If I Could Turn Back The Hands Of Time

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May 19, 2022

If only I could turn back the hands of time, I want to go back to when I made wrong decisions and make them right. For instance, if I could go back to the time I got an airdrop from FORTH tokens, I would sell them to fiat so I could get more than two hundred fifty-thousand pesos. The same thing I would do if I could go back to the time when BCH reached its ATH, to at least recoup my investments. I should have had enough money to kick start a business in my country and not worry much about this unfavorable crypto market condition. 

But this isn't the main topic here. The Weekend Community on another platform recently had a writing prompt about time. One of the topics was "If you could stop time (and remain there) which year, moment, event or era would you choose, and why?" Unfortunately, I became a busy bee and forgot to write content for this challenge even though I already had a story in mind for this topic.

Luckily, another community posted a challenge that can be connected to the prompt mentioned above that I wanted to join.

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October 6, 2015, when the most devastating event in my life happened. That was when my grandfather died. I was at work and felt depressed and sad upon knowing the sad news from my cousin. Sad because I wasn't able to see my grandfather before he passed away. Depressed by the fact that I was a caregiver taking care of other elderly, yet, I wasn't able to take care of my own sick grandfather, not even on his very last breath.

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Prior to this event, a terrible event happened that almost took a life, my own life. On May 27, 2015, three days before our village fiesta, a commotion took place inside our home that provoked me to release my frustrations and grudge against my father as I saw him not acting like our father anymore, but like a monster or a boss that we need to obey, or else, a punishment will be imposed.

When I saw him hurting my mother, I didn't have a second thought to face him and that's the very first time I shouted at him and released all my hatred against him. I broke the ego and cut the ladder of pride of my wicked father who was once a soldier. He got mad and pointed his gun at me. At that time, I was ready to die in my own father's hands. Yet, I got scared for my family that would be left behind, especially my mother. I know my father can't kill me, but the gun scared me to death, so I ran and locked myself inside my room the whole day and night.

The next day, I eloped to the city and started my new life, alone. I looked for a job to support myself, but each day, I was still worried about my family back home. A lot of things happened when I was away from home, and that includes some realizations and changes that happened to my father, and he changed for good.

A few weeks before the death of my grandfather, he was admitted to the city hospital, and that was only the time I found out that he was actually sick. I felt guilty about the fact that I was a Caregiver, yet, I couldn't take care of my own sick grandfather as I needed to grind to make ends meet and live for my family. One time I visited him in the hospital, he looked sad and mad as he couldn't eat what he wanted since the physician advised him to do fasting because he needed to undergo some laboratory tests.

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I didn't even stay longer due to the limited amount of time, nor bring something for him, fruits for instance. I never thought that it was the last time we would see each other. A few days before he passed away, he was discharged from the hospital, and I felt happy as I thought that he was getting fine, unfortunately, he wasn't. I never asked the real reason for why he has been discharged, the fact he wasn't even okay yet. My grandfather probably just waited to be back home and see his family again before he opted to cross the bridge of life.

One afternoon on October 6, 2015, after sending my patient to her afternoon nap, I rested for a moment then my phone beeped. Tears gradually fell on my face and my mouth trembled upon reading the message of my cousin, followed by my brother's. That was the saddest message I ever received in my life that took me a while before it sunk in my mind and absorbed everything.

And as a Caregiver, I needed not to show my real emotions in front of my patient, as it might trigger her anxiety or agitation, but I failed to keep it from her. When she woke up and learned the sad news from the maid, I was happy that she understood my situation, and allowed me to take a leave so I could go back to my hometown to attend my grandfather's wake.

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After five months of being away from home, the death of my grandfather became the way for me and my father to reconcile. It was difficult for me to acknowledge this devastation as I felt guilty about the thought that I wasn't able to do my part as a granddaughter to my grandfather. Each time silence took over, negative thoughts would preoccupy the mind that made me regret a lot of things. And oftentimes, I would wish for the time to turn back its hands and bring me to the time when I had wrong decisions in life.

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So if I could turn back the hands of time, I would want to go back to when my grandfather got sick and I'll be his Caregiver. I would apply every knowledge I learned just so he could be better which could probably help to extend his life. Ever since I graduated from college, my life revolved around my workplace and seldom visited my family at home. I never had quality time with my grandfather either, as I was always busy at work.

While recollecting my memories with him, it reminded me of when we were kids and our grandfather was still healthy. Oftentimes, he would call his grandchildren to help him pluck his white hairs. While doing so, he would tell funny stories to us and we just kept laughing. More funny memories of him were when he was drunk. He became a singer, a dancer, a joker, and a great storyteller, funny stories though. My grandmother on the other hand, never get mad while he was drunk, as it made the house alive with our grandfather's funny stories.

So each time we heard him saying weird and funny stuff, we would just say "hubog na liwat hi tatay," in our dialect, which means "grandfather is drunk again." And once he got tired of doing funny stuff, he would just lay down in the corner in a funny position with his mouth wide open and he would sleep. If we only have a camera during those times, we probably have a lot of funny photos of him.


If I could only stop the time and stay there, that would be when I was still a kid and has more quality time with my grandfather. I would stop the time so we could play and bond longer and create more happy memories with him that I could bring in the future.

It took me a while before I accepted his death and the fact that, I could no longer bring back my grandfather's life, nor turn back the hands of the time. The beautiful memories with him helped me cope with the depression I suffered from his death and continued being a Caregiver for other elderly.

Due to this event, I promised myself that, when the time comes that my old parents are already weak and sick, I will be their Caregiver until their very last breaths as I don't want to regret things anymore.

