August 17, 2022
Death is untimely, it is inevitable, and regardless of what cautions we take to avoid it, it will come in no time unexpectedly. Some forms of death are acceptable though when they happened naturally or due to age or known sickness. Those that we expect and so preparations and acceptance are bound to happen.
However, if death happens by accident, can it be accepted? Every time I hear news about death, fears and worries also form in my mind along with a plethora of questions. What if I die unexpectedly? What will happen to my loved ones? How will they be able to cope with my death? Will my siblings be able to finish their studies without me?
These fears and worries formed after the sudden death of someone we know from the HivePh family. Her unexpected death only shows that life is too short and death has no exemption, young, old, rich, poor, healthy, and unhealthy, we all will reach that due time as it is fated to happen. Whether we are prepared or not, and whether we accept it or not.
As a breadwinner of the family, I feared it more as I just couldn't leave this world too soon and I still have a lot of plans for my family and myself in the future. I shared this sad news with my friend Rachelle, who's a breadwinner as well. She, herself doesn't want to suffer this timely demise, not until her siblings are done schooling. She has no mother who could take care of them and her father is already old and jobless. She's the eldest and the sole provider of her family.
What saddened me about her message was the part that no one would take of her so she rather dies on the spot if a bad incident happen to her. Whether we have someone to take care of us or none, there will always be people who'll mourn if we pass away. There'll always be a family that will suffer once a sole provider is gone.
And this is the main thing I don't want to happen, at least, not for now, and not too soon. I still want to experience a happy and free life without any burden on my shoulders. I still want to see my little siblings able to stand on their own and creating their happy lives. Above all, I still want to see my parents getting white hair and too wrinkled faces. I rather want time to take us, than tragic fate.
Oftentimes I wish to be like my brave father who doesn't fear death. He was recently diagnosed with prostate cancer and in our last conversation about the matter, he just told me that he acknowledged his fate and that he is prepared for whatever will happen to him.
Probably because he's already old and has done enough, so he is prepared for it. It might be easy for him, but I am certain that not for our family. It will be harder for us to cope if that happens. We may haven't had a good daughter-father relationship in my younger years, but that's another thing I want to make up now that my parents aren't getting younger anymore.
But then things are meant to happen. I guess the better way is to spend each day beautifully by doing good things instead of worrying. I know it's easier said than done, but we don't want to regret things later, do we? As much as possible, let's create happy memories and spend more quality time with our family. If you want to do something today, do it right away, not tomorrow because we don't know what tomorrow holds. Don't wait for the right time, make the moment happen. Because as we all know, the moments and time that had passed won't pass again, so let's seize every moment and just be happy.
Again, this is something I need to remind myself. Maybe a little acceptance is needed to alleviate the sadness felt from hearing about such a tragic demise.
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As sad as it may be, we have to know that it is the stag reality of live. Death is inevitable, we are all indebted to it as long as we are alive, one thing I cherished most is to have a good relationship both to fellow human and most importantly to God, because the day of ones death is better better than the day of ones birth. I grieve with the family.