Common Misconceptions in having an OFW partner.

Overseas Filipino workers, commonly known as OFW, my fellow Filipinos chose to leave our homeland and try their luck in other countries. It might be hard for them as they leave their loved ones with a heavy heart; they pursue what is planned with nothing brought with them aside from courage and skills. They hope to earn more to reach their dreams. One of those is the Family! A good life for them.

Many who doesn't know what is the real life of OFWs's. You might see on their social media post that they are happy and enjoying life, but behind those smiles, there is sorrow. Some would always say, " wow may abroad, dami pera." Ahh, if only they knew.

Honestly, even though I used to have that mindset, not until I found myself in the situation. Some of you might know already that my husband is working in Taiwan. He left before the pandemic hit worldwide. Well, it was not his first time, but rather a second contract. We were working in the same company before, but when we started our relationship, he decided to file a resignation for one reason; for our future. We didn't earn much as we were only minimum wage earners then. Since he wanted to have us married and have our own home, he left the country. That was the year 2015, I think. Congratulate me, guys, I survive a long-distance relationship!The photo was taken at the airport while waiting for his flight, the year 2015.

Back to the topic, what I am sharing now with you are usual misconceptions for those who had an OFW partner;

• Financially Stable - Seriously, this is the most overrated. Let me be clear being an OFW was never a stable job. Yes, earnings might be more considerable than here in our country, but this person should realize that they only work by contract. Once the contract ended and I decided to go home for good, it was not that easy to find a job here. With that thought, they should have savings and investments for the future.

  Also, many think that once you work outside the country automatically, you have a lot of money! The hell where did they get that notion? Sad to say, but sometimes, family and relatives started to demand this and that—even friends. Not only once I experienced being requested by someone for a treat, donations, borrowing money, etc. When I declined and reasoned out that I didn't have an extra, most of them wouldn't believe me. 

  "Your husband is working abroad! Common Les, don't be stingy".

  See? So they expect me to spend my husband's hard-earned money on them? I am not stingy; just managing my expenses. I don't want my better half to go home seeing NOTHING from the fruit of his labor!

• Hayahay (comfortable ) life - Am I? financially, I may am not struggling; maybe because I have work and we don't yet have a kid. Yet it doesn't mean that life is like that. Honestly, it was hard! Not all the time; it's only about money ( though it is necessary, especially not with high inflation). Most of the time, I find weekend and night blues. It was tiring to talk with myself; OMG!

• I don't have someone to talk with when I am not emotionally okay. I opted not to share that thought as I didn't want to bother him. Even when I am sick, I still have no choice but to get my ass off the bed. See? How can I have a comfortable life if I am longing for his "comfort"? Charr. I am saying it was never okay to have an OFW better half. Now I understand why others opted to cheat. They were lonely eh, and maybe.............. aching? Lol.

There are so many things I wanted to share, actually, but I don't want to bore anyone. So I call the night quits for today. My fingers and arms are already numb from working almost the whole day.

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Hello everyone from the Philippines. Time check was 07:50 PM as of the writing, and we are now at the 07 November for 2022.