Everything you need to know about anxiety
Anxiety is your body’s natural response to stress. It’s a feeling of fear or apprehension about what’s to come. The first day of school, going to a job interview, or giving a speech may cause most people to feel fearful and nervous.
But if your feelings of anxiety are extreme, last for longer than six months, and are interfering with your life, you may have an anxiety disorder.
***What are anxiety disorders?***
*It’s normal to feel anxious about moving to a new place, starting a new job, or taking a test. This type of anxiety is unpleasant, but it may motivate you to work harder and to do a better job. Ordinary anxiety is a feeling that comes and goes, but does not interfere with your everyday life.*
*In the case of an anxiety disorder, the feeling of fear may be with you all the time. It is intense and sometimes debilitating.*
*This type of anxiety may cause you to stop doing things you enjoy. In extreme cases, it may prevent you from entering an elevator, crossing the street, or even leaving your home. If left untreated, the anxiety will keep getting worse.*
*Anxiety disorders are the most common form of emotional disorder and can affect anyone at any age. According to the American Psychiatric Association, women are more likely than men to be diagnosed with ananxiety disorder.*
***What are the types of anxiety disorders?***
Anxiety is a key part of several different disorders. These include:
Panic disorder- experiencing recurring panic attacks at unexpected times. A person with panic disorder may live in fear of the next panic attack.
Phobia- excessive fear of a specific object, situation, or activity
Social anxiety disorder-extreme fear of being judged by others in social situations
Obsessive- compulsive disorder -recurring irrational thoughts that lead you to perform specific, repeated behaviors.
Separation anxiety disorder- fear of being away from home or loved ones.
Illness anxiety disorder-anxiety about your health (formerly called hypochondria)
Post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD)-anxiety following a traumatic event.
***What are the symptoms of anxiety?***
*Anxiety feels different depending on the person experiencing it. Feelings can range from butterflies in your stomach to a racing heart. You might feel out of control, like there’s a disconnect between your mind and body.*
*Other ways people experience anxiety include nightmares, panic attacks, and painful thoughts or memories that you can’t control. You may have a general feeling of fear and worry, or you may fear a specific place or event.*
Symptoms of general anxiety include:
increased heart rate
rapid breathing
restlessness
rouble concentrating
difficulty falling asleep
Your anxiety symptoms might be totally different from someone else’s. That’s why it’s important to know all the ways anxiety can present itself.
***What is an anxiety attack?***
An anxiety attack is a feeling of overwhelming apprehension, worry, distress, or fear. For many people, an anxiety attack builds slowly. It may worsen as a stressful event approaches.
Anxiety attacks can vary greatly, and symptoms may differ among individuals. That’s because the many symptoms of anxiety don’t happen to everyone, and they can change over time.
Common symptoms of an anxiety attack include:
Feeling faint or dizzy
shortness of breath
dry mouth
sweating
chills or hot flashes
apprehension and worry
restlessness
distress
fear
numbness or tingling
A panic attack and an anxiety attack share some common symptoms, but they’re not the same.
https://www.healthline.com/health/anxiet https://www.healthline.com/health/anxiety
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Author's note:
*****Stay away from toxic people with a victim mindset.*****
She lost herself while loving mE
Nam and I have been together for three years.
She's a psychologist and working from a mental institution somewhere in Makati City.
Nam is beautiful. She has classical features like you could see in old photo albums and she's the type of woman who couldn't hold an intelligent conversation. Her wit and intelligence are completely unparalleled.
Of course, she's a top notcher in Board Licensure Examinations for Psychologists and Psychometricians in the entire Philippines.
She almost had it all, except for one thing— she's martyr when it comes to love.
I admit, I'm such a terrible boyfriend to Nam.
I became so toxic, manipulative and controlling in so many ways.
In fact, the reason why Nam strived to top her board examination because I pressured her.
I warned her that once she failed the exam, I will never introduce her to my parents.
My family has so much high expectations when it comes to women that sooner they will call daughter-in-law and it would be a big shame if I would present a woman who has no decent profession.
My brothers already had their wives who are truly well-bred and educated. And I don't want to stoop down my level, either.
Glad that my girl passed the exam or else, ikakahiya ko talaga siya.
For years, Nam stayed despite my toxicity and immaturity.
Gusto kong ako lagi ang nasusunod. I never listened with her decisions. I chained her with my own ideals and suffocating love.
—
Months passed and I'm ready to marry her. Everything was already set and planned out. I always even mentioned on her that I want to have a baby and be a father.
But three months later, I found out that she's taking pills for abortion.
That's when she confessed that the baby's gone already.
That day, all I want is to hurt Nam. My vision went black and blurry.
"How dare you to kill our baby!" I confronted her and I couldn't help myself but to lay my palm on her delicate cheek.
She just cried in response.
"I've always dreamed to have a baby and be a father, pero anong ginawa mo?! Ninakaw mo sa akin ang karapatan ko bilang ama!" I exclaimed at her.
"L-Lance..." Her voice broke. "L-Let me explain..."
"STOP!" I cut her off. "You are a killer, Nam! I regret loving you! You are such a disgrace!" my voice roared.
Iyak lamang ng iyak si Nam sa harap ko, kulang na lang ay luluhod siya.
"Let's break up," I whispered in a cold, heartless tone.
And there, I left her.
—
A year after of not having a communication with Nam, I got an unexpected news which completely broke my heart.
"Nam's father has been jailed for raping her, Lance. While Nam is still in a mental institution," my cousin informed me.
My ears still couldn't process what I just heard and later, I could hardly breathe.
I felt suffocated.
I immediately went to the mental institution that my cousin has told me and my world completely collapsed when I saw Nam wearing a hospital gown... instead of white coat.
A psychiatrist called me and told me what happened.
"Nam's currently dealing with Post-partum depression which she acquired from pregnancy and unfortunately, her license was temporarily removed from her because she's incapable."
Mas lalo akong nanghina. Parang dinaga ang puso ko sa sinabi ng babae.
I've witnessed how Nam dreamed to be a Psychologist. I've seen her hardworks and battles just to get the license she's been dreaming for so long.
And now, the license has been taken from her because she's out of her mind and needs to be treated.
She's a psychologist but she failed to heal herself. She's now a patient in her own expertise.
Pabigat nang pabigat ang paghinga ko nang lumapit kay Nam.
"P-Pa... tama na..." she started trembling when she saw me.
God, she couldn't recognize me! The trauma in her face pained me even more.
"P-Pa... magagalit si L-Lance.. tama na.." she whispered in horror.
"Nam... I'm here..." I tried to near at her but she's so scared with people.
Nam stared at me and she smiled creepily.
And the next words she uttered completely destroyed me.
