We Aren't Bad, We Are Just Imperfect Humans

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September 13, 2022

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Life isn't perfect, and so we are humans. We all make mistakes and bad decisions, but it doesn't mean we are literally bad. We are just imperfect. But some people can't really just accept it even though they are also making mistakes. We all are. And we all deserve second chances to learn from our mistakes. To start a new life with the lessons we learn from our mistakes.

These thoughts came after reading Samsmith's article on the Silverbloggers community the other night. That also reminded me of the discussions in one discord voice chat with @Ayane-chan, @DennMarc, @Eunoia, and JM. The topic was about giving a second chance to ex-convicts, and the boys said that they can't live a normal life anymore since those people have already been tainted. I didn't dive into their discussions as I was busy with something else. Yet, in my mind, I disagreed with the boys' answer.

Going back to Samsmith's post, it was about a man who was once an alcoholic with a drug history. While under rehabilitation, unfortunate things happened, and he wasn't allowed to live at his home because of having a minor daughter. His wife got sick and later died because of lack of medical attention. His wife refused to be sent to the hospital as Social Services might learn about it and take her kids away. Now that his wife is dead and the kids are left at home with no parents at all, the man carries a burden of guilt throughout his life.

The man seemed to be out of rehab and now willing to start anew. Yet, due to his drug history, he is still not allowed to live with his kids at his home. Although prohibited, his kids would sometimes allow him to stop by, but he couldn't stay overnight. And his struggles probably include finding a better job to make ends meet or support his kids. He mentioned in one section that if he got money, he could stay in a better place; if not, he would... (that was cut).He probably stays on the streets if he has no money to pay for a better place to sleep for the night. As a result, he is homeless and struggling greatly.


I know there are laws protecting the social welfare of every one. Yet, for a man and a father like him who wants to change for the better, for the sake of his kids, he deserves a second chance, and the bad history shouldn't be dragged on all aspects.

Now, relating to the two mentioned cases, the man with a drug history and those who got out of jail have committed mistakes that made their reputations tainted and judged by society. So in most cases, they struggle a lot to get back on track, and only a few can go back to their normal lives. Unless they are accepted again and given second chances by the people in the society they are in,

Those ex-convicts were given a chance to change and start anew, and they deserve it. And that's one of the reasons why, in some cases, those who haven't been given second chances would allow history to repeat itself and just let themselves be called bad for the rest of their lives.

For people like them, it will be tough at first to live normally and gain back the trust of the people around them. But I believe we all deserve second chances. As I mentioned above, we are all imperfect humans, and we sometimes commit mistakes or make wrong decisions. I get the point that it's hard to trust anyone nowadays, especially those with a bad history. Yet, those who want to correct their mistakes and change for good shouldn't be deprived of starting a new life.

If God can forgive us, we humans can too.

  


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Got teary eyed while reading this, Ate. Naalala ko 'yung napanood ko na movie which is halos same dito sa kinwento mo~ can't remember the title but the society & his wife didn't accepted him kasi nga ex-con s'ya and could harm their children.

He became homeless, discriminated and all. But, in the end? He succeed in life. His inspiration? His children kasi it turned out na abuser pala 'yung wife n'ya. Gandang story, dunno lang kung fiction or true story s'ya.

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2 years ago

Ay bet ko panoorin mga ganyan

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2 years ago

I read her post about the man and I felt so sad and pity him. Same thought I had too. He should be given a second chance and they should also monitor him too since he is ready to turn a new leaf. Staying away from his children and leaving homeless is bad and not ideal for a father who really wishes to change.

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2 years ago

True.. And it's also sad for kids to see their father homeless when in fact, they have their home..

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2 years ago

Our thinking is so different from God. God will forget our past and will focus on our present and future. He wanted us to be good. But people will used to remember our one bad side and forget those 99 goods.

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2 years ago

That's sad... and our society is rather judgmental although not everyone. There are communities that actually give chances to ex-convicts especially if they are not repeat offenders.

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2 years ago

Buti sana kung sa lahat.. Unfortunately, majority are judgemental

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2 years ago

That's the thing I dislike about humans; if a person does 99 good but end up doing one bad thing, they are judged throughout their life with that bad thing they did, even if they apologize and genuinely repent. It's truly a sick attitude and I always feel sorry for people in such situations, they are trying to change for good but society won't even give them a chance

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2 years ago

This can be applied anywhere.. Even here

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2 years ago

Meron talagang mga taong di nila matanggap yung mistakes nila kung tutuusin it's normal tao lang tayo, nagkakamali talaga minsan. Walang perpektong tao miss Jane.

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2 years ago

Worthy words from you dear. I agree with it. But sometimes it is hard to forgive for what they have done to us.

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2 years ago

I agree. However, we can't blame the people who live by that law or who are the authors of that law. Prevention is better than cure. We'll never know what will happen.

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2 years ago

Tama dapat di natin husgahan ang tao base sa nakaan nito. Yung willingness ng Tao na mg ag o ay sapat na Para bigyan ng chance to have a normal life.

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2 years ago

No one's perfect, everyone has it's bad sides and experiences in life, we all have sin and often times we go on the wrong path yet it's not a hindrance and it's not to late to make a change in life and make it right all the things you've done wrong, we all deserved chances and we shouldn't be judged someone because of their past.

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2 years ago

Indeed, though sometimes I don't believe for a second chances, but for people who wants a new life, I can do some exceptions. Yes we weren't perfect and no one will be perfect. It is somewhat our nature to make some mistakes as well, and so we shouldn't closed our doors for people who have already learned their lessons.

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2 years ago

The way we treat others will soon manifest and we either regret it or not depending on our treatment.

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2 years ago

Everyone indeed deserves a second chance in life but humans are to judgemental and we don't easily let go off people's mistakes forgetting that we are imperfect humans.

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2 years ago

That also includes those judgemental in the online world

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2 years ago

Perhaps, the young boy we're talking about needs a second chance, but when he abuse the second chance given to him even before. Uwu. I hope he takes the advices he got. Poor soul!

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2 years ago

young boy ba yun? 😅

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2 years ago

Eme lang. Whaahhaa.

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2 years ago

Ay yeah I remembered that haha, we were given side of negative and positive and we have no choice but to defend no matter what haha. Hmmm tama, they are also human and we don't know who they are after years of suffering. Maybe they find out things in life that made them choice. Just this moment the news is all about freeing some person deprived from liberty.... Wow perfect timing as I read and listening to news.

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2 years ago

We should always read stories through different lenses.

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2 years ago

As I observed only 4-5% convicts back to their normal life they have been with the criminals in the jails and that's why it's not easy to relay and give them second chance.

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2 years ago

Of course, they've been with criminals..but there are activities inside jails that help them change

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2 years ago