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I feel sorry to those people who only nurture hate within their hearts. Considering that those people they hate are just relatives. Yes, relatives. Aren't relatives supposed to support each other? I mean we share the same blood, same family, and same roots. Sorry for this not-so-good-thought. I was just here, enjoying every bite of freshly-picked pineapple. As I take every bite and munch it, I am also scrolling on Facebook looking for some update about the missing "chicken cordon bleu". Do you have any update? Lol. Meanwhile, I came across a facebook meme about family/relatives. It was stated there that, **"as long as you are still poor, some of your relatives don't know you yet".** How sad would that be. Well, that's somewhat true anyway. I am not against your relatives. I am just going to base these thoughts on my own relatives. Those relatives who seem to live a better life than us. Those who think they are highly because they have the means to spend much, a well-built house and a stable job. Okay, they have everything. But even so, I don't like what's theirs and they can't have what's mine. It is fine with me if they got such attitude. They must be so hardworking during their early lives, that's why they're successful today and there is nothing wrong with it. Not until they make fun of someone's poverty and degrade someone just because they don't have possessions like those riches have. If you happen to watch the viral video of the famous "food package" by the seller Marjorie and the buyer, Maria, you would also realize that some of the rich ones would just easily downgrade the unfortunate. Alright. I would not talk much about that issue since I am not so knowledgeable about it and even if I am, still I should not get my hands on it. Dear lovely friends, stay away from those relatives who hurt your mom or anyone in the family. This is just an advice and I don't force you to follow this as we have different principles in life and I do respect that. But in my case, I chose to be away to those relatives who hurt my grandma or anyone in my family. I came to this point because I have witnessed ugly situations between me and my relatives. Insulting instead of supporting

My mom got pregnant so early at the age of 14. Because I am her daughter, some of my aunts already predicted that I would be like my mom, and that I would not reach anything in life. I was young back then but I already understood what they are trying to say. "Kung ano ang puno, siya rin ang bunga". In other words, an apple tree cannot bear an orange fruit. That's so injustice to base your future from your mother's mistake. I cannot defend myself because of toxic Filipino culture which is to not talk back to elders. Seriously? Even if they're wrong? I guess it's not bad at all if we defend ourselves in a respectful manner. *Out of respect, I just chose to be silent. Not because they are worthy of my respect but because I know how to respect.* There's also one time when I remember we went to a family reunion. The venue is at the place of my aunt who has successful children working in abroad. Because of that, she has a nice and wide place to stay in which is perfect for the reunion. When it was the time to eat, relatives who are rich are placed at a different table while the ones who are not, are placed in other side too. Meaning to say, there's someway division or gap between the rich and the less-privileged. Isn't that disturbing? Is there really a need to create a barrier just because of social status? It was a family reunion but it turned out to be a distinction of who's rich and poor. What a family reunion. **Accusing the poor ones** There was also a time when one of my aunts who is also less-privileged was accused by a rich aunt. The rich aunt accused her that she got all the excess foods from the fridge. My poor aunt defended herself because she really did not get anything from the fridge. But the rich aunt kept on accusing her knowing that there are many people around. My poor aunt cried and I so pity her that time. If that's what it takes to rich, I don't want to be rich. It's a gathering right? So don't he surprised if the foods were all gone because they're supposed to be eaten and not to be kept in a fridge. **Lastly, when I saw grandma cried.**

It was again a family reunion and a death anniversary of someone so dear in the family. Since my grandma cooks good, one of the rich aunts told her to cook so there's no need to order. Instead of paying other people, the payment will just be given to my grandma. My grandma told her that it's fine with her even without any payment ot exchange for her efforts but then the rich aunt insisted. It was a big celebration so it was also expected to prepare more food and my grandma prepared all those. After cooking, the rich aunt said that the foods were just too small and accused my grandma, keeping the rest of the foods. And what's even worst is that they didn't gave any compensation for grandma's effort. It's fine that they will not pay because grandma didn't asked for it. What makes it not fine is when they accused grandma for the thing she didn't do. **Are they worthy to be called, family/relatives?** I don't hate them at all because I will get nothing for hating. I just don't like being with them. Social status made them change. Before when they are not yet successful, they used to have the proper attitude and compassion for us. I guess money and possession can really change some people. **Family is still a family.** Yes that's true. What I learned from this experience is that even when they wronged you, you will still forgive them even they don't ask. Those relatives who have such attitude are still welcome. Bad attitude doesn't get better with bad attitude. Instead, let them realize the goodness that we have and see for themselves that they got something to change. If they will not, that's their problem. If they will still not, stay away!

Thank you so much guys for reading! You've been so kind to me since day one. Thank you so much again for your time! To my sponsors, upvoters and to those who comments, I am sending you my warmest gratitude! Let's talk and get to know each other well. You can also reach me at marianovylhyn@gmail.com

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