Is it normal or they are just overreacting?

There is a saying that one man's food is another man's poison but there are situations that get so twisted to the extent where it would be difficult to choose which is right or wrong, I am not writing this as a conclusion of what I feel about the topic. I will state some true-life experiences and allow us to share our opinion on what's right.

Being too rigid in a relationship is something I question a lot not because it is a condemnable act but because some people trade their happiness and peace for it, is there anything like a relationship when happiness or peace is missing?

I had an experience with different people about their relationships and I wonder if their partner's style of handling relationships is normal, a sign of jealousy, lack of trust, or they are just been overprotective.

1st person

She owns a shop around the farm, a friend wanted to shop for foodstuff so I told her to come to patronize the woman because she complains a lot about low sales and I usually try to support her by purchasing food items plus referring people to her.

We got there and she wasn't around, I tried getting her number but couldn't. I checked her banner but it wasn't there either, we gave up after some time so my friend went to get the stuff from somewhere else. I saw her the following day and asked why she didn't include her number in the banner and she said her husband didn't want it.

I asked what was the purpose of the banner when it doesn't have a contact on it, it is like sharing a business card without a contact people can use to reach you on it. She further explained that her husband doesn't find it cool when males call her, so she has to do what he wants. I was dumbfounded, he should have just locked her indoors and pay her salary if he doesn't want male customers.

His actions would affect her sales, I believe that the wife should be mature enough to handle male customers that want more than just the goods they came for or he shouldn't have even married her if he didn't trust her.

2nd person...

Sometimes ago a guy told me he doesn't know why his girlfriend is always online without chatting with him, he claimed she has no business online if they aren't having any conversation.

This issue led to their quarrel for some time and I was wondered why she doesn't have to right to use social platforms when she is not talking to him. What do we call that?

3rd person

The third person is a cloth vendor, she sells clothes online but her boyfriend is not happy with the fact that most of her customers are male.

They quarrel about it all the time and eventually part ways after lots of problems. The lady because of that has chosen not to have a serious relationship with anyone because the guy made her a single mother and she refuse to be shut out of fulfilling her dreams because of relationships.

The three cases look similar and I can't figure out why, let's put something into consideration before hearing your opinion.

A lot of things have led to this judgment from the men involved in the experience shared but nothing justifies shutting your partner out of the world because of whatever it might be.

Many people put up funny acts in their relationships because of their experiences in their past relationships. The experience you had shouldn't be the reason why your new relationship is suffering, and if you don't let go, it would be difficult to make your relationship a beautiful one.

Those experiences should be a guide and not torture for your new relationship.

Another thing I have seen is a scenario where a person doesn't know their boundaries with an outsider, I once the news of a lady who went to deliver goods personally to a guy unknowing to her that the guy is a hardened criminal.

He lives in a huge house with exotic cars parked outside, he made an advance towards them and she gave in but unfortunately for her, the police were after the guy. They busted him and met the girl in his house having fun together, she was taken in as his accomplice and we didn't know how the story ended.

There is a limit to things when in a relationship, it doesn't mean you not having fun or interacting with people but anything that serves as disrespect to your partner must be avoided. Some people know how easily their partner loses their limit so they set the boundaries themselves, but I think there should be other ways to do things than shutting them out of social life.

While those life experiences were running in my head, I got a bit confused thinking if it is normal for restrictions in relationships or the men in the stories were just overreacting.

I hope to learn from you all in the comment section.

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