1095 days with you and counting

21st of August 2021

“Love is not about how many days, months, or years you have been together. Love is about how much you love each other every single day.” Unknown

Today marks as an anniversary celebration of yours truly and my partner of being together. It's been 3 years of being in love and 2 years of being engaged to each other. I knew it's not that long already but we felt that we've been together for so many years already since from the very beginning up until now we already accompanied each other and we stays together too. So, that is why we felt that were staying together for like a decades now.

Within 3 years of being together, a lot of things already happens to both us and as well as discoveries on both sides. Still we managed to dealt with it and accepts whatever discoveries it is.

Let me share some.

• Discoveries on Attitudes

At first, of course we both doesn't know our real attitudes when we get angry something like we just limits our attitudes to be shown to each other and I am super guilty of that. Before when we had fights, we just had the so-called silent war. We fought through chatting because we don't want our board mates to hear us fighting. But, when we deeply knew each other sometimes we fought physically but not to the extent. Then we talked about that, we talked that we should not fight that way especially we had a kid and we don't want him to see us fighting again that way. So, we agreed that in case we had some arguments one will just go out or leave the room for us not to end up fighting physically. But just good thing because he doesn't fight back, he just defends himself frome instead. I ended that kind of attitude. So as of now, if there's something that I don't like of what his doing, he knew already because I just don't talked to him instead and then he knows his part as well, he will distant himself from me.

Even we had discoveries on both attitudes, still he accepted me for who I am and so do I. That’s the important thing. Accept each other’s flaws.

• Got Engaged

We got engaged for 2 years already. He asked my hands from my parents last July 2019 and planned to get married last August at the same year. We even get some papers needed for that like the CENOMAR but it was postponed because I chose not to prioritized first the marriage because I was pregnant that time and what’s need to be prioritized was giving birth first for we knew it will costs much as well especially the needs of the kid. So instead of wasting money for marriage we just saved that for my labor. Then we just planned to get married when we had enough budget for that.

• We became parents

This was the best that ever happen to both of us. Became a parents. At first, we both struggles from the fact that we weren’t financially stable. Good thing I had my parents who helped us at first and guides us along the process of the parenthood stage. In just 3 years of being together, we are blessed to have a son that changes both our perspectives in life. We even became stronger as a couple and both loved each other more the time that our son came to us. We became more responsible and we both try our best to do whatever things it is that could helped us in providing ours son’d needs everyday. In every single day, we even tried as well to become a good parents to our son and we tried to be an authoritative parents to our son. All that we aimed for is for the betterment of our son. Good thing is that, we both have similarities in terms of dealing our son.

• We lived together

We already lived together for 8 months now. After our son turned 1-year old, we decided to live together. So, last December I moved here in my partner’s place together with our son and were living in his grandma’s house for 8 months already.

As usual there are some things that I don’t like living here but I don’t have choice but endure it for now since we still don’t have enough budget to separate here. That is the main reason of why having our own house instead of living with someone is necessary. Because living here with his grandma’s house somehow made me felt the feeling of having a toxic environment and I don’t want that my kid would experienced the same. That’s why I’m eager now to have a permanent job for us to separate from this place were living at.

Staying together for three years is worth treasuring already. It may not be that long years for being together but for us, it is already. Now, were still counting for more years of being together as a couple and as a parents.

Now, I will end up this article through this quote.

“The couples that are ‘meant to be’ are the ones who go through everything that is meant to tear them apart and come out
even stronger than they were before.” - Unknown

That would be all for today everyone. Happy reading!

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