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The 5 Red Flags You Should Watch Out For In A Person

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Getting to know a person can be unpredictable sometimes. A person can be so good at hiding their true intentions when they see you as their potential victim. Of course, you can't see the real identity of a person at the first meeting. It takes a lot of time to finally get to know the person.

I have mentioned in my previous article to never be complacent. When you step out of your residence, you are already putting yourself at risk. Not just with Covid but with dangerous people as well.

But how about if you are already in a relationship and your partner shows signs of red flags? I believe you need to check these red flags for you to discern and decide whether you stay or break up with him or her.

Addictions

I know this is something very obvious but this deserves to be on the list. Any form of addiction is no good. May it be alcohol, drugs, or gambling. If you already know the person that has an addiction, why would you enter into a relationship that will just give you a headache?

Come to think of it, do you want to have a healthy relationship and have a solid bond with your partner or, do you just want to be a guardian for that person? It will just give you a life of torture.

One would say that "if you really love the person, you'll stay and help them to recover". I will suggest giving that person a second chance because everyone deserves it but if they are already abusive and destructive, that's your go signal.

Disrespect

If someone makes you feel bad about yourself constantly and it reaches the point that you are already doubting yourself, then it's time to get out of that toxic relationship. If he or she is emotionally and verbally abusing you, that should be it.

You don't deserve to stay with someone who makes you feel pathetic. This usually happens when one makes money more than the other that it establishes some sort of superiority in the relationship. When you don't feel your worth anymore, run. I believe it is never too late to get out of the situation as long as you're alive? There's hope.

Manipulation

This word has been generally used lately. I'm sure most of us are not aware of such behaviors we do but it's actually straight manipulation. It doesn't just happen with relationships but in all forms of connections.

This attitude is something to watch out for because they can twist the whole story and put the blame on you. They give you threats or intimidation if you want to do something out of their preferences. Or, they will instill something in your mind to make you feel guilty.

You may not be aware of it because you are blinded by love and with that, they have already established a major change in your well-being. This is why it is also important to have someone or circle you feel safe. That way, they can help you rethink and discern about reality.

Lying

A constant pattern of lying should not be tolerated. I mean, everybody lies. I don't believe nobody lies. Sometimes, we lie to protect ourselves and the people around but if it is already a habit of lying then that has to stop.

You found out your partner went out with his peers and he lied about it. It's not just lying but also cheating. It's crystal clear, you have solid proof of cheating and yet he still denies it. You have to end that relationship. It's not good for your mental health.

A relationship will only thrive if there is trust. However, trust should not be taken advantage of and abused. If you find yourself that you are the only one working hard for the relationship to be better, you need to end it.

How can you be in a relationship with someone you don't trust?

Irresponsibility

Nobody is perfect. We make bad decisions, that's reality. However, if that person doesn't take responsibility for that then it is something to watch out for. This person may not be open to change and he or is not teachable.


At the end of the day, what we are looking for someone is Maturity. Someone who is mature in all aspects.

Emotional maturity

He or she is fully aware that there are things he or she needs to work out for them to grow and become better.

Financial maturity

Someone responsible for taking care of assets. I'm not saying that you will look for someone who's rich. It should be someone who's willing to work it out and progress together.

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I feel bad now, knowing i'm never going to be meet al the criteria you summed up. I have tried to quit my addiction, really tried hard, but it's just not something i'll be able to get rid of. I will be an addict for the rest of my life, be a red flag forever. sigh I can't imgine a day without Dropveters, and thinking about never having a dropveter ever again.... sends shivers down my spine. I'm sorry.

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1 month ago

What's dropveters? Or you would want to reach out to a facility that'll help you with that condition?

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1 month ago

Sorry, that was a (failed) attempt at humor. A dropveter is liquorich in the form of a long shoelace like thread, they roll up and then sell it. It's one of my final should be secret pleasures i refuse to give up.

