Losing friends as you grow up is a sign of Growing up Date: 20th March, 2022 Sunday Hello family. Another morning and another day started to shading slowly. Life is moving fast & we are following it’s path. Accepting news forms, pushing away wastes while negotiating new options and rejecting old things. This is the modern era which teaches us to be less emotionally attach with everything. Everything & everyone. The more you feel for your gadgets, properties, assets & people, the more you will feel the pain. Day by day we grow up and we see our beloved people decreasing. Not because of death but because of our less need. For example, our friends. How many of you have now comparing your childhood? This single question can answer the entire article. **Losing friends as you grow up, is a sign of growing up.** People say that which I believe now. I had many friends in my childhood whom I played with. Well, when I say childhood that means I am not talking about my 2/3yrs old age experience, I'm talking about the age of 5/6yrs. At least from when we start remembering everything. We have limited version or remembering incidents. Ok, where was I? Yes, with my friends. Before going school I have local friends. From neighbours obviously. Some of them joined me in my school days. So that was a huge plus point. Because after school and before school, we remained the same and shared everything. I got new friends there. The numbers increased every year untill I bade goodbye to my primary school days. Then in high school, college, university. It never stopped increasing. Beside this, the local friends increased too. So the numbers looked well when I count.
We all had this one. Our list got new names every year. New people and new experiences. But every thing in this world has a perfect time to shed. The calculated numbers start to less from the equation. The numbers never lie and so our life situation. We start keeping pace with the changing world and suddenly find out less times for the friends and even for the family. We cannot blame ourselves because our other friends are doing the same things. They are running too. They are also eager to keep upgrading with modern era. The change looks simple but the fact is we are grown up now. We don’t feel sad for not meeting friends for a long time. We don’t feel angry for what they have done to us by not responding our phone calls because we had done same thing. We are mature enough to show excuses and surprisingly no one blames another person for it! Simply we all have grown up too. We understand how it works, we know how to deal with it, we managed our life that way & now, we are just following it. Like a rule & following the era. We understand the loss when we find ourselves alone in the end. We feel the passion when we a bunch of children doing the same thing what we had done before. Maybe while getting stuck in a traffic jam, we can see two friends going school together while putting hands around each other's shoulder. That hit hard. Still we have friends but less in number. We have lost many and never felt it that way. The growing up nature has ended our that emotional attachment. Remember the line at the beginning when I mentioned attachment of everything getting less. See? We even getting less feelings for our lost friends! That's the point of growing up. You rise up and find less people around you whom you call friends.
Life has given us many things and fulfilled our dreams. But everything has it’s own cost. Growing up cost us friends. We have them still but less in numbers. They have the same. Our life, our busy schedule, our getting more opportunities has shed us many things. Just look at your life and count how many people you lost whom you called brother/sister from another mother. Have a list. You will find out memories and couple of drops of tears in the end. This is life my beloved friends. All the pictures including the lead are used from unsplash.com Thanks for being with me. ©Lucifer01
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As we have grown up, and entered in our practical life, so many responsibilities and experiences has changed us alot. So our priorities and preferences are also changed. We are now matured.
But everyone can not control emotion. I know how I feel after losing my best one.
Yeah. That limited our desire.
Yes this is the truth and I think having less friend sometimes means having less problem hahah!
yes that's true. But nobody knows when and where and how friendship will start on? I miss my buddy.
I know the feelings.
Agree. But we need them. They are part of life.
Actually they were not totally losing because they have been part of our lives. Maybe because we grew matured and we have new transition from childhood to adulthood. We have separated by time and destination.
And laws of nature. They also did the same.
I don't have any left right now. And I don't want to remember anything.
you are the lucky one. Hope nobody will lose his/her best friend.
Someone is upset about life! You can tell me.
No, I am happy. Thanks Lucifer
I think that's quite natural. Even the forgotten friends would understand that we are growing up 😁
Yes. For sure.
I am facing many bad situation in my life after loosing my best friend. You know it well.
Even I got shattered after it. I know about your feelings. Still you miss him, still you feel him. I understand it brother.
Growing up you will meet a lot of people and became friends with them. But as you grow up too, you know who's real and not. Choosing your own peers and friends when you are in a certain age like mid 20s and 30s are the surely the friends that will accompany you until lifetime.
Choosing a perfect one in life is impossible but we all have that one who cares.
I do not know this feeling because I never had good amount of friends to start with hahahaaha
Now you have one. Tea please?
Growing up at this stage of mine, losing friends becomes normal to me. I knew from the start that I will lose them but as much as possible, I keep those who are precious to me.
We can not over write the law of nature.
We lost one's but we gain one. What matters are the people that will stick to us at our worst. They are the true ones.
They are the gem of our life. Need to take care of them.
As we grow up ...our true friends who's there at all times will be the last standing together with us and support us till the end.
The true ones. I believe them.
Wow you’re very very correct on this I can’t even remember most of my friends back in those days in junior school while me and some barely chart. Well there’s an adage in my Yoruba that says 20 kids can’t be friends for 20 years.
Day by day the numbers are decreasing.
We come to a point that we realize we don't need that many friends. We only need those who matter.
Matter of fact that we need limited people now.
As we grow in age we are faced with much more duties than we had when we were younger, this would give us less time to keep friends, which will cause us to loss them.
I agree dear.
To teenagers and young adults it seems that they will live forever. With age, this "picture" changes. People realize that life is finite and should be spent on something pleasant. The number of friends begins to decrease...the only ones left are those who provide emotional intimacy and warmth. The rest are ruthlessly banished from the circle of communication. Yes, this is one of the signs of our growing up.
This is the law of nature. We cannot but accept it.
True Luci, losing friends is part of growing but the one who will stay is rare to find.
They are absolute gem dear.
Friend is need and friends indeed having less in quantity make it more enjoyable and memorable but having a lot friend no one cares about you
Thanks buddy.
Agree with this Luci but there are friends that is new also.
Let's hope they all remain with us.
Keeping my circle small also losing is part of growing, losing is gaining, also if your friend is true they will never be loose but instead they would understand that we have our own priorities and destination but the friendship must still remain.
Yes, I agree that.
We will meet new people from beginning to end of life, lose some old people and get new people back, this is the rule of our life.
Yes dear. We are just following it.
We lose some and then win some too :) My mind automatically went counting whom I "lost" and there were quite a few.
Don't count me in the lost list. Still I'm here.
Hahaha, you crack me up Luci!
I don't know if I still have a friends, but Virtual friend I got loads of that. But in real life I mean here to where I am, I don't have any one. I only have myself. And I'm cool with that.
We are with you. Well I'm always there to pinch you 🤭
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