over and over again, I can't do that, I just want this to be between you and me. Whatever we do ends here, Mr. Davis said threateningly.
Mr. Davis, for one year now, you've been having an affair with me and you still want me to continue keeping it a secret?
Don't I have feelings, Grace asked. Don't you think I also want to have someone sleep by me and cuddle me when the night is cold? Don't you think I also want to have someone to wake up to?
Grace said to him angrily, " You have to divorce your wife or I will go tell her our sexual escapades in this office" Grace said this while trying to dress up and leave.
Mr. Davis, held her by the throat as he promised to kill her if she tries to expose him or blackmail him, but before they could finish arguing, someone bashes into the office unannounced.
Grace, you don't need to tell me because I already know about it now, said Mrs. Anita, Mr. Davis's wife.
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Better Learn or Be Ignorant!!!
Let me use this bible verse to explain what my topic means, **"I have set before you life and death, blessings and curses. Now choose life, so that you and your children may live"**. Permit me to rephrase the sentence, I have set before you wisdom and foolishness, riches and poverty. Now choose.
I can't be the one to choose for you, you are the one to make which choice will be good not only for you but for generations to come. Nobody will force us to choose to learn to grow wise or remain ignorant to become foolish in life, it is our choice to make.
I remember those days when we were still young, our parents will forcefully take us from the bed to bath us, most times, we will be crying while they are bath or brushing our teeth, forced to go to school, forced to do our assignments because we want to play but as we grow, they no longer force us, they only advice us because they believe we know what we are supposed to do.
The same goes with either learning or being ignorant, we decide within ourselves if we want to learn and get equipped for the future or if we want to be ignorant or remain ignorant. The choice is ours to make. In as much as, we are not forced to place food inside our mouth because we know it is the right place to put food, we can't as well be forced to learn because it is our choice.
We have all it takes, to be successful in life but we can only be successful if we decide to learn and not be ignorant. Life presents to us, learn and get wise which helps us accumulate wealth or remain ignorant and become foolish which makes us poor. The choice is ours to make. You know they say, "you can only force a horse to the river bank but you can't force the horse to drink the water.
Refuse to let the ignorant eat you up in this era where information is handy and can be gotten anywhere and anytime. It doesn't matter where you are or which country you are in.
Ignorance kills faster than we can tell and it is high time our generation refuse to let ignorance kill us when we can be learned and schooled anywhere and anytime.
Even in the comfort of our homes, we can know whatever we which to know as long as we are willing to and our heart is ready to accept it and take action towards learning.
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