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1 month ago

Soy de estas personas que detesta las mentiras tanto así que no soporto ni las llamadas piadosas. Pienso que una verdad aunque sea mala cae mejor que una mentira al final Linda tarde

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1 month ago

I read everything and paid close attention, I wish I had read this sooner, I wouldn't have had to face such an awful relationship experience. I had to learn the hard way which is also good because such lessons are buried deep. Of the ones listed the one I am particular about is Lying, if there are lies then trust can't exist, and if there is no trust, relationships can't exist. It is the most obvious of all the flags yet somehow we miss it. Maybe love is just blind after all. Thanks for the brilliant write-up.

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1 month ago

Cuando las personas llegan a la mentira ya no debemos buscar más nada ya eso lo dise todo por ende no debemos perdonar ni la mentira ni la persona que la dise. Linda tarde

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1 month ago

Probably so, you need to learn the hard way so you will have the greatest learning you can bring for the future. I'm wishing you all the best ❤

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1 month ago

You're right about this,if we need a relationship which would last longer,we should find a right partner who understands us and won't tell lies though but speak the truth.

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1 month ago

It's rare to find that person and if you do, you must be so lucky and blessed. ❤

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1 month ago

You're right, it's hard to have such friends but we have anyone we need to hold on tight to them and be of good courage to them

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1 month ago

Lying it is

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1 month ago

but there are still some people who are blinded by love to the point that they no longer mind if they're hurting as long as they are still with the person they love

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1 month ago

Then that means to say that they do not love themselves fully. You have to be complete first before loving others. Self-love, as they say. ❤

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1 month ago

May ibang tao na tingin ata sa sarili ay super here kaya kahit ang dami ng red flag na nakatusok don sa isang tao gogora pa rin. Lucky if napabago nya, what if hindi at sya ang nagbago? Chorrrr ahahaha

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1 month ago

Nakooo, parehas silang may red flags. Mag flag raising nlng sila madam. 😅

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1 month ago

That's why I have trust issues.. Naay mga tawong bisan unsa ka gamay sa butang ipamakak pa.. Dili na dayon ta ganahan maminaw nila 😅

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1 month ago

Because we already know the truth and we will end up clapping our hands watching them lying. 😆

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1 month ago

Siguro nasa open communication din Kasi people change Naman?

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User's avatar Yen
1 month ago

Yeah, people change naman. Chances are there always, everyone deserves a second chance but if you see the person not helping himself to change, then that's it. Yung walang willingness and sincerity ba.

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1 month ago

But there are some people who would still stay with that person even if they have already seen some red flags and their reason is that they love that person and that they might change.

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1 month ago

Yeah, that's commitment madam. However, if that person doesn't have the willingness to meet halfway, I don't think it's still gonna work out. Kakapagod kaya yung parang ikaw nlng naniniwala na may relasyon pa kayo. 😬

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1 month ago

Byti na lang hindi ako naniniwala na may relasyon kami. Hahahaha. Napasok pa siya sa usapan 🤣

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1 month ago

Yaaay. I didn't know it went to that personal level madam. 😶🤭

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1 month ago

Hahahaha. Hindi naman. Parang ano lang no labels lang talaga kami. Na kahit na minsan sweet siya na parang may pagkajowa ang dating eh hindi ko iniisip na may kami kasi walang kami 😭😭 may kailangan lang kaya siya sweet. JOKE. Hahahaha

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1 month ago

Anong kailangan niya? Hehe

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1 month ago

Gusto niya shoes at kung ano pang maisipan niya. Hahahaha. Mala Vice ang peg ko 😅

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1 month ago

I see. Hehe. Giving gifts pala love language mo madam. 😁

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1 month ago

Hahahaha. Babaguhin ko na. Hindi na ako magreregalo sa susunod na magiging kalandian ko 🤣

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1 month ago

I'm proud of you madam. You have learned your mistakes ❤

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1 month ago

I want to make a couple more. Hahahaha. Just kidding 😘

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1 month ago

Do it at your own risk? Hehe

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