Bizarre Relationship.

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I didn't know I would be able to come up with something to write today due to the last post I shared. I didn't even know I would be able to chunk out something worthy to read but when the idea for this post came, I couldn't resist it. This is part of me being strong because trust me, I've been through the worst things and still came out fighting. If you throw me to the wolves you can beat your chest because I will come back leading the pack of them.

Many years ago, I heard a bizarre relationship story that I still find hard to believe but due to the authenticity of where it came from, there was no reason for him to sugarcoat it and he is a credible person too. Some people intentionally cause problems for themselves and some others, their parents bring troubles on them. When others want to act irrationally with you, you should be able to stand your ground especially when your heart is also at stake there.

A young man showed interest in dating this young lady and they got serious. She introduced him to the family and everyone got to know him and liked him. Few months down the line, this lady travelled out of the country and it wasn't even up to 6 months I think, this young man started asking out the younger sister to his girlfriend that travelled out of the country. The story is not shocking enough just yet.

So, he started dating the younger sister even though I still don't know what happened between him and the elder sister that travelled. Maybe she told him they can't be together or maybe he thought the lady would go with another person, I really can't wrap my head around it. He went to the parents again and told them he wanted to marry the younger sister. Shockingly, I heard the parents agreed to it and I don't know what he must have told them for them to give the younger sister to him. Either he must have given them a lot of money or he was responsible for the one that travelled abroad or he must have cooked up something because I am not sure any parent should agree to that arrangement. Maybe they were trying to keep him in the family to compensate him for whatever must have happened between the one that travelled abroad and him.

He started dating the younger sister and it wasn't up to a year (not sure about the timeline) and he went back to the parents to say he can't continue with the younger sister anymore and he wishes to go back to the elder sister that travelled abroad. That was the last I heard of it and seeing how the family accepted his bizarre proposition in the first place, I won't be shocked if they agree to this second arrangement again.

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It begs a lot of questions as to why he left the lady at first? She found someone else and then dumped him? Did he go after the sister to spite the elder sister? He decided to go back to the elder sister because the relationship that sister dumped him for crashed and he wanted to slot back into her life again? What will now happen to the younger sister? How will the sisters relate to each other? Where is the moral compass of the parents? How will they be viewed and trusted again? Is this guy emotionally ready to handle things maturely?

I have a whole lot of questions which sadly, I might never get an answer to. I can't make sense out of this situation and a lot of emotions were toyed with in the process.

I don't think anyone deserves to be with such a man - someone who can't make up his mind and would act as childish as dating the younger sister just to spite the elder sister. He is oblivious to the fact that they are sisters but they would have different characters and he is not going back to the elder sister because of the difference in the character of the younger sister but simply because he is a man who can't make up his mind. He just wants any lady and for someone like him, he doesn't even mind the sister to the lady he once dated.

He needs to be asked what he wanted. He is 'lucky' enough to have his bizarre offer accepted at first and I don't think I would even dare go with him the second time if I were his brother. I don't like such embarrassing and shameful engagement. I know some countries even some parts of Nigeria can accept this kind of arrangement but it doesn't speak so well of the man involved. He is capable of turning two sisters against each other and even ruining their homes because you would naturally see parents taking the side of one child or the other. He is just being controlled by the direction his libido was leading him.

How would you think the younger sister would feel when let's assume the elder sister takes him back? How would she feel as one of the chief bridesmaids? Imagine the scenario; the man getting married to the elder sister and the younger sister happened to be the ex-girlfriend. This guy clearly needs to go and fix himself and distant himself from this family because he has caused enough damage already.

This is why knowing who to date is important because you might think someone is matured enough by physical appearance but you'd be shocked at their lack of morals and even decency. Take your time and you have the right to know a man's mental capacity before entrusting your heart into his care. You should love yourself enough to not trade decency for good looks because we just have some guys too who are interested in you for what they stand to gain and would do just about anything to achieve that.

Thank you for your time.