Being the Youngest child is a tough role too

Disclaimer: This article is purely based on my observations and some of it is my personal experiences. Not all of the ideas here is relatable to all youngest child because I believe that it is still depends on how we be treated in our family. Since I already wrote something about the POV of middle and oldest child, now let me write about some struggles of being the youngest child.

They say that being a youngest child is one of the lucky thing you might experience. According to them that you have a high chance to be the favorite of your parents and you tend to be spoiled since they treat you as a baby. But unfortunately not all the youngest child is spoiled or even lucky. Just like the eldest and middle child, the youngest also carry some responsibilities and take an important role. I can say that being the youngest is also a tough job. Why? There are so many reasons and let me enumerate some of them.

Being the youngest means that you are the last hope of your family especially when your older siblings failed on their decisions. Some of their impulsive decisions makes the youngest suffer even more. For example, if your sister suddenly got pregnant in a young age or stop on their schooling without a justified reason, it seems that her responsibility will be passed on you. And additionally, it also became the reason why our parents suddenly becomes strict. They limit our actions because of they will think that we might do the same thing. I know that we can understand why they did that, it's because they care for us but sometimes it's really suffocating. Someone shared to me before that sometimes being a youngest is so tiring because it seems that you need to fulfill your dreams at the same time, prove to your parents that she can be a successful one. She needs to be mature in the very young age because her older siblings have their own family and she is the only one who live on her parents. She can feels the pressure especially when her parents said " You're our last hope".

On the other hand, youngest child is also subject to be compared with the other siblings especially when your sister/brother is good on other things. Other parents will be said " You should be like your brother, he is intelligent". Or when you make a small mistake, they will get mad on you and will say that your older sibling is much better than you. You really admire your brother for being a good one but you also want to live your own life. It seems that they can't understand that you and him is a different person. His strength can be my weakness. Not all of his skills and abilities is the same as yours. But you can't do anything because you are the youngest, and you have no right to share your opinion because if you did, they will accuse you as disrespectful kid. How you wished that you can also share to them what's running on your mind right?

As being the youngest child, when your siblings have already pursue their dreams or build their own family, you are the only one who should take care of your parents. And your parents is not getting younger, sometimes they tend to be forgetful. It's not a problem to taking care of them since they also taking care of you when you was a kid. But the problem is, sometimes you can able to achieve your own dreams because of the responsibility your siblings given to you. It seems that you have no right to pursue and take a risk on the other part of the world because no one will be watching on your parents. They need care and attention and your siblings is already busy on their own lives, so everything will be in you.

Sometimes youngest child opinion is not valid. They will even tell you that don't meddling on the talk of the elders because you didn't understand what they are trying to say. Even you have a point, it will become useless because they will not accept your voice since you are the youngest. As the youngest, you are the last person they will asked suggestions and sometimes you are also the last one who can know the problem in the family. "You should not be involved on this because you are a child". You want to say that you are still a part of the family and you are not a baby anymore,you can understand the whole story but they still treat you as a baby. So you just looking on them while zipping your mouth. No one is willing to listen to you.

But you know what as being the parents, you should not looked on the birth order of your child because you should treat them fair and square. They should be equally treated even they are the oldest,middle or you gest child. It doesn't matter what birth order they are, as long as you give them equal love and attention. Talking to them sometimes,asking them how they are ,trust me if you do that often ,they will gradually shared to you their life and problems they carry all along. Be understanding on every child you have. And for those older siblings, don't make fun your youngest sibling especially when you know that your joke might be offending to her. Don't also treat her/him as your errand runner, if you can do the thing by your own,do it. Don't use your birth order as an advantage to them. And to all youngest child out there, I just want to say that you did a great job and hope that you can still find peace at your place. Lavarn lang. As a family, birth order should not be a case instead we should share the love,and tight the bond we have to each other. Every child matters regardless on it's order.

Greetings!!

Hello dreamers 👋 Happy New Month to everyone. Time flies so fast, we are now on the fifth month of the year. Almost half.. I hope that your May 1 is a productive yet a fulfilling day. Ohh by the way, Happy Labor's Day to all of the workers out there. Salute to you for being the breadwinner of your family. I wished that more money comes on your wallets haha. But don't also forget to get some rest okay? You're a human not a robot. So rest even you don't have time lol.Have a great night everyone!!