What if they don't like me?

Being in a relationship entails a lot. You will get to know your partner and his ways to see if you really fit together. If you don't do that, you might regret one day and think you must have known him/her better before going things deep between the two of you. You might fall for your partners words without knowing their core. And the next thing you knew, you are drowning and finding it hard to save yourself. Well, if you're already confident with your partner, you're so blessed and I do hope all the best for you both.

If not, better take your time to spend your time with him/her in such a way you will be able to grasp everything about him as in everything because why not? We don't want to regret in the end.

After that getting to know stage, it's time to elevate things. There will be time when your partner would ask you to attend to their family gathering. You are somewhat excited and you feel important because you matter to your partner but then you also feel worried because there might be a chance your partner's family won't like you. And that's when you will see how your partner loves you. Because if he/she does, he/she will speak up for you and would not allow the family to speak ill about you.

But there are also family who really are compassionate and truly care for you. It's not just because you are their son's/daughter's partner but because you matter and you are a part of the family. Whatever your preferences in life, they would understand and respect that. And that's the type of family I want to be in.

I am the type of girlfriend who is not so open to everyone. I prefer to talk freely to people who knows and understand me well. Currently, I'm in a relationship where I don't feel so open to my partner's parents and I have my reasons for that. I am talkative when I know the people I am talking with like to listen to me too and knows where I am coming from.

I have lived for weeks in my partner's house, I mean in his family's house because they invited me here for me not to pay the rent for a boarding house. I accepted the offer since I want to know my boyfriend well and his family as well. His family is nice but then I had this attitude of being silent when I'm with elders. Sometimes, I can't keep up with their conversation and just chose to be with my phone, browsing on Facebook and reading articles on read.cash.

I didn't know that being silent would create a negative say about me. Is being silent bad? Am I not having the right attitude just because I don't keep up with the conversation? Well, they don't say that to me frankly. It's just my instinct telling me something's not right. And my instinct was right when my boyfriend said,

You should speak more and get along with them. I don't want them to speak bad about you.

And there I realized that there's really something because why did my boyfriend said that? But then I tried to do my best again. I open myself up to them and talk more often. By the way, I am close with my boyfriend's family in some way it's just that I am not into speaking everyday because I am busy thinking and writing about my article. If I will get disturbed, all the ideas would fly away and I wouldn't be able to go back where I left. And so I chose to just stay inside the room.

Being inside the room also created a bad talk about me. I felt it too. And I was right again when my boyfriend said,

Don't just stay here all day. They said, you should go out and sit outside. Try to stroll around.

And that really made me think that what I'm doing here is not in accordance to what they're being used to. That's also the reason why I miss our home where I felt comfortable without watching my moves.

There was also one time I decided to wash the dishes. I was about to do it when suddenly, my boyfriend's mom saw me and told me not to do it. I told her it's fine with me since I was used to washing the dishes at home. But then she insisted to take over and so I just followed. Because of that, I seldom wash the dishes here because they wouldn't let me if they saw me doing it.

One time, my boyfriend's cousin, his aunt and me are talking about pregnancy. I don't know what got into her cousin's mind that she talked about my boyfriend's ex and said that that girl is industrious and always do the household chores. In my mind, I was thinking she was comparing me and her because she sounded like she is. I don't want them to feel I was affected so I just smiled.

In that moment, I realized that you cannot please everybody especially if you are the silent type of person for they might mislabeled you as strict and mean. Well, I am not that silent actually I talked too much when I'm with friends and my family. I started to stay silent when I do feel something's off. But that doesn't mean I'm not trying my best to get closer them. As of now, my boyfriend's family and I were okay. There's just really sometimes which I don't feel like I'm fine in here.

I also realized the cons of living together in one house with your partner's parents. Though we are not married, I do experienced already the feeling of living together with partner's parents. It's not always bad though, there are also good side of it. But, I do prefer to live with our own so we can do things our way without those eyes watching. I am not against those who live with parents. My preference is just different as what you had.

For these reasons, I want to ask my partner,

"What if they don't like me?"

"What if your family won't like me?"

"Would that affect our relationship?"

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