The worst betrayals felt by a lady come out of sudden breakups. While she is dreaming about having a long tern relationship, and expecting something out of the box from life, somewhere he was planning to break your heart, and leave you with tears and wounded heart.
Once upon a relationship, my friend, Sam was dating a girl, Pat. They have been childhood friends. Sam is the son of a Senior Minister in a church, and Pat is the daughter of another minister in the same church. The two families were close, so were their children.
I met Sam during my undergraduate studies. We were course mates, and in the same level. We were very close then. We both stayed in the same hostel for the first thee years, till he decided to go live off campus. Till this moment, I neither knew Pat nor met her.
In the fourth year, he came to school from his new apartment. We had an arrangement; that I get to spend the weekend at his place.
Pat visited one of those weekends. He introduced us. She is dark, beautiful, and lovable. She was in year 2 while we were in four. She is the reason he left the hostel provided for us in the campus. It didn't take long for her to grow on me. She was very nice, kind, and a good cook. I enjoyed her every meal.
Two months later, I walked into him and other course mates laughing. I picked the name Pat from his tale. Out of curiosity, I asked one of them, what the laughter was about. He told me that Sam was narrating his sexcapades with Pat and how he got her pregnant,and they aborted it.
I felt disappointed at his action.
Why will he share such confidential matter with anyone? I thought to myself.
Later same day, I let him in on how I felt. He wasn't happy with my criticism. But he apologised, and walked away. After that incidence a distance grew between us, his attitude changed, and in little time we became not so close. I stopped going to his place. We became just friendly classmates.
Fast forward to our final year. He moved back to the hostel, and it happened that we were in the same room. One night he ran into the room barefooted, and breathing heavily with his trousers in his hand.
He narrated what happened to the roommates. How he was at the school's love garden that night making out with his new girl, when Pat happened on then. According to him, Pat was mad - she broke bottle, and attempted to stab him. He had to run for his life.
The next day, I got her contact from him, and called her, to know her side of the story.
Sobbing, she said;
Your friend, Sam is the first guy I have ever been with, the first guy I kissed, he deflowered me. I have been through a lot for him, not to mention the abortions. I invested a lot in our relationship with hope of a future with him. After all these, he left me for another girl...
He used and dumped me....
Before I could say a word, she disconnected. I tried her to contact her again, but it was switched off.
I happened on her months later. We had lunch together. She told me that they have both moved on with their lives.
She said (not exact quote)
Your friend ditched me just like that. After everything we’d been through and how much I’d helped him. I couldn’t believe the way he turned his back on me just because he didn’t need me anymore. It was sickening. With some time, I got over that but, but I never fully got over the fear of it happening again.
It’s like you dreamt of something wonderful, and suddenly, someone came and took it all away from you. And then what follows is the blurry phase of self-judgments, bruised self-esteem and moments of emotional outbreaks. And you start contemplating where you went wrong and what you did to deserve such heartbreak. Yet, nothing brings you relief
At the end, the much I could offer was sympathy and motivation. That was the last time I saw her.
Guess what, yesterday I got a wedding invite, and boldly written on it is
"Pat weds Sam"
How did that happen?
Guess they some how found a path to themselves, again.
I wish them well in their relationship.
Great article bro