Let Them Scar A Little

It's been a while since I wrote last on this platform. As much as I love writing and love doing it here, it gets depressing when the green baby decides to ignore one's work. This is a fate I've suffered for the majority of my time here. At the beginning of this month, my earnings seem to have picked up, but then they just went off, back to zero. That has been the case since and has demotivated me. Anyways, I'm trying to not be detected, which is why I'm back now and hoping I can fight the urge to give up on the platform.

I was trying to clear my notification earlier when I stumbled upon a very nice article by @Mhizutty. You can check out the article here. I've decided to give my thought to the prompts she wrote about.

Correct A Person Or Let Them Suffer Some Burn??

I like to think the answer to this will depend on certain factors such as the severity of the potential damage the mistake will cause, the kind of person involved etc. But generally, I believe experience is by far the most effective teacher, not best, but most effective. Why do I believe this? Well, take a child, for example, you can tell a child a thousand times not to put its hand into the flames of a candle and it will still want to, but if you let the candle burn her once, that would be the last time you will ever need to tell her, as she will never forget.

You might like to argue that we are not babies or children, and I would permit it. But the bitter truth is that mistakes are to us what a flame is to a child. It's usually attractive to our senses until we do it and get burnt by it before we learn not to try it again. It's like they say, "the forbidden fruit tastes sweetest". In the same vein, humans generally are drawn to something they have been told not to do, they can't have etc until it burns them.

So, generally, I let people learn from their mistakes if the potential damage is not permanent or severe. But in a case where the potential burn will leave a huge scar, I try my best to correct the person, but that's only if I know or think that the person can logically assess my advice/correction, which will most likely result in them using it. This in effect, means I usually just let very recalcitrant people learn from their mistakes.

Same-Sex School Vs Mixed School??

I think the rationale behind same-sex schooling is the need to have your child focused on studying and studying alone, without the distraction of the opposite hovering or lurking around them. But the practice has shown this is not just ineffective, but counterproductive. Argue with me as much as you like, but as I've said above, whatsoever you tell us as humans that we can't have is what we are drawn to. Most students in same-sex schools leave the system damaged in certain ways. I will be emphasizing just three.

Firstly, same-sex schooling has contributed to the rise of same-sex relationships such as lesbianism and gays. This is because these children are limited in their choice and ability to test and express their sexuality, so the available becomes the norm for them. There are no two ways about it, because at that time in a teenager's life when he or she needs to learn to identify and express his/her sexuality if they don't have a free and safe environment to do it, they will make with what they have, and by the time they leave the system, that's all they know. The majority of people that are gays and lesbians today are products of these kinds of systems, they are people I like to call situational gays and lesbians.

Secondly, in the same vein of desiring what you're told not to have, children in same-sex schools are somehow more wayward and sexually promiscuous. It's like they try to get what they can't have every single chance they get. No matter how you try to monitor these children, they will still find a way around the system to practice their waywardness and the appeal of getting in trouble makes it all the more exciting and pleasurable for them. A teenager in a same-sex school is more likely to be participating in unsafe sexual practices such as the use of pornographic materials, masturbation, sex with condoms etc.

Thirdly, for those who somehow manage to succeed in focusing on their studies and coming out of the system. They tend to come out as social pariahs. They find it hard to socialize even with people of the same sex outside their school cycle and it's almost impossible for them to socialize with the opposite sex. This also leads to a situation where they are usually more naive than others, making them generally unsafe in ordinary circumstances as they can be easily deceived and manipulated by mischievous persons, especially of the opposite sex. So, it's a mixed school for my kids.

These are my takes on these matters. Hat about you? I'd like to hear yours in the comment section of this post. Thanks for reading this article