Conversation couples shouldn't start.

It is a beautiful Monday morning, it was a long night for me because I sleep off while watching the Africa Cup of Nations final last night and didn't wake up until almost 7 am this morning. I woke up to know that Senegal won the competition with the penalty shootout, I wish for Salah to take the crown but I guess the best legs won.

I appreciate one of us here who checked up on me because I haven't been consistent lately, I have a lot on my table right now and it is hard to manage time since my health dropped again lately but as long as the platform is here, I won't hesitate to cook up an article when I am free and good to do that.

A relationship is beautiful but tricky as well and feelings can turn sour in the twinkle of an eye with even an ordinary discussion, a lot of people have misunderstood the meaning of transparency in relationships which has made lots of relationships have trust issues while some even meet with their end. It is good to be transparent in our love life but there are things that your spouse shouldn't know, before you make up your mind on the things that your spouse shouldn't know then you must have understood your spouse's behavior very well.

I doubt if there are people who still go into relationships without knowing their spouse too well, love was once blind but it now seems very clear.

During my school days, there was this guy that comes with a vehicle but doesn't help anyone despite having lots of us who went in his direction. One day we insisted on following him and he had no choice and he begged everyone not to drop or forget anything in the car. He further told us why and I understood the fact that the wife is either overprotective, the jealous type, or someone who doesn't have this full trust for her husband.

The man knows his wife well and wouldn't dare to start a conversation of helping some of his classmates with his wife because she can start having a series of silly thoughts which can ruin their moments.

Understanding your spouse properly is something you should do before even making the move to propose marriage or say yes to a proposal.

There are discussions I feel couples should not go into regardless of how patient, understanding or cool your spouse is because such conversations sometimes make them feel incapable or worthless.

Discussion about your previous sex life:

(This is the point that prompted this article so it will come first). A guy said in my presence that he misses his ex-girlfriend because of sex and I was shocked, he said even his lover knows. They have had a conversation about it several times where he made her understand that she can't match his previous girlfriend when it comes to sex.

I couldn't involve in such a conversation because I don't know most of them, I was only taking the fresh air under the tree when they arrived and sat around also.

Talking about your sex life with your ex is a terrible thing to do in a relationship because it will create a serious trust issue which automatically kills the feelings bit by bit until it dries completely.

Making your spouse know that they aren't doing things the way you like isn't bad but the way we present it is what matters, the discussion should be a direct one and shouldn't have a pinch of anything that has to do with your previous relationship. The love, care, and anything from the previous relationship should be bygone as long as you don't find the relationship worth staying in anymore.

If every relationship was perfect, no one will date more than one person before they tie the knot. We live with each other imperfections and that's how it has been for people who are living happily today after many years in their relationships.

Comparing your spouse with people:

Is that how your mate does? Isn't a particular person a man or woman like you? These kinds of words shouldn't come up in discussions when talking about things that you see as shortcomings in relationships.

It is impossible not to have heated discussions because even the relationship we see as perfect still talk things out, minding our utterance is a big deal because words can reduce your spouse's effort or morale to nothing when you compare him or her to someone we think they are doing better meanwhile the people you are comparing them with aren't perfect either but they have learned to endure, correct, and live with their spouse in peace.

When I told my mom about my first relationship, she laughed at me. I remembered that laughter and her words, she said "you are too young, you have a lot to learn about relationships".

I thought there wasn't anything too serious about being in a relationship and as I grow, I learned my lessons with breakups. A lady once broke up with me because I missed my ex a lot and talked about her very well even in the middle of an important discussion, I discovered that I was making her feel like she wasn't enough for me but it was too late.

There are discussions that shouldn't hold and if you aren't sure of how it would make them feel, put yourself in their shoes first.

It is a beautiful week and I hope we are all ready to grab every opportunity life brings our way, wishing everyone a great day.

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