"Kuya... minahal ko naman si Lance sa paraang gusto niya! Minahal ko siya sa paraang kaya ko!" she cried and later, she laughed.
She's no longer in the right mind.
"K-Kuya, makasalanan ba ako kung pinalaglag ko ang anak na binuo namin ni Papa kasi takot akong mawala si Lance?" she laughed and cried once again. "
Oh, God!
"N-No, Nam..." Napalunok ako. "Everything's not your fault."
And there, the tears that I suppressed for too long are now falling.
"K-Kasi k-kuya... gusto ni Lance ng babaeng maipagmamalaki niya sa pamilya... kaya natakot ako..." she cried innocently. "I-I killed my baby just to save my relationship with him. K-Kasi kung hindi ko pinatay ang bata at nalaman niyang nabuntis ako ni Papa... ikakahiya niya ako."
Fuck! So all this time, she did it for me! Her father r*ped her but I did not listen! I let my anger and my emotions controlled me!
"I let Lance control me, kuya! I let him run my own world! I follow all his rules! I became so obedient to him even if it terrifies me! In decision making, he always win. I can't say no to him! I did everything for him, kuya. P-Pero bakit? Bakit hiniwalayan niya pa rin ako, kuya?" she laughed darkly. "Kulang pa rin pala ako! Haha! Kulang pa rin ang pagmamahal na binibigay ko!"
Mas lalo akong nanghina. Para na akong tanga sa kaiiyak.
"S-Sorry, Nam.." I cried. God!
Napatingin ako sa singsing sa daliri ko and I cried harder.
Because as much as I want to take care of her, she's already late.
Because I'm already married to someone else.
"A-Ayoko na mabuhay kuya," she looked at me in the eyes and she smiled weakly.
"Lahat na lang nawala sa akin..." iyak niya. "Kuya, pasabi kay Lance na maging masaya siya ha?" habilin niya sa akin habang nakangiti na parang bata.
Hindi na talaga ako nakikilala ni Nam. She completely lost her mind.
And there, I've realized what Nam lost while loving me. She lost her baby, she lost her professional license and worst— she lost herself.
With tears in my eyes, I was about to hug her when suddenly my wife called me to go home.
As soon as I got home, I received a call from the psychiatrist who took care of Nam.
She was trembling on the other line and the next words she uttered made my whole world collapsed.
"Nam overdosed herself with pills, Lance. The doctor tried to revive her but they didn't succeed. I'm sorry but she's gone now..."
Tuluyan na akong napahagulhol.
At the end, she kept her promise a happy ending for everyone— but not for hersel
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*****-thank you*****
Thank you for reading
Difference between my Ex and my Present
I was busy scrolling down my news feed when suddenly, my ex messaged me out of nowhere saying,
"How's your life, Claire? I hope you are doing fine and happy."
Upon reading his message, I could still hear his raspy voice at the back of my mind and how his dimples casually popped out while saying those words.
Out of nostalgia, tears started to form at the corner of my eyes.
Troy and I were in a relationship for five years and we broke up because I wanted to pursue my dreams first.
To put it simply, I chose my career over him.
That time, I was so glad that despite how afraid he was to lose me, he respected my decision and my happiness.
Before I could even reply, my fingertips started tapping our old conversations.
While doing a backread, mixed emotions filled my heart as I read his old messages.
"You can dress whatever you want, love. Your self-expression and your happiness matter to me most. If someone disrespects you on the street, just call me and I swear, that bastard won't go home without getting bruises and fractures."
"Love, I won't get too tight to you, okay? I wouldn't let you feel being suffocated and chained. Rest assure that while you are with me, always choose what makes you happy."
"Claire Deniz Betaña Calderon, don't stress yourself too much, okay? You know how much obsessed am I to you to the point that I don't want to lose you, but I don't want to take away your dreams, either. You've always been dreaming to be a lawyer and I won't be selfish. Spread your wings and soar high, my love."
"Pursue what makes you happy, woman! Don't hesitate to dump me when you need it. Kahit hindi na ako 'yong pipiliin mo basta kung saan ka masaya, doon ako."
While reading his messages, I couldn't help myself but to cry harder.
There, I've realized how supportive my ex way back then... up until now.
"Congrats pala sa wedding niyo ni Justine, Claire. I'm so happy for you," he sent me another message.
Wiping my tears, I replied, "Thank you, Troy."
"I didn't regret losing you because guess what? You are finally a lawyer now. I'm so proud of you, Claire. REALLY PROUD!"
My heart moved.
I was about to reply when suddenly, he messaged me again and the next words he said made my heart ripped apart.
"It's just sad that I wasn't there with you while celebrating your success. I wasn't there to see you slowly fulfilling your dreams. Hinanap kita noon pero sa gitna ng paghahanap ko, nakahanap ka na pala."
"But that's okay, Claire. I'm happy that you found a man who can makes you happy. And that's enough for me to be happy, too."
"Your happiness will always be my number one priority even if I'm no longer part of it."
My heart tightened at his replies as tears began to blur my vision.
"Thank you for letting me choose my happiness, Troy. Thank you for letting me spread my wings and letting me fly to reach my dreams. You've always been part of my journey."
"And that's the saddest part. I'm just a part of your journey but not the destination," he replied.
Iyak lamang ako ng iyak.
Before I could even have an emotional breakdown, I immediately logged out.
Hindi ko na kaya 'yong sakit. After all these years, nandoon pa rin pala 'yong sakit.
"Babe, why are you crying?" My husband instantly ran over me as he arrived in our home.
He gave me a bouquet of roses, enough to warm my heart.
I wiped my tears and smiled at him.
"I'm okay, babe. Thank you for always been there to make me happy," I told him with glistening tears.
He just hugged me tightly. "Just stay by my side and I'd do everything just to make you happy," he replied.
The next morning, my husband took me out for a dinner date.
My heart was filled with so much happiness but what my husband said that night broke my heart into pieces.
"You won't feel any sadness when you're with me, babe. Just don't leave me."
After he said those words, a realization struck me.
Both my ex and my present wanted me to be happy.
The only difference was, my husband wanted me to be happy with him— while my ex just wanted me to be happy.
Even without him.
From that day onwards, the moment I spot their difference, I haven't been okay since then.
There, I've realized that I lost the best man in my life.
I lost Troy.
