Growth Is Optional.

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There are many lessons to learn in life and there are various ways by which we can learn them. We need to be intentional about our growth and I must say that many people don't want to grow intentionally, at least by the choices they make. Our choices determine what is important to us and we can't avoid lessons staring at us in the face whether we like it or not but it takes a heart ready to learn, grow and be better to see lessons masked up in various opportunities.

Many people mask up and their life will prove to you that you are to listen to what they are saying and not what they are doing. Some would only speak to you but you dare not follow their acts. They don't even live up to their own words. It is scary, to say the least.

We should seek to be better humans because growth cannot be forced upon anyone. Just as we would say in my language, you can force a donkey to the river but you cannot force the donkey to gulp down the water. You can teach and explain things to people but it is left to everyone how to grow.

Yesterday, I saw another aspect of humans. I am not utterly surprised but then you wouldn't at least expect that from the supposed men of God. They preach the word, teach the word and even tell others to follow the word yet they are not able to remove the specs in their own eyes.

My father in law is a Pastor so the funeral service was held in the Church. A lot of pastors came around and it was a packed filled service. Everything went well as we hoped and to God be the Glory for that. The after service was when these supposed men of God choose to embarrass themselves.

An offering was raised as thanksgiving which every one of us danced round to drop in the box. It's a funeral service and not an anniversary so I expected these men of God to understand that and not start expecting handouts. Of course, they were given food and prioritized because that's what mum would have done if she was alive. She was so good when it comes to being hospitable and we made sure everyone was well catered for.

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Fast forward to the end of the service when everyone left, I got a report that these men of God went to all the offerings raised that day with the thanksgiving offering and they shared it amongst themselves without informing my father in law who is the pastor of the Church. We had to go and meet dad yesterday night in his room to ask him if they gave him any money and he said they didn't. They didn't only come empty-handed but they also carted away with the offering raised during the burial and that's a new low for me.

I know they are used to receiving handouts from dad and he is more like a father to them all but there is a place for courtesy, decency and common sense. How do you come to such a gathering and all that could come into your head was about how to go home with more money? None of them had the decency to come and stay with him when they heard about the sad news but they deemed it fit to cart away with the money raised? It's shameful how people you expect so much from always end up disappointing. They have proved they are just human after all and they only preach the Word, they don't live by it.

A lot of people have sold their souls just because of money and would do just about anything to get more even to the detriment of their souls. There is more to life than losing your sense of worth all for money and that's why I said that growth is optional. Age doesn't confer wisdom because it takes an intentional attitude for us to grow in life. It's even more shocking because these so-called men of God were there when the wonderful messaged was preached by another pastor on Wednesday. You would expect them to at least pick some lessons from that lovely message but as it shows, they only selected what they wanted to hear and filtered the rest away.

As humans, we need to try and be better. We need to be of help to one another and set our priorities right. There is no problem with wanting money, who doesn't? The main issue is we need to understand the occasion before we allow our greed to push us. Someone once said that the world has enough of everything we need but it can't be enough due to the greed that most people possess. A lot of time we blame the government and we forget to look deep inside to see where we need to adjust as well. You might be famous and that doesn't mean you are relevant because growth is intentional.

A lot is expected of us as humans and in as much as I am a firm believer that we should never live our lives to impress anyone, I feel being better daily should be a driving force for everyone. What's the point in loving when we are causing them so much pain that could have been avoided? We all make mistakes and it takes a willing heart to re-evaluate his ways and then make adjustments.

I also want to use this medium to appreciate everyone for their show of support in words and in-kind regarding how stressful and emotionally draining this week has been for me. You all made it easier and I am highly indebted to you all. God bless your hearts and I should be back fully in just a matter of days. I would be heading back home today anyway so I will try and get some rest before I kick things back into full gear. Thank you so much for your help at all times, I am not taking it for granted.

Thank you for your time.

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Es triste ver todo lo que Hasen las personas por dinero. Inclusive llegan hasta matar. Y ojo hay muchos que se Hasen los santos pero dentro llevan un infierno. Por ende miremos bien y alejemonos de estas personas.

Feliz dΓ­a mi bello amigo saludos un fuerte abrazo y que tengas un buen domingo. Te saludo desde Cuba

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3 years ago

Muchas gracias por esto. Tienes razΓ³n, tenemos que alejarnos de ellos. Es un placer conocerte, amigo.

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3 years ago

That's saddening, my friend. How would they even lead people when they themselves have no shame... ahh, sorry. I should not vent. But yes, many supposedly men of God do the opposite of what they preach and it is really low. It makes us question their real intentions.

I wish you a great day to feel better and for the week's stress to leave you and your family away...

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3 years ago

Thank you so much, my friend and yes, you have the right to vent. Their actions showed they had other motives for coming.

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3 years ago

Obviously they did... take a good rest my friend

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3 years ago

Thank you so much, my friend

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3 years ago

Oh, the things that people can do for money. This is so sad to know.. they are people with knowledge of God's word already. :(

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3 years ago

Exactly...they know better so I expected them to do better.

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3 years ago

Unfortunately many hide behind religion to achieve all kinds of goals. I do not like to talk about religion, my grandmother is a Christian, and since I was a child I have read the Bible, although later I do not practice it, I respect those who do it very much. Incredible what I just read my friend. Many think only about money, and this is shameful. When you see people who love God, you see wisdom, you see humanity, you see love, and suddenly expecting these kinds of actions make us look at them with different eyes. But although they are not the only ones, they are not all like that. There are good people who are not greedy, and do not put money above the suffering of others. It hurts me to think that there are such people. Very hard this article.

