I'm gonna teach you the 4 key tips on how you can reduce your level of shyness when talking to people whether it's your boss,your co-workers or anyone you meet in a professional setting. So if this is something that you're always say in public like "I just don't know what to say","I'm really shy"," I get nervous" .

If this is you know that this is completely normal. Shyness is a completely natural reaction and you shouldn't beat yourself up because you tend to be shy in front of others. So today I'm gonna help you to understand where I believe your shyness really comes from and my four tips on how you can overcome it in society a lot of us tend to think of people as people who are gentle who are sweet who are nice kind of fragile but of course they just don't talk a lot because they're shy and that may or may not be true and if you're someone who shy you may have those qualities as well maybe you were born into a certain culture or society where you were raised to believe that you need to be humble,you need to be conservative and you can't be too extroverted because that's not a quality that is good to have in that certain culture society and as a result of that you've become this person who is shy but here's the thing that you really should know shyness is something...

Shyness is something that can be learnt and practiced over time

That's because you've practiced it all your life so if you wanna stop being shy you can just simply have to learn if from within yourself and here's a fact that once you realize that this is true for you if you're someone who's shy will actually help you to really learn and eliminate the shy tendencies and here it is reason why you are shy:

FACT: The reason why you are shy and have trouble connecting with others is because you are way too focused on yourself.

And why you tend to have trouble connecting with others when you're talking to people is because you're current attention isn't on that other person that you're talking to,but instead your way to focus on yourself you're saying " I don't think they like me","I don't think how to talk to them" say the wrong thing and with all of these worries and thoughts you cut yourself off from being able to have a truly meaningful conversation with this other person because you're way to consumed with yourself and if you were to be honest with yourself I know that you would agree with me you're way too lost in your own head with your own thoughts about yourself so how that you know why and where your shyness comes from;

1.Adopt a curious mindset:

When you're in a situation where you're talking to other people "shift your focus away from yourself from your own fear and nervousness away from you and towards the other person" but a good way to think of it is act as though you're almost a news reporter and you're trying to interview someone and you're trying to get information for a new segment that you're doing as a news reporter Adopt a curious mindset because you wanna know more about that other person that you're talking to,so by adoptiong a curious mindset you were able to engage with them you're asking them questions you're wanting to learn about them;

By adopting a curious mindset:

• Engage with them

• Asking them questions

• You're wanting to learn more about them

• Your full energy is focused on learning about that other person

2.Elaborate on your responses.

When someone asked you questions don't just give them one word answers for example if they asked you are enjoying the work that you're doing don't just say yes and leave it at that say yes I'm enjoying the work that I'm doing because of reason number one and reason number two maybe even reason number three and this leads me to tip number three which have a Another.

3.Have a story to share

Way to connect with other person is instead of just giving them one word answers or just giving them a couple of sentences have a story to share,have a story that you can tell them about that relates to the exact topic that both of you are talking about as humans,we love to hear stories and when you're able to share a story that is meaningful to whatever it is that you're talking about with another person you're able to engage them further and this is what develops your bond with the other person in a closer way .

4.Be present and listen intently

Be present and listen intently have you ever been in a situation where you are talking to someone they ask you a question and you're answering their question but you can tell them they're not even really listening to your answer there just waiting for you to finish talking so that they can jump in and ask you another question don't do that ,don't BE waiting for them to finish answering your previous question jus to ask them another question because they'll know that you didn't actually listen to what they said here's a:

Fact:

People usually can tell when you're not listening to them and when you're list in your own thoughts.

As much as you may think that you're good at disgusing it is quite noticeable for most of us and here's a quote that I think is very fitting for this topic:

• "We build too many walls and not enough bridges"

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People are more likely to feel shy when they're not sure how to act, don't know how others will react, or when attention is on them.

-Thank you for reading

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