Writing this made me emotional, especially when reminiscing happy memories with my grandfather. But then things happen for a reason. The misunderstanding that happened between me and my father was the way for him to realize things and be a good father, not a boss. The death of my grandfather was probably meant to happen as he was already old and needed to rest in peace. Besides, he helped me reconcile with my father and it brought harmony back to our once shattered home.

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Yung mas attached ka pa sa Gramps mo kesa sa father mo parang sobrang pain nun kung ako man...

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2 years ago

Madam nkakaiyak nmn toh, pero I know your grandpa is so proud of you knowing that you are so family oriented. Ung mga away2x sa pamilya natural lang yan, in the long run we will all forget about it.

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2 years ago

Yeah..thanks 😁

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2 years ago

Bs strong po, I know your Grandpa was guiding you now from heaven and don't regret your past I'm sure that he left this world so proud of you for being strong enough to face your father as well as being a helper to other elderly.

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2 years ago

Thanks.. This was in the past.. Moved on from it already

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2 years ago

Mabuti naman po

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2 years ago

I can't read any further as this reminded me of my lolo. Sigh.

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2 years ago

Sorry 😥

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2 years ago

I feel sad and I'm sorry for your lose and for the traumatic experience that you experience to your own father. You are really brave to fight for your mom even if it may put you in danger. While reading your story when you lose your grandfather, I had successfully turned back my time. But it's only by the help of my memory. Remembering how I feel devastated when my father unexpectedly left us as his death is so sudden. I also have so many regrets and wishes. Reminiscing those time's where we felt broken hearted after losing the person that was important to us, we always wanted to turn back the time, and do the things that we missed to do when they still with us. But no! We can't change the fact that We can no longer be with them. Life and even time has no pause and rewind, as it moves forward no matter how much we tried to stop it. All we have to do is to move forward and learn from the experience that we have, as it is the only way for us to accept our lose. There are really things that we really can't control and things that happen has really had a reason.

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2 years ago

Mistakes are a part of life and sometimes I wish I have the power to go back in time and fix my mistakes but I believe mistakes are also a part of life and is there to make sure we are being careful and think twice before making any decision. Sorry about your grandfather, at the very least you're lucky that you spent time with him when he was alive and had beautiful memories, unlike some of us that never met ours

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2 years ago

We can't turn back the hands of time, but we can surely learn from our mistakes so won't make the same mistake again in the future

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2 years ago

Yong nangyari sa inyo ng papa mo yong naman ang nagtulak na para tumayo ka sa sarili mong paa ng walang suporta ng kahit nino. Natuto ka and look at you now. And glad nagkaayos din kayo in the end ng father mo. It's also sad na di mo manlang naalagaan ang gramps mo pero for sure masaya sya kasi nakita ka nya kahit papaano. Talagang lahat may dahilan kung bakit nangyayRi amg mga bagay bagay ano.

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2 years ago

Ganun tlga..lahat may rason

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2 years ago

I really feel sad to know what was happened with you before. But don’t be sad for now to think about it dear. GOD bless you.

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2 years ago

Naiiyak din ako😭 if i could turn back time and stay there I think it would be the time I am still in highschool and living with mom and dad. Because when I reached college malayo sakanila school ko so nag boarding house and nakakauwi lang pag ling holiday then my dad died when I was in 2nd yr college super onti lang ng time na naspend ko sakanya sa pag aalaga😭

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2 years ago

😭😭..ito yung masakit kung isa sa parents mismo mawala 😭

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2 years ago

This is really emotional Ate! For the fact that grandpa helped reconciled you and your dad, then it means he did well before passing on and that would be a happy memory forever.

We can never change what has happened but we can avoid any mistake not to repeat itself in the future.

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2 years ago

Thanks ma

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2 years ago

Grandpa's mission was done. He did what he was supposed to do and left you as a better and stronger lady. He's in a better place and I know if you can, you would go back in time to spend more time with him. Keep being strong, Janeeeeeyyyyyy.

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2 years ago

Thanks uncle

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2 years ago

There is this sweetness in the way you say this uncle thing. You are making my heart beat in rhythmic flow.

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2 years ago

We all have moments and events we'd like to go back in time to change. But the truth is that these experiences are part of the things that shaped us into who we are today. May your grandfather's soul continue to rest in peace.

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2 years ago

In as much as turning back the hands of time sounds incredibly appealing right now due to some of the decisions I've made regrettably, it just isn't reality. It's impossible. But I think instead of dwelling in the impossibility of it, I'd rather live and let live

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2 years ago

After reading this I can say that you are a strong GIRL. Because you endored everything and you passed those test. Im sorry for your loss. Don't worry because your grandfather are in a good place right now and he couldn't ever feel those pains

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2 years ago

Feeling sad after reading the story or you and your grandfather but you don't feel guilty because it's a part of life not everything is done smoothly and the way you want just accept what happens and move on

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2 years ago

That's a lot to face at a tender age. Something like that could have destroyed some people but you turned out well.

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2 years ago

Time is not our control. Yes I understand that you're guilty being caregiver that you were not able to serve your grandfather before he died. It seems you blamed yourself.

If we can't control the time, same holds through the death of your grandfather. His life was only until there. Only that you were not able to serve him.

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2 years ago

We should be caregiver for all. Sad to listen this tragic incident about your grandfather. Don't worry at least you tried your best for him but no one stop what will happen next moment. Caregiver is one of the finest job that give you feelings of real human. I pray for you and soul of your grandfather.

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2 years ago

We all are feeling sorry for you Jane. I can realise how tough situation you have handle. The bitter truth is we can't turn back the handle of time.

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2 years ago

The most devastating event of my life was when my big bro died. I can never forget that day. I cried till I had no more strength left in me.

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