" Couldn't have Two Queens in One Castle".
QUEEN - Define as ruler of a certain estate . A Kings' wife and the most respected female in the kingdom. This applies in different countries ruled under monarchy.
We are all aware that in every kingdom there is only ONE Queen and the rest are considered as Princess (s). Did you ever wonder why?
Ahmm, aside from it being stated in the Kingdom's Rule? I don't know either but maybe because the King couldn't marry two wives right? Just imagine how chaos it would be if there are two Queens ordering around. Even servants will be confused about whom to follow, lol! I think there would be NO peace in the house. NOT unless the other one is willing to concede.
That is why when my husband told me that her Mother, who happened to be my Mother in law, expressed her desire to live with us my reaction was, OMG!!
Don't get me wrong, I don't have issues with her, it is just, of course I am not that comfortable.
She said that in all her offspring she is more comfortable to live with is my husband. Maybe because my husband was indeed her favorite as his siblings say. That is why she is hoping my attitude won't change. Should I start showing some "attitude" then?
As of now, I can say that we are GOOD. My mother always reminds us not to have conflicts with our in-laws as she believes it is bad luck in married life. So I always kept that in my mind. Aside from that I believe Mother in law could be the greatest ally incase husband loses his way home.
However if with choice still I don't what to live with in laws for following reasons;
PRIVACY
I am not the type of person who is fond of PDA ( public display of attention). So having anyone in the house would indeed limit my "moves", hahaha. Maybe because I was not raised in a family that was expressive in showing emotions. I felt shy if someone saw me being sweet. Aside from that I also love to cuddle in bed every morning but if my mother in law is in the house. For sure I will be forced to get up early.
I AM NOT A GOOD COOK
This is one of my concerns. Didn't I mention that my husband's family are great cooks? His brother's sometimes are hired to cook if there are occasions. So having a mother in law at home means two of his siblings that are still single for sure will come along. These two are too picky when it comes to food. They prefer meat, processed foods, etc. Opposite of what I wanted.
Having will gives me a headache about what food to be prepared. Unless I tell them, they should provide for themselves. They might just criticize my cooking skills.
AUTHORITY IN THE HOUSE
Living with the in-laws was hard as I experienced that when my husband was still here. Even in simple things, I felt that I don't have that authority since it is NOT my house. Just even choosing a TV channel example. I am a fan of ABS-CBN but his Mom is GMA. So my choice is to watch with her or not too.
So I was thinking I might get overpowered in my own house. As you know how in laws act sometimes.
Not only overpowered but even will lose my privacy.
Yes there is a big possibility as I am the type of person who doesn't like to argue remember? I might say only " OKAY" most of the time. Or else I might lose myself due to anger when triggered.
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You might ask if our house is done? Ahmm, ALMOST. Just installation of electricity and wall painting. Yes it is not yet done but there are already my husband's family members who want to move in. Seems they are as excited as me.
How about you? Are you okay living with your in-laws?
08:13PM
07/08/2022_Manila_Philippines
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Mother in laws and wives struggles is something common but in my opinion I think families of a groom it bride should not interfere or be in a home causing nuisance for a married couple