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*****Honestly finding a man like troy is very hard cause that kind of man wants is for you to be happy even without him and still proud to you even you broke that man and its very rare to to be found!*****
***-Thank you***
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I learned From People Mistakes
*Let us be inspired by our mistakes, because that is where we will draw strength to fight the hardships of life.*
If you succeed,every mistakes becomes legendary,if you fail that's just a garbage you know what I am saying . I think every body has great stories, everybody had a lot of mistakes, every body has a lot of problems,But very few people listen to you . Once a day when you become successful people listen to you "Wow!you are great!" ' I am not great!' I was born in a normal family, I am not good at schooling,I tried to study hard but as a boy/girl,you know. My school was not good at that time ,I failed looking for jobs,looking for joining University, joining good schools but,I never give up and I think there is one thing I learned. Why you should have chance to be successful every body should get used to fail. But,not used to be get accepted by other people,why other people should help you,you should earn the right to be helped. The things I learned is ' ***Don't give up!'*** My opportunity has not come yet,when every body complain, that's is a opportunity I always thought,when I was young ,when I was in high school or University I thought Bill Gates took off my job ,Bill Gates did all the successful things,Larry Ellison from Oracle,They took all the wonderful opportunities IBM benefits. We people have no opportunity and I think I am too high,I should aim to support and help people around me . Do tiny things I never thought I could be today . After 18 years, Alibaba become today size . Not Because I am smart,I don't anything I am a smart person. But, I work with a lot of smart people,most smarter people they always wanted to do successful things, quick and easy things. I think,it's not easy to be successful quickly, Everytime, everything we do,we prepare for 10 years. I know , I am not smart if we want to be successful we have to win 10 years later,if we want to be successful,we have to work with smart people. If we want to be successful we should make a lot of mistakes and never give up. Lot of people they make mistakes,they have problem ,they give up,we never give up.
We learn form *mistakes* and I think,when we fail the message,the experience,the advice i want to give you " *you are judged when this person will be successful or not ,by when he fail he thinks,it's his fault or the other fault,if he thinks I failed because of the others,this guy has no change".* Those people who fail ,Always think it's my fault I do not do it properly,I should change here of change there these guys have opportunity I learn a lot from those people who fail,I learn a lot from those people who made mistakes,I learn a lot from my mistakes. This is my life attitude,when I fail,I say see I fail when I secceed,I say I never know I could be successful. This make me very positive and optimistic, because of too many Mistakes,too much FAILURE, that make me never complain, because I get used to that ,we are making mistakes everyday,even today we make stupid decisions almost everyday
Nobody knows we thought it was smart,final approval was stupid but we learn and we do again,we learn and we do again.
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***Author's note:***
*The more failure that you've got,the better experience and learning you have. It's not about how many time you fail,what matters is you have to make your dreams into a reality. Keep your eyes on the prize. It's better to take chances in risky situations than to do nothing you with it. The moment you gave up on your dreams is the moment you failed. Remember, nothing comes easy in achieving your dreams. Aim high ❤️*
-***Thank for reading and upvoted༼ つ ◕‿◕༽***
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What kind of friend do I have
I am so bored, so I decided to write an article about "***what kind of friends do I have***" and I really miss my friends. Because of the Covid 19 pandemic, the school year is flexible and we don't have face-to-face classes.So we'll only see each other once in a while.
First I have a friends like:
The marupokkks
The Matalino
The kopyarisk
The palabiro
The taga paaalam saakin kapag aalis kami
Let's talk about my friend na....
1.***The muropokkss***
Yes I have a friend like that,balik ng balik kapag nasaktan ulit iiyak at mag yayaya sa inuman akala mo naman umiinom talaga lol! Minsan habang nag lalakad kami papuntang school lagi niyang bukang bibig ang kanyang boyfriend or let's call him "ex boyfriend" marami siyang kwenekwento about sa mga sweet moments nila na akala niya wala ng kataposan,kami naman na nakikinig sakanya ay naririndi na dahil paulit ulit nalang siya tuwing masasaktan siya nag prepretend na lang kami na nakikinig dahil ayaw namin siyang mag tampo,ang hirap pa naman suyuin shuta haha!
***2.The Matalino***
Ito talaga ang favorite kung kaibigan (joke just kidding) pero sa totoo lang gustong gusto ko siyang katabi tuwing recitation because lagi niya akong pinapaalalahanan na mag review habang wala pa ang aming teacher,ako naman na mahina ang brain sumusunod sa kanya dahil ayaw kung ma zero sa recitation namin at mapahiya sa klase kapag tinwag na ang mga nakakuha ng "***zero score***" yes inaamin ko nung high school days ko lagi akong nakakakuha ng zero score ngunit wala Lang iyon saakin dahil Isa yata akung dakilang tamad lol! (Charr) pero atleast naka pagtapos ako at ang aking mga kaibigan sa high school na may award mwehehe medyo tumalino ako dahil sakanya lol!
***3.Kopyarisk***
Tanda ko nung nag ttake kami ng quizzes may naramdaman ako na parang tumatawag saakin at guess what ,ang aking kaibigan na ilang araw absent dahil daw sa sakit Ng tiyan ngunit laging nasa galaan. Kaya ko tinawag na KOPYARISK dahil nung time na iyon muntikan na kaming mahuli at muntikan nakung ma zero dahil sakanya ngunit sa huli nanaig parin ang mga plano niya ngunit iniba ko naman ang mga sagot ko(ayaw ko na uli mapagalitan),kaya ginawa ko iyon haha!!shout out sa kaibigan ko diyan kung nabasa mo ito sorry Tao Lang:>
4.***The laging late***
Noong High school life,hindi talaga natin matatanggi ang pagiging late natin o mga kaibigan natin lol! Naalala ko late na nga ang subject teacher namin wala parin ang kaibigan ko,habang nag klaklase ang subject teacher namin nakita ko ang dalawa kung kaibigan na nag tatawanan habang nakatingin saakin,siguro napansin iyon ng aking guro kaya pinatayo nila ako at pinasagot sa board buti na lang medyo may laman ang utak ko nung time na iyon. At napansin ni ma'am na may tao doon sa likod ng pinto pumunta at tiningnan ni ma'am,nagulat na lamang kami ng biglang mag taas Ng Boses si ma'am at pinapunta ang dalawa kung kaibigan sa office ng aming adviser at pinag florwax haha!!
5.***The taga paalam saakin kapag gagala***
Aminin nyo meron din kayo nitong kaibigan lol!Kasi ako lahat ata ng kaibigan ko lagi akong pinapaalam sa mga magulang ko kapag may pupuntahan kami or matutulog sa Isa namin kaibigan, minsan hindi din ako pinapayagan dahil may rason rin sila mama kaya sumusunod nlang ako. Naalala ko noong high school days namin pupunta sana kami ng SM upang bumili ng regalo,ngunit alam nilang hindi ako papayagan dahil medyo may kalayuan ang Mall sa aming lugar,kaya nung Gabi na iyon habang kumakain kami nila mama may naririnig akong tumatawa at may tumatawag rin saaking pangalan kaya dali dali akong lumabas at tiningnan nan iyon,yun pala ay ang mga kaibigan kung may dala dalang pagkain at gamit. Syempre pinapasok ko sila dahil umaambon din iyon at tinanong ko sila Kung bakit marami silang dalang pagkain at gamit yun pala ibibigay pala nila sa mama ko ang isang shoulder bag at chocolate sa papa ko Naman ay isang boteng alak kaya nag taka ako kung bakit nila un ibinigay yun pala may hihingin silang kapalit (natatawa ako habang tinatype Ito haha) syempre nagulat sila mama kaya dali dali nilang tinanong ang mga kaibigan ko at sinabi ng Isa Kung kaibigan na si grace na sana ay payagan daw akong sumama sa kanila sa mall pag katapos niya iyon sabihin bigla na lamang natawa sila mama dahil sa sinabi Ng kaibigan ko haha!! At sa huli pinayagan Rin ako at ibinalik nila mama at papa ang mga ibinigay ng mga kaibigan ko. Tawang tawa na lamang ako Ng time na iyon,nope hanggang ngayon pala HAHA!!!
