Perhaps, Break Up is actually a Blessings

"It's not that you give up on people because you don't love them anymore but because they don't".

Break Up. I guess when we hear that word, we can describe it as a painful phase of our life. Yeah it's painful especially if you really love that person so much and you share a lot of good moments with each other. Sometimes, we tried to avoid this break up scenario because we don't lose our special someone or maybe, we don't want to feel alone. That's why sometimes, there is some who still fix the relationship even you are only the one who fight for it. Is it still worth it? Hold until you can because you thought that you can't live without him.

The hardest part of breaking up is moving on. We don't know how to start or if we really want to move on. Sometimes, we still holding on to the words that " Maybe he come back to me" or " Maybe we can fix it for the second chance". We are in denial because we are still hoping for it. I'm not generalizing but sometimes because of too much love for someone,a person tend to forget to love themselves that's why sometimes we thought that we can't live without them. We became dependent on them to the point that you could never imagine splitting up with each other. But enough is enough, don't settle for less and don't undervalued yourself because of someone. As day passes by, we gradually realize that break up is actually a blessing in disguise.

I have this friend who have a 3 years relationship to her boyfriend before. We all know that they are happy and we actually surprised when she said to me last year that she already broke up with him. My reaction was actually " Huh? For real? ". If you can see them, you can actually say that their relationship is almost perfect but we can't really guess the ending right? I will not say the reason behind it but I will share to you what she realize after breaking up with him. After a couple of months, she share to us the things that she experience and did when she is single again. According to her, after of that break up she had a chance to have " Me Time" and find discover about herself more. She will not worried anymore that there is someone who might get mad or she always need to update someone. Her ex-boyfriend is a bit strict so she can't do some things that she want to do like having a minimalist tattoo. Aside from that, she also have a chance to bond with her family and friends. " My parents is getting old and I didn't realize that I neglect them sometimes because of prioritizing my relationship to others". That's the exact word that she said to me. I tend to asked myself " Is it really the boyfriend or maybe it's not the right time for them". But I'm happy that at least now, she have a time for self reflection and to explore the other sides of her life.

As the moment it hurts but I realize that break up is really a blessings and it actually a make up for yourself. You will have a chance to see your true value as person , you tend to give more self love on yourself. Sometimes, letting go is hard but it is better than staying on the relationship where you can't find your worth. Some people became blind when they are in a relationship, they ignore the red flags of their partners that also gradually destroy their life. I know that all of us have a red flags but we should also know the limitations of it. Always assess yourself because if you can't, you can harm other people's feelings. I believe that two people broke up because there is some ain't go right. Those broken pieces because of break up will gradually turns into a chances of making up with yourself and you will realize that it is actually one of the most important lessons that happened to you.

As a piece of reminder to all, don't enter to a relationship if you are still not ready. You should know how to value yourself first before giving value to others. Sometimes, it's okay to breaking up with someone especially when you know that it's not worth it anymore,when you know that it already hurt you badly. You should set limitations to all, even in a relationship. Always protect and guard your heart. It should always two characters in a love story.

Greetings!!

Hello dreamers!! How's everyone here? I hope that you are doing fine today. I missed being here everyday but for now, I still can't because of my papers and defense. Two more hell weeks before able to get a rest. But thank you for still keep supporting my journey here. I hope that everyone will get a good sleep later. Take a rest okay?