Truths that may be lies

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There are "truths" that are passed down from generation to generation. We believe in them because they fit into the model of polite and appropriate behavior or they are so common that we adopt them by default. We never ask ourselves whether these claims are true and we believe in them without questions or doubts.

I was watching a girl in the park. She was holding her favorite doll. The doll was nicely dressed, neatly combed and the girl could be seen taking care of the doll. Her mother told me that the girl loves this doll very much and that she received it as a reward for some effort. She was expensive and they couldn’t afford it so easily. Ever since they bought the doll, the girl has not separated from it.

While she was playing in the park, several girls asked her to give them a doll to look at. She did not want to. They were persistent. The girl held her doll tight. Then her mom said, "let them look, don't be selfish". Selfish? Here we come to one truth. "It's not good to be selfish." The girl listened to her mother because the word "selfish" sounded terrible. The girls took the doll and removed her head and arm. Did they do it out of jealousy or malice? Here we come to another truth: "Children are innocent beings, devoid of negative emotions." The girl cried. Her favorite doll was destroyed. I was sorry to observe the further course of the situation, so I moved on and started writing this article to share my impressions with you and hear your opinion.

Truth or lie? Here are a few claims that are debatable as to whether they are true or false even though they exist as believing truths.

"It is not good to be selfish."

If we want to achieve our goals, to be healthy and happy we have to put ourselves at the center of the world sometimes. We need to take care of ourselves. If we have gained something through our efforts, that is important for us, it is okay to keep it from other people who have destructive tendencies. It’s okay to be selfish sometimes so I think this claim is a lie.

"Children are innocent beings, not malicious."

Children can sometimes be cruel, hurt with words and physical violence. They can have destructive tendencies driven by negative emotions like jealousy. Sometimes they can hurt more than adults. It's a lie that they can't be malicious. Recently, in my neighborhood at school, a boy was sexually abused by other boys with a wooden stick. These are children who are 12 years old and have monstrous behavior that is certainly not innocent.

"When we do good, good comes back to us."

It is not always the case that this statement is true. It is good to do good deeds because then we feel good and fulfilled, but we should not believe that by doing good deeds good things will happen to us because there are many injustices in the world and this claim is more like a fairy tale than the truth.

"Comfort and security should be strived for in life."

If we want to achieve our goals in life, we must step out of our comfort zone and feel uncomfortable. It is incorrect to strive for a safe, comfortable, and secure life because life is unpredictable. We need to be ready for challenges.

"It is impossible."

Nothing is impossible if you want enough. Every dream is achievable because when we want something, we do not give up on finding a way to make it happen.

"Happy people have no problems."

Happiness is not the absence of problems. It is a strength to face them. When we have the hardest time, we are open to the biggest positive changes.

"It's too late."

We should always give ourselves a second chance. No matter how many times we have been disappointed in the past, it should not stop us from doing something good in the present. While we are alive, it is not too late.

I believe that all these truths are lies. And what about you? Do you know any other truth that can be a lie?

Thank you very much for reading.

The article and the image are original and mine.

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Yes I totally believe you Jelena. These things are all lies, but our forefathers have made us believe it. In my own terms, I call it superstitions. I feel for the girl and I think that's pure jealousy and malice. Nice to meet you

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“Happiness is not the absence of problems, but the strength to face them.” I liked this phrase very much, that all you said are realistic things, selfishness is self-love and it is the most important, you have to love yourself first and then others, and children can be bad, there are impossible things, but with persistence you can change some of them. Really great article

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2 years ago

Exactly. We have to be selfish sometimes because if we are not good to ourselves we will not be good to others. Many times I have made sure that children know how to hurt others and yes, unfortunately that is true.

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I will agree with you when you say that when we do good, good will not necessarily come back to us. Life is not fair and a lot of bad things happen. We should just do good not expecting anything in return.

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2 years ago

It is best to behave without expecting anything because then we are always pleasantly surprised.

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They have always pass these lies to us and made us believe they are truths. Often they tell us "good comes back to you when you do good". I believe is a bit far from the truth. Experientially, i had done good to some people but what i got back was bad.

