It is an emotional reaction that occurs when a person considers that there is or will be a negative outcome for his or her interests, which could have been avoided if someone had taken them into account and acted differently. The intensity of our anger is variable and induces us to act. It may increase if we mentally review the problem and may lead us to express a complaint, a warning or a caution, in order to avoid future damage. It is a basic reaction for survival, mainly to other members of our social group.
It can be defined as a negative emotion that involves feelings of fury, rage. There are unpleasant emotions, such as anger and rage, which hide revealing messages. These emotions are conveying something very deep about us: fear that we are unable to recognize and accept. Moreover, the traps of our thoughts push us to fall, again and again, into anger, rage and we end up finding ourselves at the mercy of our reasoning, by remaining with a conscious and superficial analysis of our fears.
That is why we live under social pressure, where fears are considered as a vulnerability, something that makes us weak. We have this belief that makes us bury our fears in our subconscious. This is how it reveals itself under the guise of anger in situations that are beyond our control, that are part of our deepest fears. We are more accustomed to seeing people get angry and fall into rage, than to seeing people capable of recognizing their fears. We become obstinate in our anger, manifesting it either towards ourselves. On the other hand, we project it towards others based on the belief that it was another person or a situation that made us feel that great anger turned into rage.
We can even say that managing anger is not easy for us either, although we are more familiar with it than with fear. It is at a more superficial level and that is why it hides other issues, those that we have not attended to or that we are not prepared to face. Perhaps at some point you have met people who are always angry, it seems to be part of their character, however, behind this attitude there are many reasons that are keeping it. But, when anger appears in our lives and we do not understand its causes, we begin to think about what happened, we try to find an explanation to certain anger, we consider it disproportionate, unjustified and senseless, in many occasions. We dare to judge what we feel with the pretense of not feeling it. We downplay their value and we keep them in our inner basement. The truth is that they appear for an even deeper reason and we are annulling any possibility of understanding and attending to that reason.
To conclude, a clear example of anger is when someone we are waiting for has not arrived and provokes us the feeling of anger, because this may be indicating a fear of abandonment. An anger for something that has been said to us and we have not liked, may indicate fear of lack of recognition or that we are no longer loved. Fears are rooted in recurring anger. Anger appears, encompassing more and more situations, and we find ourselves with rage believing that it is others who generate it. This prevents us from exploring our fears and taking ownership of them, thus depriving us of the opportunity to understand and heal them. When this becomes constant, we must be patient and know how to live with susceptible people. There is an inner battle going on inside them, and we cannot let it affect us. We can, on the one hand, help them and, on the other hand, avoid falling into their circle of negativity and hostility.
Are you a person who gets angry easily?
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