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3 years ago

It's painful to see men of God lose morals all because of money.

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I don't know what those men are thinking but I think that's wrong. You're in there to attend masses and also there's a funeral people should know that we must have offering for it. But it's okay If we don't, however taking the money Is big NO NO. We kept on blaming anyone crytizizing everyone yet we can't see our flaws in life. Those kind of men of God are not there to fill their spirit but their wallet

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3 years ago

Sadly...they came only for the money and a lot of questions need to be asked if they were actually called by God.

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3 years ago

We don't want to be judgemental here but what they're doing is something not good and I wouldn't blame you if you question their real intentions in your mind

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3 years ago

I totally understand you.

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3 years ago

That was a low blow. They must have the decency to at least inform the pastor incharge first and let him do what was necessary to be done with the offering. So the main reason for their attendance was the offering itself. That was sad tho.

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3 years ago

That was exactly why they came... Not for commiserating but for what they would get. It's sad.

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3 years ago

I'm not surprised at the display of actions. Most ministers are indirectly telling us with their way of life that we should follow what they preach rather than what they do but in the other way round they are supposed to live by exam. Because the disciples were called Christians because they behave like the Christ they have seen. God will help us all to be doers of his word and not hearers only.

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3 years ago

Thank you so much for this. They don't even understand what they are preaching or they are allowing the flesh to use them over what the spirit would have expected.

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3 years ago

People can dissapoint you like that, hence i have learned to expect the worst from people, while hoping for the best. That way, nothing surprises you.

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3 years ago

Sadly...but that's so true.

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3 years ago

That's pure disrespect and disregard, the fact that they are men of God makes it more distasteful. But humans will always be humans

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3 years ago

Very distasteful... I was shocked.

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3 years ago

Wow, look at men of God. I wouldn't want to say anything ill against them but most of the people out there are called by their belly instead of the holy spirit.

It is a shameful act, I pray grandpa find the strength to live happily in the absence of mama. He shouldn't be left to be lonely, please.

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3 years ago

I was shocked because I didn't expect they would act in such a despicable manner but then, they just showed what motivates them in ministry. It's sad.

Yes...dad won't be going home for a long time to come now and we have a lot of people around him here too. I pray God keep him in good shape and sound mind as well.

Thank you so much, brother.

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3 years ago

This is so true. I encountered these type of people in Church and that's the reason why I'm no longer attending mass. I believe in God but not the so called preacher in churches.

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3 years ago

It's sad because their actions are driving people away.

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That is really disappointing. How come the so-called men of God become so greedy. Why do they have the guts of doing so. They have just shown their true colors that they are not really deeply rooted in faith to the Lord.

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3 years ago

That's so true... They are not following even what they are preaching. It's sad.

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I've seen a lot in life hence I'm not exactly surprised by the actions of these so called pastors or whatchamacallit. Reasons I'm lacking religious sentiments and deal with logic only. May god forgive me...🀣🀣

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3 years ago

Hahahaha. It's shameful because they have no clue that their actions are responsible for some people's lack of faith.

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3 years ago

Wow - those actions were despicable and unbecoming of a pastor. I was expecting talking about the dead unfavorably but not grifting. Pastors and teachers of God's word should know above others that God will supply their need not their greed. Hopefully the Holy Spirit will convict them of their sin and they will repent and return the money.

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3 years ago

Thank you so much. Absolutely... God will supply our needs not our greed. That hit me. Love that. These men are shameless and I doubt they would do the right thing by returning it. It's sad.

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3 years ago

As an evangelist and teacher of God's word I too have to be careful of what I say and do, when not to speak, and when to speak. Paul states that not many should be teachers because we will be judged accordingly (not for sin - but by our works). Therefore, I do my best by the leading of the Holy Spirit to teach God's word and follow the examples Jesus set, remain obedient and persevere in the faith.

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3 years ago

God bless your heart.

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3 years ago

And to think these people are supposed to correct the wrongs in our society. Its indeed shameful. I see why people that say do what is right because you want to not because others are doing it.

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3 years ago

Exactly... And they have people they are leading and preaching to and here they are, perpetuating wrongs.

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3 years ago

i genuinely felt so bad for your father, he should not be treated that way... :/

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3 years ago

He wasn't even bothered because he said that's how those people are. It's disappointing.

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3 years ago

awww, hug your father once for us, such a kind man...

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3 years ago

Sure will ☺️😊

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3 years ago

My elders always say that we should never forget the root cause of our upbringing and success. You just reminded me that. Thank you.

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3 years ago

Thank you ☺️

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3 years ago

Sometimes, a look back is needed to see how far we’ve come. It's fuel to open the next chapter to see how far we'll go. Another step in the direction of becoming who we were always meant to be. Wishing you a great new month, Ola!

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Wise words, my friend. Happy new month. πŸ€—πŸ€—πŸ€—

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3 years ago

Thank you, my friend :)

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3 years ago

How are you Ola? I hope you are doing fine now..I know you are 😁 because you are optimistic and strong.

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You are so sweet, Janey. Yes, I am fine and doing well. Everything will be fine, I believe. Thank you so much Janeyyyyyyyyy πŸ€—β˜ΊοΈπŸ˜ŠπŸ˜

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Always welcome uncle 🀭

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