It's a cold evening over here and I am just in my room feeling very pissed off about the poor power supply this country has. I was eager to work on my project today when there was light in the morning but it went off before my laptop finished turning on 😩.
I was still hoping power will be restored later on but up until now we are still in the dark, I don't even have any more hopes that it will come on today. I spent a lot of time on Twitter today connecting with other programmers and that was when I came across a thread of awesome psychological quotes and I want to talk about one of them today.
You are only caging yourself
One of the things that is a big source of unhappiness is trying to live up to the expectations of others. Most of the time, people that live this way are always trying to find ways to please others, and receiving validation is all they care about. Even when what they are doing is a source of pain for them, they are stuck in the illusion that they will be happy if other people approve of them.
This is the reason why you will see some women trying to do plastic surgery to modify their bodies and meet up with "industry standards" because they believe that's what society expects from them; "I need to have them bigger because that's what men like", a lot of them say to themselves before going under surgery. The unlucky ones end up losing their lives, all because they are trying to please society.
Many people have been held back from achieving greatness because they are always worried about what people will say. "I can't wear that cloth again because people will think I am poor", "I can't be a fashion designer because people expect me to be a doctor", "I can't marry her because everyone said she's not my type", how about doing what you really want?
The truth is that people are always going to have expectations but you can't allow that to decide how you're going to live your life. One thing to remember is that you can't please everybody, there's always going to be someone that will be unsatisfied with what you do, so why not just do what you really want since there's nothing you can do to make everyone happy?
The funny thing is that even when someone ends up dying, everyone still won't be satisfied. Some persons will be sad about the person's death, but someone out there will be happy about it. Trying to meet up with everyone's expectations comes with a sacrifice and that's your happiness. You end up sacrificing our happiness just to make them happy and guess what? They still won't be satisfied!
The moment you stop trying to live according to people's expectations, you will realize you will be happier with yourself. Trying to please people is closely tied to having low self-esteem, which in turn is linked to not having self-love; you simply don't love yourself! If you really love yourself, why bother going against your happiness just to get recognition from someone else? Why allow someone's else validations to determine your happiness?
The more you try to meet the expectations of others, the bigger the cage you create around yourself and it doesn't stop growing until you have completely enclosed yourself and can no longer see the world. Aside from the mental stress that comes with this, there's also a very high chance that you will fall into depression.
Something funny just happened at this point. I am currently listening to Kendrick Lamar's latest album and the current song I am listening to now is Kendrick Lamar just screaming "I can't please everybody" 😆 talk about perfect timing! I had to restart the song so I can closely listen to the lyrics and I think y'all should listen to it as well. The song's name is crown by Kendrick Lamar
Closing thought
You can't please everybody, don't even bother doing that unless you're fine with being a slave for the rest of your life and staying behind a cage of your own creation. Start doing things you care about and don't give a fvck about what anybody thinks, your happiness should come first in your life. Do this and watch how happier your life becomes. Happiness is very easy to acquire, we are the ones that make it complicated.
Thanks for reading 💖💖💖
Wednesday June 8, 2022
This country will humble you when it comes to expectations 😅 Well, many people have lost their lives due to living for everyone, especially the ones caused by family, that's the worst cause one might have no place to run to.