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Author's note:
***Habang nakakasama natin ang malalapit saatin huwag natin sayangin ang mga oras na iyon dahil sa huli hahanap hanapin natin sila at iisipin ang mga nagawa natin noong tayo'y buo pa at mag kakasamaʕ´• ᴥ•̥`ʔ***
***(ps. Sa Lima Kung kaibigan dalawa na lamang ang minsan Kung nakakasama dahil yung tatlo sa kanila ay umuwi na ng probinsya, nakakalungkot lang dahil hindi na masaya yung dati naming squad (ᗒᗩᗕ)) and thank you po SA lahat ng nag cocoment at nag uupvote sa aking previous articles ༼ つ ◕‿◕ ༽つ***
*****-Thank you for reading*****
A women is a reflection of her man
"Dad, can we talk?"
My father craned his neck over my direction and as soon as he finished mixing his coffee, he seated in front of me with a question look registering on his face.
"What is it, son? Having trouble with your relationship?" He took a sip of his coffee before giving me a sideway glance. He then scanned my face and I knew he already had an idea of what's going on me.
My heart was beating madly against my chest, my hand shaking in trepidation. I then swallowed hard before I spoke.
"My girlfriend is getting colder, dad. Recently, she's giving me too much shit, too much headache and too much problems. She's just too much to handle," I said it calmly, not betraying any of the turmoil I was feeling inside.
My dad remained quiet. His lips pursed into thin line as if he's still processing the words I spat earlier.
I then expelled a deep sigh. "She's giving me problems, dad."
"Or maybe you are really the problem," he quickly supplied.
And there, something inside me had snapped. I immediately averted my gaze to the window, feeling ashamed of myself.
The sun outside was glaringly bright in the clear azure skies, the wind whooshing musically through the trees. Birds crooned their cheery tunes happily.
It seemed selfish that the world was moving on when I wasn't ready. The world is indeed cruel and apathetic. It didn't wait for everyone. It continues to revolve unblinking and pitiless without shedding a tear for you. Even when you stumbled and your knees scream and hurting. It didn't care.
"There's always a reason why a woman changed, son."
The words of my father pulled me back from the trance and I could feel my heart ripping inside my chest.
Clearing my throat, I faced my father. "So you are implying that it's partly my fault why she's being cold? Gano'n ba 'yon dad" I asked.
My father just smirked at me, his face void of emotion.
"Look at your mother. Naging cold ba siya sa akin ni-minsan? Naging toxic ba siya? Hindi! Because I am treating her right! Minsan kasi, nakadepende rin ang pagbabago ng mga babae sa kung paano sila tratuhin ng partners nila."
That rendered me speechless and somehow moved my heart.
"When a woman is acting strange, something is really wrong, anak. You are complaining that she's too much to handle, telling me that she's getting colder, easily get irritated and she's toxic. That's false!"
My dad heaved a deep sigh before he continued.
"She's too much to handle because you haven't learned how to handle yourself. She's giving you too much shits because you haven't give her anything else to reciprocate. She's getting colder because you are lazy, comfortable, ignorant, selfish and blind. Your inconsistencies prevent her from being able to fully love you the way she wants to."
My dad's words staggered me, like a blow to the heart. Stopped me cold. And I... just froze on my seat. Words left me and it melted in my tongue.
And there, I suddenly remembered how insensitive I was when I was with Catherine, my girlfriend. I kept on comparing her to my ex, pointing out her insecurities that could shatter her confidence. I also wasn't able to give her attention and time these past few weeks. In short, I became inconsistent and irresponsible on our relationship which affected my woman's behaviour.
Darn, my Catherine is definitely hurting by now. How foolish I am!
Dahil sa mga naisip ko ay 'di ko na namalayan ang pagtulo ng aking mga luha. The thought made my heart shattered completely.
"Women want consistency and assurance, son. No, they don't want it. They need it! So if you don't want her to change in a bad way, treasure him with all your strength and efforts. Stop blaming your partner why she's acting cold and toxic. Because son, always bear this in mind that a woman is a reflection of her man. If you are treating your woman right, she will become right for you. But if you love her with coldness and toxicity, she will also become cold and toxic."
Tuluyan na akong napaluha sa sinabi ni papa. I restored my dad's words in my mind and started applying it on my relationship and after a month, our relationship went smoothly after that.
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***Author's note***
*****So to all the people out there who have loved ones, if you don't like how your partner is acting, look first at how you are treating her. Because sometimes, the problem is just... within us.*****
-**Thank you**
Which One Is You?: 4 Types of Introverts and Self-Care Tips to Be Your Own Hero
In the past, people often associate being introverted as a form of behavioural defect when really, introverts just operate differently from extroverts. According to psychologist, Jonathan Cheek, who teaches personality psychology at Wellesley College, there are 4 types of introverts — ***social***, ***thinking***, ***anxious*** and ***restrained***. Cheek further argues that many introverts are actually a combination of all of the 4 types — instead of identifying as just one of the types.
As an introvert, it’s essential for you to identify and then accept your form of introversion to further understand the workings of your mind — help you cope better with your daily life — as you make your introversion your superpower.
***1.Social Introvert***
*Social introverts are often misconstrued as shy and timid in social settings but that’s not always the truth. If you happen to be a social introvert, it just means that you prefer to be alone at home or only go out with your select few of best buddies rather than partying with a large crowd of people. Being around people does not necessarily trigger your anxiety. You merely revel the comfort of your solitude and would choose to stay home with your nose in a book.*
****Self care tips for social introvert****
Embrace your introverted nature that requires you to take some alone time to charge your energy.
Don’t overexert yourself at an event just to make others happy.
Always allocate some time away from all the noise after a long day of events.
Always keep in touch with your family or a small group of friends who understands and accepts you for the way you are.
