Is considering a spiritual view enough reason for going into or quitting a relationship?
I promised myself to write only things about the season we are but I couldn't take my mind of some facts a lot of people need to understand in life, a lot of people are making this one mistake and it is very common in Africa because we are obsessed with spirituality.
This article has nothing to do with condemning the spiritual life of anyone, it would only make you understand that there is more to spirituality if we read to the end.
I grew up attending a garment church and I tell you very well about spiritual obsession, I know people who wouldn't lift a finger with consulting their pastor's or prophet. It is a good thing to always allow God to lead but there is a limitation to this, lots of people don't understand and have allowed the spiritual obsession to ruin their happiness.
The first thing you should understand is that the people you run to for spiritual help are men like you and can make mistakes, terrible ones to be exact. Many claims to put their trust in God whereas, they have placed human above God.
Another point is that not all those who call themselves men of God are not what they claim to be and we must be very careful with handling information they tell us.
Not everything about life requires going too deep spiritually, proper thinking, a simple prayer to God, and considering the situation of things properly can sometimes be enough to make decisions that will yield positive results.
Yesterday a guy was sharing a life experience of a guy whose pastor told him that his girlfriend was the wife made for him from heaven. He wasn't sure because the lady is a violent type but he went on to marry her since his pastor assured him that the lady is his destined wife.
The marriage didn't last two years because the lady never gave him rest of mind, she was always fighting him and the people in the neighborhood.
People share their experiences and the discussion brought back the memories of my ex whose pastor told me that I wasn't the right guy for her, she ditched every dream and feeling we shared because of that without thinking twice.
She went on to date someone in the church which her pastor prayed about and said, she was made from the new guy's rib meaning he is her husband. He even made it clear that she won't have a child or a happy home if she didn't marry the guy.
Things got deeper between them and she noticed lots of things she didn't like about him but the pastor made her understand that he will change since they are destined to be together forever. After they got married, the guy decided to unleash the rest of the beast in him and she immediately knew that she went into the wrong relationship.
She became a punching bag, he doesn't cater for her and it got to an extent that it was the guy family and the church that started catering for her need since she has a baby and he restricted her from working.
It went on for close to two years and that day, I was surprised to see her call. I got emotional while she narrated everything, I had to raise funds for her to take care of the child who was ill. At last, she left the marriage and the guy never bothered to look for her or the child, she had to return to scratch to take care of herself and her daughter.
The fact that the guy was showing you some of his terrible habits while courting is enough for you to decide on whether the relationship is for you or not, it is better to walk out immediately before the knots are tied.
Unfortunately, many see but ignore the red flags because of what their spiritual person has said.
Obsession with spirituality should be between you and God not with a man as an intermediary, there are times we need just our brain to think and choose what is best for us.
Lots of people have dumped the person who was supposed to make them happy forever because of what their pastor or spiritual person has told them, for how long are we going to continue making these mistakes?
This has led to the death of people regardless of gender because not everyone gets the grace to leave an abusive relationship without having one permanent damage cause already, the people you are seeking spiritual help from won't live with you, and always remember the problems would be yours alone to handle.
When given prophecies about your future, thinking about it thoroughly is important. I am not disputing the fact that there are people who were told that they match and are happy in their relationship till today but there must have been physical signs that they will have a happy home.
Read the signs, don't ignore the warnings either but above all, think very well about the odds of following the spiritual advice and also think how much it can hurt or favor you. A marriage without love is not worth is it, it is just like signing a contract of pain and suffering for the rest of one's life.
I hope everyone is having a happy holiday, thanks for coming again to read my article. Love you all.
I'm not against spiritual consultations but we tend to take this thing too serious in this country. You're the one that will live with the woman or man not the spiritual father.