Hello beautiful people!
I hope you all are doing fine amidst of the shortcomings and uncertainties we may feel day by day. Always remember that a positive life is a happy life. ✨
In life we really got to have a lot of choices. A lot of things to consider. A lot of things to think of. A lot of things to prioritize. Have you felt or experienced, choosing between the two and ended up hurting one of them, or the worst hurting yourself?
Let me have my take on this some sort of my own have I or have I not.
Have you choose a lover over someone or something?
I have. I have chosen a person over another one. It was smooth. It was perfect. I was happy. But we ended up not having each other. Did I regret the choice I made? I did not. Did I learned something from it? Yes I did. With what ever you choose in life, there will be consequences waiting for you. May it be the one you expected it to be or it will be the other way around, and that is fine.
Have you tried choosing a friend over a lover?
I haven't. And honestly, I got to neglect some of my friends because of a lover. @BreadChamp knows that. Hi mamii. Sorry for sometimes neglecting you over him before. I thought it was okay that sometimes we will choose the man we love over the friends we have before meeting that person. But in my own experience, I tend to forget that my friends came in my life first. I overly made that person as my world that I forget to think of the real world I have. With what I experienced, I was hit by this line, "Wag mo kasing gawing mundo, yung alam mong tao lang." And I realized, we really cannot control the decisions we will make because of some things that way before we do not understand, and that is fine. But we always need to make sure that we are going to learn from it.
Have you tried choosing another person before you?
I have. Choosing your family's needs over yours is what it is. And that is fine. After all, they are not just another person, they are family. Before, I used to think that what I am doing is a responsibility I need to fulfill that sometimes it makes me sad, pressured, and overstressed. But as the days goes by, I thought that instead of thinking of it as a responsibility, why not try to think of it as an act of love? Everything that is done with love, is easy and light weight. And one good thing about my family? They are not pressuring me. They are still supporting me emotionally and spiritually, and that what I appreciate from them the most.
Have you tried choosing yourself before others?
I have and I haven't. Because before I used to always say yes to others. I always do that, thinking it will make me fit in, thinking it will make me accepted. But now, I learned to say no as I realized that choosing myself and being myself is what it takes to be accepted. Not every time you have to fit in, sometimes you need to be different. If you are not the standard, be your own standard. And that is how I have chosen myself.
I haven't chosen myself yet because of the same reason I have on the third question above. But I am looking forward for the time I would say, "This time, I will choose myself." It may take some time and that is fine. We have a different timeline after all.
Have you felt or experienced, choosing between the two and ended up hurting one of them, or the worst hurting yourself? Personally, I think of life as a question itself. In "yes or no", we have to choose one, no "or" as an answer or nothing as an answer will not do. There should be one, as a question was made to be answered. With all the choices I made before that I can't remember anymore and what I have chosen now, I am not sure if I have hurt one of the choices. I just hope I really didn't. But I am certain that I haven't hurt myself because of the choice I made. Since I always set expectations of whatever may happen. I always asked God to let me accept all the consequences I may received wholeheartedly. And that is for me is just way too fine.
That's all for today beautiful people. I hope you enjoyed reading my article for today. If you have any thoughts and take away about this piece, feel free to leave it in the comment section below. Let's interact. Stay safe always! Xoxo ✨☺️
- MissJo 💜
I used to get mad when my friends when they chose their lovers before me but I realizes that's just how things are. Choosing their lovers before me doesn't really mean I'm not that important to be prioritized, it's just that they love to spend more time with their lovers and nurture their relationship. After all, a friend is still a friend even without constant bonding and communication.