Hello everyone, happy Sunday to you all
Today's article is inspired by a post I came across on nairaland a few days ago, the title of the post simply reads; Jealous girlfriend destroys boyfriend's TV, others for cheating. A video accompanied the post and in it, a girl was outside her boyfriend's house throwing huge stones through the window, destroying things inside the house
According to the boyfriend, he said someone told her that he is in the house with another woman, so she came to his house with fury and started destroying his things through the window. Now I am not going to bother about if the boyfriend is really cheating or not but why destroy things when you can just leave the relationship?
She's lucky that her boyfriend is a calm person, what if It's someone that has a hot temper and he decides to beat her up after that? Many people condemned her actions and some men said they will get her arrested and she must pay for the damages she caused, but I was surprised to see someone supporting the destruction. In her words, she said;
I don't support destruction of properties. But I support dealing with cheats if there is glaring evidence. So breaking of electronics is small. The whole building should've been crushed with a bulldozer and the guy is liable to lose his body part or small part of his life depending on the gravity of the cheating
This lady has probably been cheated on so many times for her to have so much hate in her hate. I immediately challenged her and made it clear to her that it isn't a crime to cheat on your partner, but it's a crime to destroy someone's property and you can get arrested, but nobody has been arrested (legally) for breaking someone's heart.
In plain terms, I am saying that nobody has the right to destroy someone's else property but everyone who isn't married has the right to cheat, it's now up to you as a morally upright person to stay faithful to your partner or cheat like a dog. I don't know how it is done in other places but here in my country, the law doesn't recognize boyfriend/girlfriend relationships.
You and your partner didn't go to a court of law to take an oath of chastity before starting your relationship, nothing is binding both of you to commitment except "I love you" and "I love you too" and if they eventually cheat in the relationship, you can't do anything except walking away, it's just the bitter truth. I have seen and heard stories of jilted lovers taking out their frustration on their partner's properties, some even go as far as inflicting body harm or committing murder!
Some of them get away with it (not the murder aspect tho) but the unfortunate ones are beaten up by their partner or they end up getting arrested and made to pay for the destruction they caused. If it comes down to it and the matter is brought before a judge in a court of law, how are they even going to justify their actions? "He broke my heart, so I destroyed his car", and they think the judge is going to sympathize with them?
Most of them probably did what they did out of anger; getting cheated on is one of the worst feelings in the world and everyone has different reactions to it. Some shrug it off and move on immediately, some cry their eyes out, some start binge-watching their favorite TV shows, then we have the commandos that get consumed with anger and go on a destroying spree; wreaking havoc on whatever they lay their hands on.
We don't know who's capable of cheating until it eventually happens, you can't predict when it happens and it's something that just hits you from nowhere. Just in case you find yourself in such a painful situation, try to get your hands off any of the person's properties, and don't even bother getting into a fight, you're bigger than that. Don't try to be like the cheating bastard and do things that will hurt them, the best you can do is to leave the relationship and go find happiness somewhere else, your happiness isn't tied to one person.
Thanks for reading 💖💖💖
Sunday October 2nd, 2022
Well said everyone has the right to cheat but doesn't give men the right to disrespect a woman feelings.