The 5 Red Flags You Should Watch Out For In A Person

Getting to know a person can be unpredictable sometimes. A person can be so good at hiding their true intentions when they see you as their potential victim. Of course, you can't see the real identity of a person at the first meeting. It takes a lot of time to finally get to know the person.

I have mentioned in my previous article to never be complacent. When you step out of your residence, you are already putting yourself at risk. Not just with Covid but with dangerous people as well.

But how about if you are already in a relationship and your partner shows signs of red flags? I believe you need to check these red flags for you to discern and decide whether you stay or break up with him or her.

Addictions

I know this is something very obvious but this deserves to be on the list. Any form of addiction is no good. May it be alcohol, drugs, or gambling. If you already know the person that has an addiction, why would you enter into a relationship that will just give you a headache?

Come to think of it, do you want to have a healthy relationship and have a solid bond with your partner or, do you just want to be a guardian for that person? It will just give you a life of torture.

One would say that "if you really love the person, you'll stay and help them to recover". I will suggest giving that person a second chance because everyone deserves it but if they are already abusive and destructive, that's your go signal.

Disrespect

If someone makes you feel bad about yourself constantly and it reaches the point that you are already doubting yourself, then it's time to get out of that toxic relationship. If he or she is emotionally and verbally abusing you, that should be it.

You don't deserve to stay with someone who makes you feel pathetic. This usually happens when one makes money more than the other that it establishes some sort of superiority in the relationship. When you don't feel your worth anymore, run. I believe it is never too late to get out of the situation as long as you're alive? There's hope.

Manipulation

This word has been generally used lately. I'm sure most of us are not aware of such behaviors we do but it's actually straight manipulation. It doesn't just happen with relationships but in all forms of connections.

This attitude is something to watch out for because they can twist the whole story and put the blame on you. They give you threats or intimidation if you want to do something out of their preferences. Or, they will instill something in your mind to make you feel guilty.

You may not be aware of it because you are blinded by love and with that, they have already established a major change in your well-being. This is why it is also important to have someone or circle you feel safe. That way, they can help you rethink and discern about reality.

Lying

A constant pattern of lying should not be tolerated. I mean, everybody lies. I don't believe nobody lies. Sometimes, we lie to protect ourselves and the people around but if it is already a habit of lying then that has to stop.

You found out your partner went out with his peers and he lied about it. It's not just lying but also cheating. It's crystal clear, you have solid proof of cheating and yet he still denies it. You have to end that relationship. It's not good for your mental health.

A relationship will only thrive if there is trust. However, trust should not be taken advantage of and abused. If you find yourself that you are the only one working hard for the relationship to be better, you need to end it.

How can you be in a relationship with someone you don't trust?

Irresponsibility

Nobody is perfect. We make bad decisions, that's reality. However, if that person doesn't take responsibility for that then it is something to watch out for. This person may not be open to change and he or is not teachable.

At the end of the day, what we are looking for someone is Maturity. Someone who is mature in all aspects.

Emotional maturity

He or she is fully aware that there are things he or she needs to work out for them to grow and become better.

Financial maturity

Someone responsible for taking care of assets. I'm not saying that you will look for someone who's rich. It should be someone who's willing to work it out and progress together.

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Keep safe everyone! ❤