Receiving Too Much Hate? Choose To Be The Better Person

Whether we like it or not, there will always be people who will never like us. Not everyone treats you the same as your family or friends do. They will always find that tiny spot from your kindness and take advantage of your vulnerability.

Well, that's reality. We don't think alike. We can't force everyone to like you. Some may find you pretty, while others may not. Some see the goodness in your heart but some are blinded by your past. We don't share the same level of thinking.

We can't control how others think about us but we can control how we deal with them. On a personal basis, it is you who controls your emotions whether you let yourself fall into that trap or be the wiser person and don't level down. It is your power to choose how you respond to the drama.

Be a bottle of water

I'll take this as an example. Choose to be a bottle of water. When a person shakes a bottle of water, the water inside that bottle may be shaken but as you open the cap, it remains calm and steady. This metaphor signifies our emotions when dealing with situations.

No matter how many times a person or a circumstance shakes your faith, dedication, hope, and trust, you may be shaken but you did not explode and let go. You chose to maintain your inner peace and I should congratulate you for that.

I realized that the lesser you react to the insults, drama, and provocations people give you, the smarter you become. Sometimes things are better left unsaid. Your silence is the perfect explanation already.

Don't be a bottle of soda.

This is self-explanatory as I have clearly stated what it means to be a bottle of water. When you shake a bottle of soda, it gets distracted and soon it explodes. It signifies the reaction we do when something comes up and shakes our being.

I get that it is so easy to say to brush it off and ignore the hate. It hurts our ego as it cultivates negativity in our minds because we are human beings. But,

What is the best thing to do when we encounter challenging people?

Pray for them.

When somebody gives you a hateful comment, that person usually hates himself. Why? Because he may have seen something in you that he doesn't have in himself. Instead of appreciating what you do, he gives you hurtful words to bring you down.

Can you imagine how difficult his life is always busy tracking down other people's lives when he can not even stay on his lane and focus instead? I salute them for investing too much time in competing with others when he is supposed to compete with himself.

You better pray for them and ignore the bashing. Pray that they will get through whatever difficult situation they're in, spiritually and mentally. In addition, pray that they'll soon realize of staying on their lanes and focus on their lives to become better individuals.

Delete the hateful comments

If it is an online encounter, you have the power to delete that comment. If it bothers you, might as well limit the comments on your post so that you have control who can comment and who can't.

Usually, these hateful comments came from total strangers, someone you don't know personally. They have the guts to throw negative comments at you but they can't even manage to use their true accounts and profile pictures to stand for themselves. Instead, they use dummy accounts to spread hate. I am amazed at how much time they invested just to be petty.

Confront them with kindness.

This is something I am not a fan of. I don't really like confrontations. I choose to keep it with myself or if the situation can no longer hold on to it, I chat with the person but it will never be a choice to confront them in person.

If your guts tell you to confront them, it is advisable to stay calm and not confront them in an attack mode. Usually, if that happens, you better prepare yourself for a fight and tension. So instead of using the "You" statement, use the "I" statement.

Tell them like "I got offended with what you said earlier. I want to understand everything so I can sort things out". This is a good open statement to start the discussion. It could lead them to open up and explain why they said that.

Choose to be the bigger person

Be the bigger person. Be a mature person. Try to understand that person why they have done something to you and put yourself in their shoes. Isn't it unfair? It is definitely unfair but as someone who wants to instill and sustain inner peace in his life, I assure you it's going to be the right decision.

As mentioned above, you have the power to choose your response. Not everyone deserves your time and attention. Revenge will never be the answer. You cannot heal yourself by wounding others.

If you already explained your side and they still choose to fight with you all over again, just leave. Don't dwell on those people who want to win an argument with you because they always choose to misunderstand you.

So choose to be the better person.

Thanks for reading!

Keep safe everyone. ❤