The Diamond I'm talking about isn't the one given to the top tippers on the platform. It isn't the silver one neither is it the Golden one.

Recently I've read so many relationship-related articles on this platform. The married ones gave their advice and the singles also entertained us with a challenge and little word of advice. Most of these articles came from the ladies and I began to wonder- "Don't guys also have anything to say about relationships? Or don't we have single guys in the house to give us relationship tips? Or are we all players?. lol.

I'm a boy with little or no experience compared to others. Probably because of our I shut my heart to love as I talked about in my previous article. But I still can say I know what love is. Isn't it the beautiful feeling you feel, that you can't just explain?. lol

Let me share the story of my friend with you...

Andrew's regret

My friend Andrew (i changed the name) was very close to Melinda who was our long time friend. Though the three of us are friends, the connection he shared with Melinda was incomparable. I sometimes get envious of them. They understood each other and even acted the way couples would.

Numerous attempts to tell him Melinda was the girl for him fell on deaf ears. Though the choice was his to make, it was so glaring that the girl was into him and she took him as someone more than just a friend. Andrew's reply every time anyone suggests dating Melinda to him was "Though she has the majority of all the attributes I want in a girl, I can just date her. She isn't my type. She isn't sophisticated enough". If you know she isn't Sophisticated enough why don't you teach her. By "Sophisticated" he meant she doesn't dress the way he wants his woman to dress.

He kept on mentioning one celebrity or the other. This went on for years and he even takes out time to go on dates with other ladies. Melinda also on her part pretended as if she wasn't hurt but the pain was always written on her face. How Andrew never noticed baffles me till today. Maybe he noticed but chose to ignore her.

Towards our last year in school, Melinda relocated and their conversation was restricted to phone calls. After three months away Melinda uploaded some pictures on Facebook and we were all shocked to see how beautiful she was in the clothes she wore. Scrolling down we saw a picture she snapped with a guy. A handsomely built guy. A mini Dwayne Johnson. Lol. Andrew pale compared to him.

He was angry and said Melinda betrayed him. We asked how but he was speechless. The one being Chased now became the Chaser. He'll constantly drop messages for her and call her but it seems Mr Dwayne Johnson was taking Melinda's time and attention all the time. She even sent pictures of them together to Andrew and with pain, he complimented each picture. By the time he realised his feelings for her, it was too late.

Why not water the grass you are stepping on

Most of us go about looking for greener pastures. You have a girl you are dating but still go about looking for chasing others. Ask why he is doing such and he will give excuses why. Why don't you mould your girl into what you want? I know this might sound insulting to the ladies but I'm sure you know what I mean.

Everyone has a perfect girl/boy picture in their head. Most times it is the tall, beautiful girl with all the model material we have in our head. We want a Scarlet Johnson with a Beyonce voice and Chimamanda's confidence. We have a list of attributes we want them to have. If a girl has eight out of ten of our listed attributes, we dwell on the two she doesn't have and move on in search of the perfect girl.

I see these unwritten attributes we have in our heads as an excuse to remain in the market. After most breakups ask the two parties the reason for the break-up and watch the guy gives flimsy excuses. I'm not trying to spare the ladies. There are numerous cases where they are the ones giving these excuses. But I believe the Men are the ones in great need of this message. Don't fight love, embrace it, and if you are the type that is afraid of "No", hear this well - you won't be the first nor the last person to receive a "No" from a girl. But you will live without the burden of thinking of what could have happened if you have.

The treasure you've been seeking is already in the sand you dug. You only need to unravel it, clean it if need be and live an happy life. So what are you waiting for? Pick the phone now, book that date and go out like the king you are and express your feelings to her. Don't be another Andrew!.

Thanks for reading! 🤗🤗🤗

I hope to hear positive feedback from you all. If you all don't come back with nice stories of how you took the step, I will be forced to call you all Single boys-men out😂😂😂

PS: Don't ask about mine😂

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