False Positivity.
Hello beautiful people!
I hope you all are doing fine amidst of the shortcomings and uncertainties we may feel day by day. Always remember that a positive life is a happy life. ✨
“When we push aside difficult emotions in order to embrace false positivity, we lose our capacity to develop deep skills to help us deal with the world as it is, not as we wish it to be.” Susan David, Ph.D, Mindful
"Wag ka ng umiyak. Okay lang yan."
"Parang yun lang. Be positive."
"Tara alis tayo para mawala yung lungkot."
"Wag kang magmukmok diyan, di yan makakatulong."
Most of the times, these are the usual phrases we hear from our close friends, family, or anyone who we ask for advice if we are going through something. May it be a heartache, failure on exams and jobs, and sometimes just the feeling of emptiness. We tend to ask for advice, for what things we can do to outdo this sad feeling.
Personally, I do not listen to anyone who says such things I mentioned above. I appreciate them for staying by my side and listen to my rants. But the more they tell me to just stay positive and be happy and just do not think about it will actually worsen my situation. I used to embrace the pain until it hurts no more. Then I'll get healed.
Maybe we have a different ways on dwelling with pain, but I really believe that we really need to let out we really feel. Cry if we really need to. And ask for a companion if necessary. The more we act okay even if we are not, the more the pain will pain us.
We can always acknowledge that human as we are, we have feelings which means we can get hurt and its okay. Be hurt. But always make sure to not drown into the pain. Be hurt. But always look for ways to get out of the pain. Be hurt. But always think that it is not painful forever.
And as what Susan David, the more we hide what we truly feel the more we can't learn how to deal with pain. With that said, we can't be able to fight for more painful things and we will be instilled with these false positivities that will hurt us more.
Life has never been perfect. We really can feel pain, disappointment, tears, and all. We will lose someone and something. We will feel that we are being played. Honour such experiences as it will make us stronger. Again life has never been perfect, but its imperfection makes it wonderful. Its imperfection makes it more exciting. And its imperfections makes life worth living.
That's all for today beautiful people. If you have any thoughts about this, feel free to leave it in the comment section below. Let's interact. Stay safe always! Xoxo ✨☺️
- MissJo 💜
Letting go of any toxic friendship and crying when you're in pain is what I'm learning this year because I've noticed it is okay to cry, it doesn't make you a weak person. It only makes you stronger for what's to come next