Paradise with the righteous, defeat with the wicked - the famous Iranian scholar Sheikh Saadi (Rah.) Rightly said.
This is one of the most important issues of the present time. Much of your life depends on choosing your friends. Good friends will make your life happier. Bad friends will turn life into hell. Many times the price of that bad friendship has to be paid with one's own life. Young people of the present time often make mistakes in choosing this friendship. Because they value so-called modernity more. They think that the so-called popular people are the ones who understand their idols or come in contact with them.
They see drug use as part of so-called modernity. Whether a young person is crossing the stage of his emotions or not, he accepts this aspect of the destruction of society. They start hanging out with drug addict siblings or friends. At first those big brothers and friends gave him drugs with their own money. Then he gets a different feeling. Which he had not felt before. He is drowning in the intoxication of new feelings. And in a way he doesn't need his own money. Big brother or friends are giving him these for free. But he does not realize that he is slowly moving towards destruction.
At one point, he became addicted to drugs, and his older brother, a friend, stopped giving him drugs.
As a result, young people can neither quit drugs nor raise money. Then he pressured the family for money. It frightens the parents with various excuses. Many are involved in bad deeds to raise money for drugs. In this way he gradually became a regular member of the criminal world. That seems to be his modernity. In that way, if he smokes in front of everyone or has a party with alcohol and cannabis, I understand that everyone will think him smart.
Most of the young people become drug addicts by mixing with bad company. Especially the newly admitted children in the university come here more. Meritorious people come to the university and run after the so-called smartness. In the name of studying from home, he stays drunk day and night with money. Year after year, he continues to fail in academic life. Despair engulfed his life. At one point he thinks his life has no meaning. Then he chose the path of suicide. This is how a potential young man or woman ends prematurely.
If he had mixed with a good company?
But on the other hand, if he had mixed with a good company, his life would have been different. There are also many instances where the bad boy or girl has become good by mixing with the good. Returning from a bad life he is living a healthy normal life. It is very important to come to the university and circle. Because no one can be alone in life. And there are thousands of groups and options in the university.
Now it is important to choose which is better for you. A university student must have such awareness. He has to be social. Must be humane. Must be patriotic. Maintain good relations with the family. In this case, the family also has many responsibilities. They need to look for their child regularly. Must be in regular contact. You have to see where and with whom they are mixing. Many parents end their responsibilities as soon as their children go to university. And he doesn't look for it, he doesn't keep in touch.
The child does not even notice that he is slowly moving towards the dark world. But such a cycle of family has no end here. It always tends to rotate. The responsibilities and duties of one towards the other never end. So never leave the child alone. Even if you are not together physically, you will always be with him mentally.
Islam has specific guidelines for choosing friends. In the Holy Qur’an, Kareem Allahu ta’ala says, ‘And the believing men and the believing women are friends of each other. They teach good words and refrain from evil deeds. Establishes prayers, pays zakat and lives according to the instructions of Allah and His Messenger. God will have mercy on them. Verily, Allaah is All-Mighty, All-Wise. '(Surat at-Tawba, verse 61) The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: Better a poor horse than no horse at all.
Judging should be considered in choosing a friend. It is not right to make friends with someone if he is attracted to them, but first to review what is the reason or source of attraction to him and whether he is worthy of being a friend at all and so on.
Closing thoughts
Tragic consequences can often come when friendships are formed through a sudden acquaintance, that is, without any judicial analysis. In the case of many internet friends, this can be easily guessed. Nowadays many friendships are being formed with the help of social media. There are many good friendships and many bad ones. But the bad example is more. The consequences of most relationships introduced through this are very bad. It's not that your friend will be good for a lot of change. You have to see that change for good or for bad. Accept if it is good, discard it quickly if it is bad.
Real friends are much closer than parents, mothers, family. He can be trusted the most. All the moments of life can be shared with him. It is important to have faith in friendship, so it is your responsibility to bring the right friend to life. So instead of choosing friendship by looking at the glamor of the so-called modern world, choose the right friend in the time of happiness and sorrow of life. Then life will be much easier, simpler and happier. And choosing a bad friend can cost you your life.
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