What happens when the person you look up to disappoints you? Who should have displayed as a role model now becomes someone who is in need of modeling?
In our lives, we consider certain people as our inspiration, some we treat as our foundation, we think they are invincible, that whatever they encounter in life, they'd somehow be able to get out of it with flying colors, we think they have perfect lives, we think they are strong, we look into areas on their lives and find them just amazingly beautiful and question ourselves, what am I doing with my life? Why am I not able to do things that this person is able to do? Why is he rich and why am I still trying to be right now? Why is it that whatever he does, he succeeds while I am always on the verge of failure?
It didn't occur to me that looking up to someone is actually becoming a toxic thing, it brought nothing but insecurities. It brought tears instead of happiness, perhaps even bitterness. The intention was supposed to be for inspiration but now has become competition.
Now, you find this person showing his weaknesses, a glimpse of how imperfect his life is too just like you and me. He shares his hardships, the slope he had been climbing all these years along, barely making it, he claims he has a good life, success, and richness but he is struggling with important areas of his life.
The one whom you thought is strong is actually weak, he is just like us - needing a savior.
Be careful whom you are tapping from, whom you are sourcing your energy, your inspiration, the force that gets you doing the things you do. Be cautious as they might actually be someone who is trying to survive, fighting his own battles, and is on the losing side too.
This week's a depressing one, indeed when it rains, it pours, our family had been dealing with several matters, personal family relationship issues, its hard to comprehend each party, it is not easy to give our assumptions and to advice as the other person is already closing his doors to the reminders we give. It is as if it is easy to just let go and forget about everything.
Relationships have been broken. Many countless hurtful words had been thrown and the hearts are in pain, tears had fallen, and it felt hopeless. A family should be our fortress in times of trouble but this person didn't run to us. This person turned back as if forgetting everything that the family had given and sacrificed.
Is it easy to say goodbye to a relationship that has been there for years? Is it easy to just say quits? Is it that easy to just give up? Why is the love that was supposed to be forever now gone?
I can't disclose the details, I am hurting too, I am feeling bad knowing that we are also affected, there are young hearts and innocent minds victimized by this and I can't just stand here watching. But what can I do more? I have done my part, but nothing is changing so far.
When things fail and do not go with what we have planned, we turn to despair. We pity ourselves, we give ourselves harsh thoughts, as if there's no hope at all.
Failure is about falling and not getting up. Failure is inevitable, it is ever-present in our lives as we are not perfect, we are just human beings, prone to errors.
With this problem, arises more, complications, set timelines are not achieved, and it brings several unhealthy thoughts.
There's a reason for everything, this is a time for learning indeed. To take the learning means growth and it includes pain too, financially and emotionally. This failure teaches us a good lesson that we must accept.
As much as we want to keep ourselves healthy, we realize we are not in command. We try to eat healthily, drink a lot of water, keep our bodies moving, exercise, yet at the end of the day, we get sick.
This brought me to a conclusion: we are not in control of anything in this world, not even our bodies. No matter how we take care of it, no matter how we try to avoid it, sickness will find us. No matter how we try to, we can't stop it. We don't have any idea of what happens in the next second, minute or hour. We have zero visibility of tomorrow, it is not even guaranteed. If it is our time to get sick, we can't say no.
Realizations
Worse things may happen, we can only call unto The One who is in control. The One who knows every aspect of our bodies because He created it. We can only trust Him in every corner of our lives because He sees everything and He is able. We can only attach the strings and connections of our relationships to the One who had promised us He will never leave us nor forsake us.
To everyone who is struggling this week, let us face tomorrow with the blessed hope of Christ's love and grace. He is ABLE, we just have to trust Him and be dependent on His loving mercy.
xoxo,
momentswithmatti
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Indeed , we are not in control of anything in this world, not even our bodies, as you say. But knowing who is in control gives us a huge courage that what ever life may throw us , we can overcome it. ♥️