What do you post on social media? Achievements? -new house, new car, your job, food, your baby, your adventure, you certificates?
If not all, most of what we can see in social media are photos I've mentioned above. How do you feel about this? Is this an act of bragging? If yes, then what are we supposed to post? Memes? or inspirational quotes?
I have a friend who constantly post memes because she believes in the meme that she saw saying, "Don't post achievement, post memes so that people would think you have no future". But isn't it unfair to judge other people that just because they only share meme, they are not up for bigger things and would have no future?
I also have friend whose facebook account is like a ghost town. I wonder why she doesn't post anything, not even a meme. One day I asked her, then she answered it is because we can't control how people would react. There will be people who will be happy genuinely, there will be people who will fake it and there will be people with evil eye.
Evil eye- these are the people who aren't happy for you achieving your dreams.
When is others' success become a lump in our throat? Is it vain to celebrate with them and cry in silence? When others are at their peak of success why do we automatically compare ourselves and question our fate? Isn't it hard to celebrate others' victories when we have been longing for ours for a long period of time? Is it hard to clap for others' victories while we are still waiting for ours?
On social media, we often see posts saying,"There is nothing wrong about people posting their achievements on social media, they've work hard for it and if posting it would make them feel good. Then, why not." My friend's caption when she posted her picture with her name and a cum laude title on it was 'If you work hard for it, then flaunt it.'
Your social media friends doesn't have the same eyes when they see these kinds of post. There are eyes who are genuine enough to congratulate you on your achievements and the good things that has happened to you. These could be your family members, your friends or even a stranger rooting for you.
On the other hand, there are also eyes who sees your post as something kind of boastful and arrogant. These are the people who are afraid to see that there are other people that are progressing, pursuing and achieving more than they do. The truth is, these people want you to progress but not as much as they do. They want you t be rich but not as rich as them or they want you to be beautiful but not as beautiful as them. So, your massive success posted on social media is a major punch in their face and it hurts their eyes.
Then, there are people who are struggling to achieve success. These are the people that no matter how they try, the destiny hasn't favored them yet. Their time to shine hasn't come yet. But everyday, they keep on believing that tomorrow may be a brand new day. These are the people who congratulate you on your success, celebrates with you and drinks you but when their home and alone, the fall in the deep dark hole of self-pity. They question themselves, their abilities, their faith and their God. If not handled properly, it could lead to depression. The feeling where we know we have 'done our best but we don't succeed'.
These are only few of the perspective or the feelings of the people who views your posts on social media. The truth is, no matter how hard we worked to achieve something that we could be proud of or something that is beautiful that we wanted to share with the world, no matter how pure our intentions are, we just can't please everyone and force everyone to feel the same way with us. But, there's no problem right, if our intentions was just to post and inspire. We still could have people beside us and if there's people who finds our "post to inspire" an arrogant move then it's their problem.
At some point in our lives, we might have seen facebook posts from the lenses of eyes mentioned above and there's nothing wrong with it. But we need not to remain negative. We need to check our spirit. There is nothing wrong with someone posting achievements on social media. If you aren't inspired and motivated by the post, scroll down or better yet unfollow the person. We can't stop people from doing what they want just because we are bitter and may feel self-pity about it. Let them be and do your thing.
I'm sure everyone has its own timing. As what they say, 'Don't compare your 'behind the scenes' to another's spotlight.
Learn to clap for other's victories while waiting for yours.
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Thank you for reading.
Very well written. Naalala ko yung article ko din na ganito. Before I post anything and everything but it was usually more on the happenings in my life. But there are really some people who posts about their material things and I really felt like they were bragging. I know that they are entitled to share what is it that they want since it is their accounts. I would just ignore them or in some people's case, they block them to protect their mental health.