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Most of the Filipino families are very much particular when it comes to celebrating death anniversaries. Death anniversary celebration is like a family gathering/reunion to some Filipinos.

The oldies will call the relatives who are away to pledge for something. The kids are also excited because they will see their cousins after a long time. This could also be the time when families or relatives from abroad or anywhere around will come home just to be in the celebration. This somehow ties a strong bond between the family. I find it funny sometimes because death anniversary is celebrated and prepared for compared to birthdays. Yeah, there are really families who celebrate it that way.

It goes without saying that most Filipino families enjoy celebrating special holiday, big or little. Even if mountains of dishes/used plates await us after the celebration, we find it very enjoyable to spend the days with our families/relatives. If there's no food, it isn't a party. 😉

Death anniversary is celebrated to commemorate someone in the family who's been in paradise. They may be long gone but their memories still live. This is one way of remembering them despite their passing. And we also believe that as we celebrate, the lost loved one is also celebrating with us.

Yesterday was the death anniversary of my boyfriend's grandmother. I was not able to publish an article too because I was carried away with the moment. Everybody was busy preparing for the food and I can't just stay in the room and do nothing. Early in the morning, we went to the market to buy everything needed. I also bought all-purpose cream, condensed milk, gelatin powder, mangoes and cheese because I pledge to make Mango Tapioca. My biggest mistake was I forgot to take pictures yesterday.

My boyfriend's mom is not much into cooking. I observed that she doesn't like cooking and would end up buying cooked meals so she's not there so active in preparing the food. My boyfriend's aunties just do the cooking. They cooked lumpiang shanghai, menudo, pansit, and made kinilaw. My mango tapioca is the dessert. I don't know if you're all familiar with these foods so I just attached the links there so you can see how they look like. They are the common foods we cooked during celebrations.

The cooking and all were done at around 12 PM so everyone gathered to eat lunch. Lunch without talking is not possible here. Some said that talking when mouth is full is inappropriate. Well sorry to those who said that because it's not practiced in here. My boyfriend's aunties and his cousins are very much lively and like to talk all the time. That's why I don't feel I am out of place when they're around. I think it's already 30 minutes and everyone was not done eating. One of the aunties advised that we must finish our food since we will go to the cemetery.

Yes, celebrating death anniversary would not be complete without visiting the loved one in the cemetery. Well if you're too away, you can still offer a prayer. We prayed there and then after, we headed back home home to prepare again for dinner.

There are still foods left so the rest were just heated. Additional foods were grilled fish and meat and chicken soup. After dinner, karaoke was on and drinks are served. The aunties and the uncles enjoyed singing old songs and the younger ones drank beer. They're so happy.

I celebrated with them too but I didn't sing. I'm still shy to show my talent in singing 😂. I just observed them so I know how to approach them. Yes, as I said, I do like to know more about my boyfriend's family. In case if there's complication, I would know right away. It's better than getting into the next level of the relationship and you'll realize there are things that don't favor you. It's kinda late because you already went to the next level but you can still withdraw. However, the process is not that easy.

When everyone was satisfied with the drinks, we took a rest and I think we ended the celebration at 9 PM or else we can disturb neighbors.

That's it. That's how they celebrated death anniversary here. We also have our version, my family's side but I will tell it in a different article.

How about you and your family? How do you celebrate death anniversary of a loved one?


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Lol, I didn't think this was about death anniversaries. Hehe. Well we don't do this at all. We only go to the cemetery during All Souls or Saints Day. That's it. :) Otherwise we offer mass for the dearly beloved person.

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1 month ago

Oh I see. It's fine then. What's important us that we remember our loved ones who passed away and offer them mass.

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1 month ago

last week death anniversary nung lolo ko..dina nga namin naalala kasi mga 18 years na yata pero naalala nung tita kong isa kaya naghanda..hindi kami nakapunta ng cemetery non kasi naulan..

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User's avatar Yen
1 month ago

Ganun po ba? Okay lang yung ms. Yen. Importante naalala natin.

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1 month ago

I'm hearing this first time every culture is different and also religion taught different things it's good to know how it happen in Filipino Thank you for increasing my knowledge!!

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1 month ago

Yes, that's how we do it, friend. You're welcome. ☺️

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1 month ago

Mao na jud nay tradition sa mga pinoy mem no. Bisan sa amo, ingon ana pud. Maghanda gihapon para icelebrate ang death anniversary. Pero naglaway kos kinilaw uy.hahahha

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1 month ago

Ang pagkaon man jod makapalipay samot mem. Hehe! Lge uy kalami magkilaw mem 🤤

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1 month ago

Tradition na talaga natin to Sis no. Aside sa Christmas, and death anniversary o Araw ng mga patay yung usual occasions na magkakasama kami magkakamag-anak. Kaya always excited kasi maraming din pagkain:D

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1 month ago

Hahaha korek sis. Pagkain talaga yung mas lalong nagpapahappy saten

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1 month ago

Very true. Filipino wakes and death anniversaries sometimes serve as family reunions. That's why it has been very hard this past year for families with members dying of covid19. Filipino families couldn't mourn the usual Filipino way.

