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We have a different story about why we ignore people who were close to us before, and the main reason for all of these is either we hurt them or they hurt us. I bet you will not avoid them if they didn't do something wrong to you right? However, it usually happens when the communication is no longer healthy and you need to cut it out.

There is nothing wrong if you will end your relationship with those toxic people. You need to secure your peace of mind. It's not healthy if you will gonna hold and stay with them. Worst you will never experience being happy again.

This year, I cut a lot of people in my life. I feel suffocated by their act. One that I avoided is my family relatives. Just because they are relative elders to me they are always right? I guess not all the time. I am no longer a kid to be controlled, but it doesn't mean I want to rebel with them. I already know my rights and I know that I'm doing it right. Elders often use their age to manipulate us to follow them even though we already have our own mindset, as if they own us. Exchanging hurtful words with them will not gonna help to defend me. It will look like I am not different from them either. I want to give myself a distinction. I don't want to be like them. Besides, respect will be given if the people are deserving, not because they are entitled to it.

Next are some friends that I thought will treat me the same way. The saying is really true if you got everything that will benefit them they will stay, but if you have nothing they will slowly disappear. You're lucky if there is still remains but if not, much better than faking yourself just to be fit with them. Having many friends is cool but getting one true friend that will be there for you no matter what happens is priceless. They are like a soul mate destined for you.

I cut my communication with these people after I realize I am only being used. I received a lot of stories that they will talk behind my back and face me like a concerned thoughtful family/friend because they will ask a favor after by it. If I don't grant what they want they will count again and reminisce their endless help that was done before as if I owe to them my whole life, for me to feel guilty. They are mad because I don't want to talk to them, for what? I am just a relative that they gossip to others. I am just relative that they can mess with because they think of themselves as if a high people and can't be reached. Why do they still need me? Haha. Maybe today they have what I haven't but it's okay 'cause they can't do what I can.

But it's over now. That trick doesn't affect me anymore. I had enough. Tolerating them with their behaviors is letting myself be controlled over and over again.

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Silence doesn't mean you are a coward. You just don't want to see yourself adopting stingy attitudes. You know you are better than them and show it through your behaviors.

People can cover their faces with thick make-ups but it will still fade and soon will reveal their true colors. So, you should know whom to trust and whom you gonna let stay in your life. Cut them out if they are not healthy for you.

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