2.***Thinking Introvert***
Are you often deep in your thoughts, wondering about life and analysing yourself? As a thinking introvert, you don’t avert social situations and don’t mind the presence of other people. You’re an introvert in a sense that you have a rich inner life, always pensive and introspective; especially after having read a book or watched a movie. You reflect on how you feel and delight in your make-believe world, losing yourself in your dreamy imagination.
****Self care tips for Thinking Introvert****
Make time and space to reflect on your thoughts and emotions (e.g. journaling). Pursue your hobbies and creativity by developing a schedule you can follow.
Leverage on your strength, venture into a *career that is perfect for introverts like* you.
As you’re always deep in your thoughts, don’t lose touch with reality — build meaningful relationships to keep you inspired!
3.***Anxious Introvert***
In contrast to social introverts, anxious introverts purposely isolate themselves to avoid the social spotlight, especially the unfamiliar ones. You feel awkward and painfully self-conscious around people as you may not be confident (or comfortable) with your social skills. However, being alone doesn’t reduce your anxiety as you will still brood over what might have gone wrong or how you could have done things differently — even after the event.
*****Self care tips for Anxious Introvert*****
Take note of situations that make you anxious and read up on ways and methods you can use to manage your anxiety.
Prioritise your well-being by exercising, getting a balanced diet and practising mindfulness
This may be tough, but always remember that in the end, things will be all right — even if it’s not, it’s not the end.
Open up to family and close friends for support and reassurance. Alternatively, you may also seek professional advice from your school counsellor, therapist, medical doctor or even a psychiatrist.
4.***Restrained Introvert***
Restrained introverts prefer to “think before they speak”. If you’re a restrained introvert, which is a lesser-known form of introversion, you’re unlikely to feel energised the moment you wake up. Rather, you need to take your time to warm up, gather your thoughts and observe before you can speak or act. Hence, you tend to shy away from spontaneous situations and are very careful when making decisions.
*****Self care tips for Restrained Introvert*****
Allocate additional time in the mornings so that you have sufficient time to get ready and not get overwhelmed by the hustle and bustle of the day.
Spend some me-time towards the end of the day perhaps with a cup of decaffeinated tea to unwind and de-stress.
When communicating your ideas, take your time to organise your thoughts before you begin. Be sure to slow down and take little pauses in between — or take a deep
Cultivate an introvert-friendly lifestyle to reduce stress and avoid isolating yourself from your family and close friends.
*Now that you’ve identified your type of introversion, charge forward and seize the day! Remember to embrace your true self and learn to be comfortable in your introverted skin*. ***If you’re going to be stuck with it for the rest of your life — might as well live it comfortably*****.**
Info:
**https://eduadvisor.my/articles/which-one-is-you-4-types-of-introverts-and-self-care-tips-to-be-your-own-hero/**
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He's Fit and I'm fat
Narrated language: English & Filipino
I have an online boyfriend named Ysmael Cordero and we've been together for three months already. I just met him in Facebook and I didn't expect that we will lead up to this point. He came from Bicol while I'm from Laguna. And as a typical love story, we both started from chatting each other and we would spend our time by calling through phone during midnights. He has this raspy yet a bit sexy voice that would instantly melt my heart.
After two months of exchanging chats and calls, he confessed to me that he has a feelings for me. I rejected him at first because I still doubted him. Of course who wouldn't doubt it?
I am a fat woman, a disgusting creature, they say. While Ysmael is physically fit, not to mention his smoldering biceps and well-carved abs.
I am fat while he's fit. And now he's telling me that he likes me? That's just too hard to believe on.
That's why I decided to ignore him for a couple of days but he's too persistent and hell-bent to get my attention.
"I'm so sure of my feelings for you, Sandra. I swear to God, I won't fool and play you. I just love you so bad. Huwag mo akong i-ignore, please? 'Di ko kaya San."
After I read his chat, my cheeks burned and I was just contemplating myself not to reply him but days goes by, I just found myself saying "yes" to him.
There was a time that I talked to my friends about my boyfriend and they all laughed and their face crumpled in disgust.
"We are in a long distance term relationship," I proudly said.
"Nagpapatawa ka ba, San?" asked by one of my friend with a gleam of sarcasm.
They took my phone and they saw my boyfriend's picture.
One of my friend's eyes bulged in amusement. "Damn, sis. Ginayuma mo siguro 'to 'no? He's hella hot! For sure pinaglalaruan ka lang niyan," she commented and all of them chuckled.
"Sabi mo long distance kayo, right? Hmmm... so that explains why pumatol siya sa 'yo kasi hindi ka pa niya nakikita in person," Brenda remarked as she let out a chuckle.
I puckered my lips and I felt my heart slowly ripping apart.
Ganito na ba talaga kababa ang tingin nila sa mga matataba? Kaibigan ko ba talaga ang mga 'to?
They should be the one who will support my happiness but the way they acted today, they seemed to be insecured.
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After they said those words, the confidence that I had gathered for a long time was completely destroyed and shattered. Words are really powerful especially if it was misused. Swords may cut and bleed but words will stab your bone until it will become your nightmare.
The next day, Ysmael chatted me that he will travel from Bicol to Laguna just to see me. I was hesitant at first to meet him because I am not yet prepared of what would be his reaction if he saw me in person. But in the end, I agreed to meet him in Enchanted Kingdom. Hindi na lang kasi palaging panay ako tago at tanggi sa kaniya.
I need to face him. If he will get disappointed, then I must accept it whole-heartedly.
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Tahimik lang akong nakaupo sa isa sa mga bench dito sa park at panay tingin ako sa relos ko. Ysmael is almost one hour late. It's already 5 PM and the sky is already pitch-black. The lights from different rides in the park flickered across the area. I opened my phone and chatted Ysmael kung saan na siya but I didn't receive a reply coming from him.
Nagsimula akong makaramdam ng kaba at bigat sa dibdib ko.
I roamed my eyes around the Enchanted Kingdom and I saw lots of couples that are dating happily.
Hindi ko maiwasang makaramdam ng inggit sa mga babaeng slim at sexy habang hawak-hawak ang kamay ng mga boyfriend nila.
Their hands fit together.
At baka nga 'pag nagholding hands kami ni Ysmael, mas malaki pa ang kamay ko sa kaniya.
Sa kakaisip ko ng kung ano-ano hindi ko na pala namalayan na may mga tumutulong luha na pala sa pisngi ko.
Ilang minuto pa ang nakalipas at wala pa rin si Ysmael.
Hanggang sa sumagi sa isip ko ang sinabi ng mga kaibigan ko.
"For sure, pinaglalaruan ka lang niyan..."
"You are being delusional, girl! Wake up!"
"He's too handsome for you, dear! Kilig na kilig ka diyan tapos siya tuwang-tuwa habang binobola ka!"
Agad kong ipinilig ang ulo ko at mas lalong bumagsak ang mga luha ko.
