How to get revenge?
Tragic crime events are increasingly prevalent in society. Not only events that endanger the rights of others materially, physically and psychologically. This crime also often endangers a person's life. There is quite a lot of news about criminal cases which are motivated by various motives, both logical and not. Then why does someone do that? One reason is the desire for revenge.
Revenge is the act of injuring or hurting another person because of someone's injury or mistake; the desire to make a levy.
When we are hurt, we will naturally respond by defending ourselves. However, it does not stop there we also have a tendency to counterattack what and who attacks / hurts us. Although sometimes this feeling of revenge is not recognized by us, but revenge is one of the intense feelings that arise in every human being.
Instead of helping us recover from illness and get on with life, scientific studies say retaliation actually makes us unhappy. Research on revenge studies shows that the picture of revenge is a little more complicated.
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Not just feeling satisfied after we take revenge on others. However, when we take revenge on others, the fact is we often feel worse afterwards even though at that moment we think we will feel better.
As humans, revenge cannot cross our minds. But what about our "revenge"?
Acknowledge Anger
Often acts of revenge come from neglected negative emotions, including anger. Anger that is not accepted will tend to blind the mind. Anger weakens our ability to solve problems and also balanced judgment. This anger makes us narrow-minded, rigid and aggressive.
Therefore, taking revenge well starts from within, namely by realizing, acknowledging and accepting the anger that is present when we are hurt. We can start by being aware of the physical sensations that arise when an event hurts us. Then we can slowly accept all the negative feelings and emotions that arise so that we can make peace with ourselves, others and reality. That way, we tend to no longer think about how people who have hurt us feel the same pain as we feel when injured.
Thinking Balanced
There is no revenge that will give birth to justice. Justice has an element of honor and virtue, while revenge is a boomerang that is based on the ego to be selfish and detrimental to others. Revenge will make life like that.
We are busy how to get revenge. We are busy remembering the words that hurt us. We are busy thinking about how people who hurt us can get hurt. We are really in a hurry.
This paradigm will help us to be critical and balanced in thinking and deciding whether we will continue to hurt those who have hurt us or not. With the justice paradigm relating to impartiality and upholding equality, revenge is not a fair decision for ourselves or others.
Conversely, with balanced thinking and as objective as possible, our decisions and choices will also be far from the influence of emotions. We can start by writing down the effects of what will happen, if we reply to others. Will doing this have a positive impact on us and those around us? If not, then obviously it's not necessary.
Choose to Forgive
Revenge is a decision of anger, especially one that is not realized and accepted. Therefore, it's good to try to open your heart to forgive. Forgiveness is certainly difficult but it provides many benefits for us. Forgiveness can make us reduce the motivation to take revenge, reduce the motivation to avoid those who have hurt us. As a result, we will be encouraged to devise good deeds, even though we know someone has hurt us.
Revenge will only make us validate our qualities as those who have hurt us. We will be followers of that person, even though those who hurt us rarely remember their treatment of us. Insulting others will make us inferior to those who put us down. For this reason, it is enough for those who humble themselves.
The best revenge is to prove the success of our lives in managing emotions in us, not by hurting or hurting others. Revenge is not for a peaceful soul like us. Revenge is not a door for compassion.
May every soul be peaceful and happy!
Ochie,I first of all wants to appreciate you. You are a good writer. You got me read almost all your articles. About revenge,you said it all. Two wrong can never make a right. Our ability to control our feelings, be it anger,joy,shows our maturity. We're judge by what we say. Their is a popular saying,or word of knowledge that suggest that,we should never make a wish when we are angry or when we are too happy. The best revenge, when you're angry is silence.whiles the best action ,when you are too happy is smiles.