We all want one thing - VALIDATION.

Validation. We all want this. When I say we all want one thing, I don't mean, we ONLY want one thing. What I'm trying to say is that we all share one thing that we like- and that is validation.

Who doesn't want to be validated? This is surely one reason why we do some things out of our liking. We sometimes make a decision based on the validation it will give us. This is one reason why people are being abused, taken advantage of, and bullied. This is why sometimes we feel bad when not fully given, this is why we doubt ourselves.

We like the feeling of validation. It makes us proud of who we are and what we do. When people appreciate you, idolizes you, loves you, and cares for you, it gives a feeling that we are validated. That our thoughts, actions, and feelings are validated.

Whether we realize it or not, we always want to be validated. We want our feelings to be validated. When we love someone, we want them to love us back, deep deep inside our mind, it's because we want our feeling to be accepted and it can only be achieved when they also love us back. No matter how hard we try to deny it, validation is what our heart aims.

When we do something, we want people to recognize our works, the outcome, or our hardships in achieving what we do. That's because we want validity. We want people to acknowledge our efforts.

When someone cares for you, it gives the feeling that our value is affirmed. When they care for you, your importance is validated.

Saying we always don't care what others think is complete hypocrisy. Of course, we care at some point. We may not care in other circumstance but we do care in a different situation. Why do we care? Cause we want to be validated, again.

Not to mention self-validation. We accept our own thoughts, we acknowledge our own feelings and we love ourselves no matter how much you say you don't. It's a realistic thought. We love ourselves that's why we feel pain, we feel hurt, we feel nice, and whatnot.

So don't pretend like validation isn't something that you seek. As simple as asking for feedback and support is also a form of validation, must I add. 😊

Is seeking a validation bad? Of course not. It's a positive thing. It only becomes a problem when you focus so much on being validated and you forget other important things like respect in different views, different feelings, and different beliefs/opinions. We are all different and we all have different views. Not being validated by one does not mean you are invaluable to everyone else.

Do self-validation first and accept who you are before seeking validation from others. But more importantly, no matter what, learn to accept differences and don't judge anyone based on your own understanding. And always remember, being invalidated doesn't mean you are worthless. 💜

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