Maybe my friends are right.
I am being delusional. Baka nga pinaglalaruan lang ako ni Ysmael. Well, who would love and accept me kasi kahit sarili ko ay inaayawan ko.
I hate my body. I hate my face. I hate everything about me. And I hate being me.
Patuloy lang sa pagragasa ang mga luha ko at para akong timang na umiiyak na mag-isa.
"Baka nga hindi ako tanggap ni Ysmael," bulong ko sa sarili ko habang umiiyak.
Tatayo na sana ako nang makita kong hindi maayos ang pagkakasintas ng sapatos ko.
Kahit nahihirapan akong yumuko dahil mataba ako ay pilit ko pa ring inabot ang sintas ng aking sapatos.
I was about to reach the lace when suddenly, someone held it first.
Para akong naestatwa sa kinatatayuan ko habang inaayos ng lalaki ang aking sintas.
As soon as he finished lacing my shoes, he looked up and our gaze met.
"Sinong nagsabing hindi kita tanggap?" he asked and he gave me a cold stare.
Biglang kumalabog ang dibdib ko nang magtama ang mga mata namin.
At hindi ko na napigilan ang sarili kong maiyak because Ysmael is now in front of me.
Kinagat ko ang aking ibabang labi at tumayo na siya.
His jaw tensed and his stare was so cold, so sexy and so penetrating.
"I don't like it when my girl cry in front of me," he hissed and he immediately huggged me.
His body was so warm and his manly scent filled my nostrils.
"I didn't travel for seven hours just for fun, Sandra. I told you that I am in love with you," he whispered.
My tears kept on streaming down my cheeks and I can't still believe that the man that I just met through the internet is now in front of me.
"H-Hindi ka na-disappoint?" I asked, my lips trembling.
His forehead knotted. "Why would I get disappointed?"
"Because I'm fat in person!" I snapped.
"Why would I not love your body? The body who carries your heart and soul that makes me smile everyday?" he asked in sincerity.
My mouth parted of what he said and my heart was slowly melting by his words.
"You are feeling sorry because of your body? Damn, baby! I don't care of what you look like or what other people would say to you because if you are in the hands of the right man, you are always beautiful in his eyes!"
After hearing those words from him, I gave him a tight hug while my eyes were on tears.
Damn! I just realized of how lucky I am of having Ysmael in my life. I never expect that there's still a man who would love and accept me for who I am and what I can only offer.
I once believed that men only based on outer appearance of a woman but I was wrong.
Men like Ysmael who will accept your flaws and imperfections are actually existing--- they are just rare to find.
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***So if you find a man who will love you for you are? Keep them!(◕દ◕)***
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He fell out of Love with me
Narrated language: English ( ´◡‿ゝ◡`)
I've been in a relationship with my boyfriend for one year and I believe, we were so in love with each other.
I didn't like him at first because he seemed arrogant but despite all the rejections and countless of "no's" I've said at him, he still pursued me and he even tried to destroy the walls I've built for years.
I was just a normal College girl back then who aimed nothing but to prosper in life and graduate with flying colors in Medicine.
I was so focused with my goals and I really know what I wanted. And it was never on my plan to enter in a relationship while I was studying.
But as months passed by, me and Dylan somehow felt connected to each other because we had so many things in common, it felt weird at first, but for some reasons, I fell in love with him.
We became friends, then close friends and it took us one year after we became lovers. It was the happiest times of my life.
Imagine, we were off to the same profession we wanted, we became each other's study buddy and whenever we felt tired, we would always cuddle even just for three minutes more or less.
Our future was already planned out— us working under the same hospital, us building our own clinic, us getting married and us having kids.
We were so in love back then.
But just when I thought that everything was in their right places, my biggest downfall came.
After a year of being in a relationship, my man became cold and he's slowly became distant for no apparent reason.
He's near yet I could no longer feel his presence and warmth and it felt like there's something part of him that I wasn't allowed to know.
And that's when I realized he fell out of love in our relationship.
I witnessed how he tried to bring back his old self but he failed. I realized that the way he smiled at me no longer spell out happiness. It was forced and more like an obligation because he's with me.
But you know what's the worst part when your partner fell out love?
It's when everything didn't happen fast and you had to witness every changes... piece by piece that will surely tear you apart and question your worth.
I said it's fine and I can manage. I went to his condo and there, my greatest fear welcomed me without a warning.
He was standing there beside a woman, a pregnant woman. He was holding her like she was the most fragile thing on earth.
I didn't know how I managed to come closer and introduced myself as a mere friend. And how she introduced herself surprised me more.
She said they were five months already and she's pregnant for three months.
I knew that nothing were to last forever, that everything is just temporary. I just didn't expect to end here all so soon.
When Dylan and I broke up, I told myself that I can get over it, that I will heal without receiving the truth. That I will continue moving forward without getting the reason why I was being replaced without my knowledge.
I convinced myself to move on but it was harder than I thought.
I felt so betrayed!
How dare him to exit in my life when it was him who entered my life first?
How dare him to left me hanging when it was him who approached me first?
Yes, I've already accepted the fact that we broke up but I still can't accept how we ended.
I think this is the worst part of breaking up.
It's when your partner stopped loving you when it was them— who loved you first.
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(Sorry if madalang Lang ako mag published Ng article,nag kasakit Kasi ako Huhu but medyo ok narin ako (pstt ndi to covid haha)
Life is short
Time is short.
What is your life?it's even a vapor that appeareth for a little time and then vanishes away. Is someone had told me when I was 20 years old,that life was very short and would pass just like that I wouldn't have believed it. And if I tell you that you don't believe it either,I cannot get young people to understand how brief life is how quickly it passes. It seems like yesterday. I was in school. Everyone of us here has been given the same amount of time in a day, fourteen hundred and forthy minutes a day,168 hours per week.
Seventy years God allows us and it's interesting to me with all of our medical science. We've never passed that magic mark. The average of the male today lives,seventy year's and four months. The average female 73 years and six months,more people live to be 70,but the average age of an human is still 70 as taught in the scriptures.
What a thing it is when you think that you have just one short life to spend and it will be over. I'd write down my priorities in life and I'd get committed to certain priorities. Now is the accepted time the things we ought to do the classes we ought to take the books,we ought to read do it now. The family that needs you spend more time now, write the letter home now that you've been meaning to write. Money you ought to give give now time for study do it now people you ought to witness to do it now. Everytime the clock ticks,it seems to say now today if you will hear his voice ,there may not be a tommorow for you and for me, because there's a warning to time,time is running out for all of us,time is too short for indecision and vacillations.
