Fool Once, Not Anymore.

Topic: Explain a situation in which you were involved when you came out looking foolish. What happened, why, and what did you learn.

This question was asked by Galenkp on Hive and I did justice to the question. Here is my response also for my read cash friends. It's a little embarrassing but an experience I learned a huge deal from. I know a lot would laugh at me in the comment section but I have braced up for it haha. I am sharing it as I shared it so I won't take anything away from the story.

This happened many years ago in 2012 to be precise when I was working in another state. I used to work as a "Chemist" as they called it in a steel company in Ogun State, Nigeria. I was responsible for testing the samples they produce to determine the viability and acceptability of each iron melted. You can also call me the quality control manager.

I had no time for most things because, at a point, they loved the quality work that I do and decided to put me permanently on night duty because the guy that I interchange with had the history of always sleeping on night duty without checking the quality of the irons on time which led to many high carbon products being produced. The day they moved me to night duty was when my ordeal and foolishness started 🙈.

I was young, curious and wanted to have fun to make up for my distorted night sleep since I've been on a permanent night shift. I've had my heart broken and I thought to myself, let me just have fun too...no commitment. So, there was this nice-looking lady in my area then. I got to know her through my cousin's girlfriend. They were friends. I shared the apartment with my cousin.

I asked this girl out and I told my cousin's girlfriend to also speak with her and we vibed so well. We started seeing each other and she would always come over in the afternoon when my cousin is at work during his day shift. The affair continued until I saw another fine-looking lady around the same area. I was just being friends with her but she showed interest and asked me to take it to another level with her. Foolishly, I agreed because I didn't want to turn her down or hurt her feelings, plus I felt, they both won't know...even though they were in the same area but on separate streets.

I took advantage of the fact that they were both not friends even though they knew each other. My cousin's girlfriend was friends with both but both of them weren't friends with each other. I was cruising, dating the two of them together. It went on for months. I got lucky one day when the first girl came over in the afternoon. I just woke up from my night shift sleep. She came, spent 2 hours and we... Erm...well... Do I need to spell it out? Haha. You get it... We had it and it was intense and fun...

She left I think around 4 pm because I told her I needed to sleep a little more before going to work around 6:45 pm. My shift was slated for 7 pm daily and it takes me just 5 minutes to walk to the company. She left and the moment she left was when the second girl knocked and came in. She came with food, I ate and she wanted her own action too. Ah. Her food gave me energy though and we were at it again for another 2 hours as well. She left and I couldn't sleep anymore. I had my bath and was dangling on my way to work. I remembered I bought malt and milk that evening on my way.

My luck ran out after my cousin's girlfriend decided to reconcile her two friends (my two girlfriends) I am glad she did because that lifestyle wasn't healthy for me. They made up and decided to tell each other what was new in their lives and both mentioned me as their boyfriend. I noticed I heard a knock on the door and I was sleeping that day. My cousin was at work too. I opened the door and comes the first girl...then my cousin's girlfriend...then the second girl. My heart sank and I just sat there listening to them without saying a word. I knew I deserved it and if I wasn't ready I shouldn't have played with two hearts. You know when you sit down and accepted your fate that it's completely over. Well... Who never fu*k up hands in the air... No hands? Exactly.

They all left after I had been bashed with words but later on, myself and the first girl reconciled and we started dating fully until we hit the rock again many months after but this time around it wasn't another girl, just a difference in opinions and choices. We didn't know we had those differences because every time we were together we were getting busy with sex rather than getting to know each other more. That's the mistake most people make when they date. They engage in intimacy alone without taking time to know whether they are compatible together so they end up wasting each other's time...which could have been avoided if they got to know earlier.

Ever since then I've learnt never to stroke the fire if I am not ready to stand the heat. Learn to respect the feelings of others and it's not all about having fun but being considerate of the feelings of others too. I stopped playing and waited it out for someone serious to come along...yes, a few crashed too but at least it wasn't on my part and that, I can live with. If you can't withstand the heat just leave the kitchen.

Except you both have an agreement on not being exclusive, never play with people's emotions or feelings. It takes a lot for some people to open up their hearts and love and actions like that would always make it worse for those who decided to love one more time. It takes courage to love so when you are not on the same page with someone, let them know so they can move on. Don't string them along...

Thank you for your time.

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