There are endless knowledge lying everywhere one just need to notice them and gather them. When we feel hungry we feed our stomach like this when you feel you're mentally hungry just feed your brain and mind with positive words and thoughts. Maybe our life is short and temporary but those lessons which we learn are permanent. We can get lessons from our past from our relationships, from our pains _ just open the eyes of your heart and you will find everything which you need in order to make yourself a priority and happy soul.
I'm not that good weaving words or giving a good introduction , so give me your pardon and allow me to delve into my thoughts.
If You Want to Make the People around You Happy, You Must Find Your Own Happiness First. Being Selfish is not always a Bad Thing. Sometimes it's okay to be a Selfish.
Just a couple of years ago, I was so eager and interested to make others happy and content with my works. In the process of making others happy, actually I did not achieve anything except lots of knowledge & self love but I also lost almost everything, my own happiness, my dreams, my desires, even my own self. What did I earn by losing these precious things?? Absolutely nothing but longings , pains, heart aches, miseries but even after losing all these worthy things I could not even make them happy and content for a single day. I was such a failure, no I guess I was nothing but just a fool who wanted to make others happy in vain.
After suffering a lot, after losing a lot, I realized now I should just please none but my own self. But when I started to love myself, to give a little bit attention to myself , some people began to tag me as a selfish person, I'm only thinking about myself, I'm not spending my time with them. Was I a selfish? I guess NO coz I can explain about that. I was just trying to give some of my love, care, attention to myself after a long, very long period. So surely these things doesn't make me a selfish person because I too deserve all these things along with themselves. I'm not hurting anyone, I'm just trying to heal my wounds which I got throughout the years .
You can't give anything to anyone if you don't have that thing so like this you can't love anyone if you don't have any love for yourself. Giving yourself Self Love does not make anyone selfish, if even after this someone things you're selfish then let them think about you anything. Just remember, sometimes we must need to chose ourselves first before choosing anyone else, when other refuse to do.
When you feel physically tired just go and take some rest and when you feel you're mentally tired then go ahead & cry. Our shading tears do not symbolizes our weaknesses, our fragality, it just symbolizes our aliveness.
I was once afraid of crying in front of someone but I realized it is totally okay to cry sometimes, to shed some precious pearls because our tears are the rivers of our soul, so just allow yourself to continue the flow of your broken and shattered soul. If you are getting some mental peace by crying then just go for it. Don't think about anyone or anything. You're totally allowed to express your longings and sorrows in the form of tears.
I have saw and observed the proud behaviors of lots of people who thinks they are supreme, what they think & do is absolutely right and one must obey them in any condition, they never think once before uttering anything lethal.
One must know the true power of words. A single and small word can break us, can make us, can motivate us, can demotivate us, can heal us like ambrosia, can kill us like poison. It takes the same time and energy to utter a bad and good word, though it's up to you what you will chose but one should choose a good word instead of bad words. One must know a small word has great and huge impact. So please count one, two, three or think for once before uttering anything which will only break people's heart instead of their sorrows.
Let me ask you one thing__ if someone who is younger than you come and tell you that you made a mistake and you should correct that? What will your reaction will be? Surely, you will be angry and maybe you will scold that person. It is pretty normal to do coz none of us would like our mistakes to be pointed out by someone specialy from them who are younger than us.
We thinks now we are adults so it wouldn't be possible for us to make any kind of mistakes but this idea of ours is totally wrong. We need to understand adults, old people can make mistakes too. None of us are free from error. We must need to realize that adults can't be always right because it is the most common instinct of human being and will continue to make mistakes until the day we die.
So accepts your mistakes as soon as possible, don't be afraid or feel shame for this. Your mistakes are the proofs that you're alive, you're still trying, you're still growing and learning through your mistakes.
Sometimes, it's totally okay to be less than perfect as the word 'Perfection' is a myth and illusion itself. No one is perfect and no one can't be as well So it is better to show who you really are instead of hiding your imperfection because your 'imperfection' are the only things which makes you special and unique.
One should give their attention on their progress in lieu of imperfection. 'Perfection'is a mirage , the more we crave for it the more we lose our peace and happiness. So just try to be the better version of yourself, not to be perfect. By seeking 'Perfection' in yourself madly , you're just abusing your physical and mental health ,so stop comparing yourself, stop seeking perfection in yourself,, just love yourself as much as you can.
So by the mercy of Almighty, we are able to see another beautiful, shiny, glowing, bright, sunny yet cold morning. Don't waste your day by overthinkingbsndvtry to be the love which you always wanted to achieve.
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Irene 9.28am 18.01.2022 Lead image source :— https://unsplash.com/photos/VWP5h4fKfsM