Do not halt between two opinions,fool say the time is long. Every morning we have 86,400 seconds to spend and to invest and each day the bank named time opens a new account for you and for me. It allows no balance in no overdraft,if you fail to use the days deposits the loss is yours. The Bible says "****redeem the time because the days are evil and the days in which we are living are very evil****" if there was ever a time for the **gospel** that can transform the human heart it's now. Jesus said " ****as long as it is day ,we must do the work of him that sent us the night is coming when no man can work****".
The night is going to come in your life. Yet there was a serenity about the work of the Lord Jesus. It's the quality of life . Not the length. Jesus only had 33years and inded on the cross,to the world He was a failure yet that moment yet at the end of his life,he said " ****I finished the work that thou gave me to do****". It doesn't matter whether you live another year or two years of five years. Will you work be finished.
Is there a quality to it. Is there a dedication to it, suppose all of our members to the their time to witness for Christ as we tithe our income for the church. Fill your heart with the ****Word of God******,**I found that those who know the scriptures are the ones that have the power today,but we need men and women who walk with God and if you do that you too can finish the work that God gave you to do and help us to realize the brevity and urgency of time,and may we invest what little time we have in the kingdom of God.
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Author's note:
Hi! Co readers
*Life is weird. Once you were 16 and having fun with your friends at school. Then you blinked and suddenly you are 26 and you are drinking a beer with your pals in a bar. But you blinked again and you are 43 and now you are playing catch with your son. You blinked one more time and you are 65 and now your body just hurts for no reason. You blinked for the last time and you are 83,life is nearly over and you can not believe it. It happened so fast. Just yesterday you were playing catch with your son. Yeah life is short but, it's the longest thing you'll ever experienced.ʕ´• ᴥ•̥`ʔ*
***(sending virtual hug for my readers )***
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Relationship advice
See what we need to recognize the things that we meaningful the things that are genuinely fulfilling or require patience they all require work they all require energy see the challenges we all want to be with someone who makes us happy when what we need to do is be someone who makes us happy we sit with our friends discussing the rules but no one even knows what game we're trying to play because the problem with our generation not wanting relationships is that at the end of the day.
*We actually do a gin a conversation together so often so many of our anxieties are actually built on assumptions or misconceptions which can easily be resolved through a simple conversation as early as you can.*
1.***Always smile***
*Let's say nothing smile and drink the poison atleast until that becomes a void we tend to avoid these conversations because we're conscious of the risks of speaking up but unconscious of the risks of not speaking up none of us should stay in relationship where we're fighting all the time but we can learn to change how we fight soften your judgement speak how you'd like to be spoken to affirm before you complain let your partner know you care approach the situation with compassion start with empathy focus on facts iniate the dialogue stay opened minded and remember when you're fighting,the real fight is both of you against the problem not both of you, against each other.*
2.***Gift of Love***
*You're against each other you're a gifts person you give more, gifts if you believe in quality time ,you give quality time what we need to focus on is what the other person wants and not what we want,so think about the person that you love or want to show more love to figure out what language they belong to and try some of these out experiment with them to show them more love appreciation and encouragement I guarantee you will increase and strengthen your bond almost immediately and remember this isn't a technique or a trick this is a genuine conveyance of your love and what you love feel about them so give it a go.*
3.***Self loved***
*We live in a world where people on self loved and self fueled enough to even consider this the first is getting over your greed and go the second one is recognizing that you have value and when you serve others there's a value exchange and the third when you're feeling full and overflowing you can the overflow to others .*
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For me:Fine yourself a partner who is willing to learn and develop themselves along side you.
Selecting the right person is very challenging because people don't come with a manual or a QR code,which you can scan with your mobile device,to get insight into their personality. A lot of people hide their true selves,only showing their best version in the beginning,until a few weeks or few months later you begin to see them for who they are. This is why relationships are exhausting.
This is very good in theory but if you haven't between brought up in a secure environment,to develop this level of awareness and self-confidence then it's no simple matter to learn emotional regulation in particular. This research just seems to reiterate that those lucky enough to have a good start in life and consequent secure attachment are going to do well in relationship,those who haven't are going to struggle.
Everyone agrees that emotional intelligence and awareness are essential. The real question is how to acquire those skills? How does a person learn insight, mutually and emotional regulation.
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-***Thank you for reading***
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How to stop being shy
I'm gonna teach you the 4 key tips on how you can reduce your level of shyness when talking to people whether it's your boss,your co-workers or anyone you meet in a professional setting. So if this is something that you're always say in public like "**I just don't know what to say**","**I'm really shy**"," **I get nervous**" .
If this is you know that this is completely normal. Shyness is a completely natural reaction and you shouldn't beat yourself up because you tend to be shy in front of others. So today I'm gonna help you to understand where I believe your shyness really comes from and my four tips on how you can overcome it in society a lot of us tend to think of people as people who are gentle who are sweet who are nice kind of fragile but of course they just don't talk a lot because they're shy and that may or may not be true and if you're someone who shy you may have those qualities as well maybe you were born into a certain culture or society where you were raised to believe that you need to be humble,you need to be conservative and you can't be too extroverted because that's not a quality that is good to have in that certain culture society and as a result of that you've become this person who is shy but here's the thing that you really should know shyness is something...
***Shyness is something that can be learnt and practiced over time***
That's because you've practiced it all your life so if you wanna stop being shy you can just simply have to learn if from within yourself and here's a fact that once you realize that this is true for you if you're someone who's shy will actually help you to really learn and eliminate the shy tendencies and here it is reason why you are shy:
***FACT: The reason why you are shy and have trouble connecting with others is because you are way too focused on*** *****yourself.*****
And why you tend to have trouble connecting with others when you're talking to people is because you're current attention isn't on that other person that you're talking to,but instead your way to focus on yourself you're saying " I don't think they like me","I don't think how to talk to them" say the wrong thing and with all of these worries and thoughts you cut yourself off from being able to have a truly meaningful conversation with this other person because you're way to consumed with yourself and if you were to be honest with yourself I know that you would agree with me you're way too lost in your own head with your own thoughts about yourself so how that you know why and where your shyness comes from;
1.**Adopt a curious mindset**:
When you're in a situation where you're talking to other people "**shift your focus away from yourself from your own fear and nervousness away from you and towards the other person"** but a good way to think of it is act as though you're almost a news reporter and you're trying to interview someone and you're trying to get information for a new segment that you're doing as a news reporter Adopt a curious mindset because you wanna know more about that other person that you're talking to,so by adoptiong a curious mindset you were able to engage with them you're asking them questions you're wanting to learn about them;
***By adopting a curious mindset***:
Engage with them
Asking them questions
You're wanting to learn more about them
Your full energy is focused on learning about that other person
2.**Elaborate on your responses**.