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1 month ago

I feel this 🥺 my relatives did not visit my grandma too during her 91st birthday because of travel restrictions

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1 month ago

have you watched the film book of life? the film opens up in the same type of scene where families remember the ones that have passed already and they mentioned something like if the person is not anymore remembered, they will be gone forever!

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1 month ago

That's a nice movie. I haven't watched that po. Kawawa naman po yung hindi na naalala

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1 month ago

It is a part of our tradition na talaga mare e. It is for them to be remembered even they don't exist anymore.

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1 month ago

Definitely, mare. Kaya di kompleto ang taon pag di natin naalala at ginugunita

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1 month ago

Celebrating the dead is a sign of respect to the soul, that's the ideology of Filipino especially since November is coming too, we were also celebrating the birthday and anniversary of losing one. And here they will prepared much more food from sticky rice hehe..

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1 month ago

Correct. That's how we truly celebrate and yes especially during November too. Sticky rice? Hmmm mga anong halimbawa po nun? Biko serrr? Haha

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1 month ago

Ganyan din kami sis ,nagkikita kita mga pinsan na nasa malayong lugar.

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1 month ago

Nice sis. Parehas pala tayo. ☺️ Saya diba

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1 month ago

Definitely.., death anniversaries also serve as a family gathering.., but I believe it's a good practice though..,

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1 month ago

Yes, it is! 🥰

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1 month ago

Ganyan rin po sa lolo ko sa side ng mama ko. Lagi ko naman po nakikita pinsan ko kaya palaging bago. Naalala ko po tuloy yung meme sa fb na masaya siyang may namatayan kasi makikita niya na raw yung gwapo niyang pinsan haba

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1 month ago

Hahaha ulit naman nun naging masaya pang namatayan dahil sa gwapong pinsan 😂 napatawa moko dito

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1 month ago

We celebrate death anniversary by inviting many people and then we pray to God for there forgiveness by reading our holy book then we feed them with food. That’s it. Btw, So you have a talent of singing 🤭. When you are going to sing then ?

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1 month ago

Wow! That's really nice. Inviting many people to pray together and reading the Holy book. Thanks for sharing. Hahaha no, I don't have a talent in singing. I can sing but not good. 😁

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1 month ago

Hehe! Okay

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1 month ago

We just visit the tomb of our loved ones during their death anniversary. We brought flowers and candles so we can have something to offer to them.

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1 month ago

Hello! Thanks for sharing. Yeah, that's it. What's important is we remember them.

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1 month ago

Well, ours is just a normal one. We will visit them lit a candle and pray and that's it. Hindi kami naghahanda talaga ee UwU.

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1 month ago

Ah ganun po ba ms. Ruffa? Well, okay yan kasi importante yung prayer at pag alala natin sa kanila.

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1 month ago

We just do pray for the dead one on his death anniversary. The food is there ofcours and gathering..

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1 month ago

Oh, nice. Just the same as ours.

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1 month ago

Halos malapit lang naman kami sa bawat isa dito kaya kahit walang celebration, Para parin kaming nag rereunion araw-araw. Okay naman sya masaya. Kaya lang yung iba kasi abusado na. Lalo na yung di ma kontrol na pag inom. Hays. Sa pag celebrate ng death anniversary, nag luluto lang kami tas videoke. Parang gaya rin ng pag celebrate ng family bg boyfriend mo mars.

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1 month ago

Saya naman nyan sis. Maganda talaga kapag magkalapit lang magkapamilya. Reunion araw araw. Ay oo pero okay na rin yang mag iinom lang wag lang maghahanap ng away. Nakasanayan na talaga natin magkaroon ng handaan tuwing death anniversary

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1 month ago

Same sis, naghahanda kami talaga tapos present lahat dapat yung family members.

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1 month ago

No? Aligri kaajo sis pero karon naay makabisita pero di tanan kay kaning covid lge.

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1 month ago

Alegre jud kaau sis, naa juy mga gwapo ug gwapa na mga kaliwat na mangabot haha. Pero karun di na makompleto jud .

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1 month ago

Hahaha arang jod madam. Makamingaw

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1 month ago

In my place the people are only celebrating when there is a death anniversaries too. They are more lively too.

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1 month ago

Yeah right. ☺️ Thanks for sharing, Grecy

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