Own It!
How do people do things that are bad and then blame something else? This happens too frequently in society that I can no longer just shove my head in my palms and pay deaf ear to it anymore.
The movie industry around the world portrays the same thing too, especially when it comes to cheating in a relationship. They make it look like series of unexplainable circumstances are the reason for such a mishap and misdeed.
Why can't people just own up to their actions and say they did it cos they wanted to. Does it make it hurt less to blame it other things?
Or does it help to justify the fact that a misdeed was done?
I used to keep and open mind whenever I hear certain things happened, I try to rationalize the deed done and want to find a reason why it happened. But now that I think about it, having a reason still doesn't justify why anyone would do something to hurt another.
Amongst the many crimes there are, that people commit that are bad, although the term bad is subject to the scrutiny of the person in question but what ever your ethics may lean towards I believe that cheating in a relationship should be bad to you so I'll use that as an example.
It's often common practice that people cheat these days. Infact, I've often heard many people say without mincing words that the seed of infidelity to one's partner is planted in all of us and grows bountifully. What this means is that not one person on the planet is not an infidel, relationship wise of course.
I'm not saying the above as a fact, but I'm stating it cos I believe it's what over half the percentage of people in the world today believe.
Not that I agree though but I'll play dumb for the sake of what I hope to achieve in this article.
Quite frankly I don't blame them for this belief because statistics have proven the above to be true, maybe not true but nearly true. By statistics, I mean taking into account the stories and info at our disposal.
When a man or woman cheats and you ask them why they have broken the bond of trust and promise that they swore to their partner by entering a sane relationship by my standards, with fidelity as a must do, they are very quick to state reasons that quite frankly are absurd to the ears if you ask me.
For instance, an infidel of a wife may choose to say
My husband has no time for me anymore, he keeps late nights these days and I am unsatisfied with the way our relationship is leading. What's worse is that our sexual life has lost its initial fire and has grown to be a mere activity that lacks desire and fulfilment. While all this was up, I met someone else who made me laugh and feel special and I just couldn't help myself..
On the other hand, an infidel of a man may say..
Things with my wife got boring and she began to nag me too much. I lost peace in my home! It became a night mare to spend time with her and as if that was not enough, we both lost the seeming connection and malleability our relationship had. Now, it's just a mirage I can't live with anymore. All of this is why I had to go out.
The above statements/excuses from both man and wife are to mention but a few. There are more like; I was under the influence of alcohol or i thought my spouse was cheating on me already so I lost my mind.
Now my dear reader, tell me how the above mentioned problems have infidelity as the solution!
All of these excuses and more do not give anyone a real reason to cheat on their spouse! So giving these excuses helps nobody.
As if when your spouse is working late, the solution is to go out there and sleep around.
The above simply puts out there how messed up our minds have become. Maybe not us all, but majority have their heads in the mud and what's worse is they won't even accept the diagnosis hence getting a solution is almost impossible.
It's high time we stop all of the charade that we put up when we've made mistakes, cheating or not and own up to our mistakes cos that's the only real way to learn what we're supposed to.
I've had enough time on my hand thanks to ASUU to reflect on the fallacy in the so called truths we tell ourselves. And until we realize the real reason why we made the decisions that we made that we later call mistakes, when we're in the same situation 10 years later we would do the same thing.
Author's Epilogue
Right now I'm mad at how the particular series I'm watching is making it look like the woman has lost control of her will and can't help but be with the guy she's cheating with.
I have no problem with her losing her will to him, since that's the line that they've decided to draw but if that is the case, why not end the marriage and follow him? No, she apparently loves her husband! As do most people in her shoes.
Well, I can't wait for what the end will be.
Thanks for reading, I hope it was worth your while😁
Mhizutty the voice of truth 🎵🎶🎵
Different reaaons will suffice when you are trying to get answers to why a wife would be cheating on her husband and vice versa but to me, no matter the excuse, it doesn't justifies their act of infidelity.