Build That Area of Strength.

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We all have our area of strength as much as most people want to think they are not good at anything. We have that one thing we are good at even though many others are getting dragged in other directions. As most Nigerians would have known too, we don't often get allowed to be who we want to be because you have your area of strength while your parents think they know better. I am not blaming them because most are doing it with the future in mind as they want you to be able to stand neck to neck with your peers while others see it as a way of bragging to their friends that they raised a fine young man or a lovely beautiful lady who is into this and that.

I watched this series, Sex Education which came highly recommended but trust me, I don't think I really liked that movie. It's bad for my mental state 🤣🤣😂🤣🤣😂. I don't know what made someone recommend this movie to me and it was more than I bargained for actually. I am not recommending this movie but watch it at your own risk 😂😂🤣🤣 and not advisable if you are single or if you lacked a bit of self-control, please.

There was this guy who thought he liked swimming until the pressure to always do better got to him. He got respect from his peers for his amazing skill but not so much from his mum. I wouldn't say the mother didn't appreciate him but she never take any time to celebrate whatever he has achieved before moving on to the next one. The boy would be feeling fly only to be humbled when his mum would tell him to be better next time and that's not a bad thing because she is pushing him harder to set the bar high but it only highlighted to the boy that he was simply doing it for his mum, not for him.

Most parents feel pressured to mirror their lives on their children by making them do what they missed out on so they want to live their lives through their children. As cute as that might sound I think it is unhealthy because your child shouldn't have to throw away his life because you are living in guilt of not doing what you should have done back in the day. How insensitive it would be of me when I have a son or if I want to force my daughter to go into football because my dad deprived me of playing football professionally.

I've said it many times and would say it all over again, we need to stop asking children what they want to be in life. They don't need to fit into a system because if we noticed most children who tells you they would love to be a lawyer or a doctor gets the harsh reality and after secondary school, they go with whatever is available and you won't hear them say they want to be a lawyer or a doctor anymore. We should rather ask children what problem they want to solve in the world and this might help guide them properly while we are also on the lookout for their area of strength.

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I have my area of strengths; football, running, writing, counselling and being a strategic thinker. Some have more than one and some have maybe just one and that's totally fine too. This is what we need to focus on; building our area of strength and if there is any other talent we wish we have then we can make out time for that too and learn it but we need to stop trying to fit into the world's system by doing what we don't like when we are wasting away our talents. Ask yourself, "What am I good at?" If you don't have an answer for it now, be on the lookout and see the things you do effortlessly that others struggle to do. I used to think everyone loves to write until I met guys in my first year at the University who couldn't even compose a text and would give me to help them type a text to their girlfriends.

Stop trying to do what others are doing but try to do what's on your inside. I don't know how many of you have watched this movie called "Blind Side". It came out in 2009 and it was an emotional movie for me. I think I have written about it sometimes, maybe not here but in my other blogs. This guy wasn't so good with reading and let me say education but those who adopted him noticed that he would do anything to protect the ones he loves. They noticed that his protective instinct skill is ranked 98% which is freaking high and that was all the foster parents needed to help him. They enrolled him into American football and boy! He was so good at it. The movie is actually a true-life story and I am having goosebumps as I am typing this... It was an emotional movie and I hardly get that emotional with movies. This is a movie I will beat my chest and recommend to you all.

Let me add that they didn't just focus on his area of strength but they also got him help in the area of his weakness; academics. We don't need to focus only on our area of strength while not working on our weaknesses, we can be better when we do both together.

We need to stop following a circle while what we need in life has ready been embedded in us. Imagine Bill Gates and all the people we have come to admire; Amazon and the likes doing something different to what we have known them to be? Probably someone else would have come up with it but it wouldn't be their names on it anymore and that is how most people miss their moments in life by not working on their area of strength.

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