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And I also think that’s definitely not true. If we do good things, it is good for us because it fulfills people but we should not expect good to always come back to us because it often happens to come back worse than we could have imagined.

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I feel sad about the little girl...I had a doll before, it was a cheap doll but given by my mom so I loved it so much. The dog tore it apart. I was heartbroken, I know how that girl felt...You are right my friend, sometimes, we have to protect what matters most to us because we don't know what others will do with it. Either a toy, or a book, or our name- they can be ruined just by seconds if we don't protect them. Some truths are just lies- they were just said to us so we will feel good temporarily until we believe them to be true. I remember my ate or big sis Ai2 was told by her mom that she was the most beautiful girl in the world, she believed it until one day, she went to school, she couldn't believe that some girls were prettier than her. She said, "Mom lied to me".

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2 years ago

Some truths really only make us happy temporarily and then we are confronted with a reality that is actually different and we are easily disappointed and realize that there are a lot of lies we have believed in, considering them true.

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2 years ago

This article sounds different. The content is unique. The statements you have enumerated can be true or not. It depends how people understand the statement. May be it is true for some but it's a lie for others.

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2 years ago

Yes, these are usually statements that are considered true but often turn out to be false. Thanks.

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2 years ago

You're right my friend. It is such a deceiving statement.

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2 years ago

These are more words meant to condition our human behaviours, they've never been true.

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Yes, these are not truths. These are opinions that are passed down from generation to generation and many believe in them but they are not always true.

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this has a very good meaning, the story elements describe the innocence of a child because as small children their actions are innocent, what they feel is what they will do. only adults are actually sick but cover it with a smile. we have to be sincere and not selfish and this is true, being selfish will only have a negative effect because one day we will be treated the same way.

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I don't think children are always innocent. In my story, children hurt and can have bad intentions and negative emotions even though they are children. And I think it’s ok to be selfish sometimes because we have to take care of ourselves and put ourselves at the center of the world. Not always and not too much of course.

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2 years ago

I just realized those really are the truth we thought to believe without thinking that there are lies behind it. Being selfish is not that bad after all. In his world to survive, you have to think of yourself and your family first before thinking of others. I am one jolly person but I am not always happy.

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2 years ago

I agree. Being selfish is good sometimes because if we don't take care of ourselves no one else will do it. I am always smiling and cheerful, but I am not always happy.

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2 years ago

I like your topic. You describe it well.

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2 years ago

Sometimes those "truths" are like mantras, and when those fail we feel frustrated and angry... truths are deeper and complex, many other circumstances have to be taken into account and each person have his/her own truth and life.

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Yes, these are some claims that follow us throughout life and we believe they should be true but in fact this is not always the case which is disappointing for us. And yes, you are right, each person has their own truth.

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2 years ago

These aren't really truths but societal constructs. More like soothing words to make us feel better about ourselves and those around us

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Yes, we invented it to feel better believing in it. You're right.

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2 years ago

I will not deny the fact that sometimes we teach them wrong things or lie. We know deep down that we are cheating them.

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We used to be taught by our parents, now we teach our children, but it often happens that we pass on to them some statements that are not true and are believed to be true.

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2 years ago

Amazing, how about the white lie? We tend to make lies for the benefit of the people around us. sometimes we need to act like bad people in order that the people could realize how life is so challenging. For the betterment of the people We may lied but for its good purpose.

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2 years ago

White lies are always present and it seems that people cannot function without them. We often lie to children for some good purpose. But all lies are definitely lies and I try to avoid them. I prefer black truth to white lies. 😀

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2 years ago

Some these lines feels so good but the people in today's world don't do justice to it. I think we say or believe in some of those things just to console ourselves. Those are obvious lies except it's too late one, which can be true in many situations. Mostly in relationships, as sometimes people have already went too far from the other and the other wants to catch up but it's too late, now he/she is settled. Also lol in crypto also, when someone says it's too late to buy BTC, that is nearly true and another say it's too late to buy BCH, man you dumb or what. Haha just my personal perspective.

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Haha yes 😀 You're right, maybe sometimes it's really too late although it's easier for me to believe it's never too late because it sounds comforting.

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