When someone asked you questions don't just give them one word answers for example if they asked you are enjoying the work that you're doing don't just say yes and leave it at that say yes I'm enjoying the work that I'm doing because of reason number one and reason number two maybe even reason number three and this leads me to tip number three which have a Another.
3.***Have a story to share***
Way to connect with other person is instead of just giving them one word answers or just giving them a couple of sentences have a story to share,have a story that you can tell them about that relates to the exact topic that both of you are talking about as humans,we love to hear stories and when you're able to share a story that is meaningful to whatever it is that you're talking about with another person you're able to engage them further and this is what develops your bond with the other person in a closer way .
4.**Be present and listen intently**
Be present and listen intently have you ever been in a situation where you are talking to someone they ask you a question and you're answering their question but you can tell them they're not even really listening to your answer there just waiting for you to finish talking so that they can jump in and ask you another question don't do that ,don't BE waiting for them to finish answering your previous question jus to ask them another question because they'll know that you didn't actually listen to what they said here's a:
Fact:
***People usually can tell when you're not listening to them and when you're list in your own thoughts.***
As much as you may think that you're good at disgusing it is quite noticeable for most of us and here's a quote that I think is very fitting for this topic:
"We build too many walls and not enough bridges"
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***People are more likely to feel shy when they're not sure how to act, don't know how others will react, or when attention is on them.***
**-Thank you for reading**
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If you're feeling Lonely,read this
*Often we are alone, for example when leaving home, going to school, the market, or any other place where we can be alone. Autophobia is anxiety about being isolated from other people. A person with this phobia does not necessarily have to be physically alone to experience symptoms. Other names for autophobia include eremophobia, monophobia, and isolophobia.*
6 Healthy ways to be ALONE after HEARTBREAK
***1.Dont lower your standards***
Don't let the fear of being alone make you settle for something less. It is not just being alone that worries us, it's feeling alone that worries us. This is our opportunity to get know ourselves. If you want someone to fall in love with you,we have to fall in love with ourselves first. Our biggest mistakes are that we try to get know other's interests before we know our own. We try to learn about everyone else's favorite color and movie before we know our own. And we learn to know what makes other happy before we learn what makes ourselves happy. As Aristotle said,**”Knowing yourself is the beginning of all wisdom" .**
2.**Don't chase anyone**
If you have to chase someone, that means they don't want to be with you. Maya Angelou said,**"when people show you who they are believe them the first time".** This is your time to chase personal growth,to chase your development,to chase your dreams,your Passions,your potential,and your purpose,not chase another people.
3**.Start a hobby**
Use this time to start new hobbies,new interest,or maybe even something you forgot you love to do. Maybe there was something in your childhood that you've now left behind. Maybe there's something that you used to turn to that you've forgotten about. Recreate that,relive that,bring that back into your life with this extra time that you now have.
4.**Learn Something New**
Our happiness is so closely linked to how much we are processing,how much we're learning,and how much we're achieving. Start listening to a new podcast,to maybe more TED talks,maybe reading new books. This is your time to learn .
5.**Live with Intention**
Start crafting your life so that anyone you spend time with, anything you spend time doing is done with deeper intention, understanding why you're doing it and what purpose it brings into your life.
6.**Talk to Yourself**
Remember, the most important meeting of the day is with yourself. The most important call is with yourself. When you're able to interact with yourself, understand your emotions,and navigate your mind,you're starting to be comfortable alone. I read a study where men and women were given the option to either spend time alone with their thoughts for fifteen minutes,or give themselves an electric shock. Roughly thirty percent of women gave themselves an electric shock,and around sixty percent of men chose the electric shock. Instead of using an escape,instead of finding another person or thing to get attached to,learn to be comfortable and at peace with your own thoughts. Maybe it's through mindfulness,maybe through meditation, or maybe just journaling. If we never learn to be alone, we'll always feel that we're lonely.
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For me I prefer to be alone rather than spending time with TOXIC persons.
Love yourself because in the end of the day you're the only one who has your back .
When people show you who they really are, believe them the first time.
If we never learn to be alone, we'll always feel that we are lonely.
***-Thank you for reading***
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Take The Time To Train Your Mind
*In the past few days, I've been thinking about what I can do in the future, thinking about searching YouTube and watching inspiration videos that will help me motivate myself in life. While I was looking for good content or videos I saw videos that gave advice about life and your future and I looked at it immediately*
***Jack Ma Yun*** is a Chinese business magnate, investor and philanthropist. He is the co-founder and former executive chairman of Alibaba Group, a multinational, technology conglomerate. In addition, he co-founded Yunfeng Capital, a private equity firm. Ma is a strong proponent of an open and market-driven economy.
I was amazed at what he was saying because all of that has lessons to be learned, as a learner I must learn the routine of life because we do not know what will happen in our lives and what will happen yet.
***“So 25 year's old ,Don't worry any mistake is that income is a wonderful revenue for you,so tell my self and told my young people. Before 20 years old be a good student,Where do intrapreneur just to learn some experience before 30 year's old? Follow somebody,Go to small company, Normally in a big company. It is good to learn processing you are a part of a big machine,But when you go to small company,you learn the passion you learn the dreams you learn how to do a lot of things at one time. So before 30 years old it's not which company you go-its which boss you follow. It's very important a good boss teach you differently and Before from 39 to 40 years old you have to think very clearly. Were you working for yourself?if you really want to be interpreted when you're 40 to 50 years old. Have to do all the things that you are good at don't try to drop into the new area It's to late you may be successful,but the rate of dying is too big so 40 to 50 think about how can focus on things that you are good at but when you are 50 to 60 years old work for the young people, because young people can do better than you so rely on them invest in them making sure they're good. So when you over 60 or so spend time for yourself on the Beach sunshine,right it's too late way to change normally but I visit by a device to the young people twenty five years old. Make enough mistakes. Don't worry you to fall. You stand up you fall your step enjoy it. I'm it's only five years. Oh it enjoyed. The show in do it I?”***
***-JACK MA YUN***
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**LIFE LESSON- In order for an arrow to fly through the air. It must first be pulled backwards. This means that instead of regretting the mistakes you've made in the past,or dwelling on bad or traumatizing experiences ( like to used to),try to learn from them ,and realized that they've made you a smarter and more mature person in life today . Without my past bad experiences, I would have made the same mistakes later in life.**
*After I wrote and read, my motivation to fight and move on in life grew stronger, no matter what hardships we face let's just pray and don't give up in life because that's where we will be successful when we inspire people who judge our character and the state of life. I am a student who dreams of a good life for my whole family and who dreams of traveling the world with my family.*
Author's note:
***Hi! co reader's I just want to say that no matter what happens or what we do wrong let's make it an inspiration and tell ourselves "let's not give up, we are no longer the former they can knock down even with just one hurtful word" one that we are strong and have dreams in life.***
-Thank for reading
@Ja_ne
