I want to say a very big thank you to everyone who dropped a comment on my article about the fish incident, it feels great pouring out my mind to the platform. I want to say thank you to the BCH ecosystem for bringing beautiful people like you into my life, the connection is kind of strong despite the distance and I hope we here for a long time laughing together, learning, and supporting one another.
Shout out to my sponsors, I can't thank you guys enough for the everyday support. It means a lot to me.
Special shout out to @Pantera @Olasquare @Jane @Oldbastard @JLoberiza @Valour and everyone who gave me extra love. You are all awesome, God will reward you abundantly.
My fiancée came around on Saturday and she felt bad not only because of what happened but she believed that I would eventually hurt myself someday for trusting people easily whereas the world doesn't work in that style anymore.
She said, "people go around now looking for prey and they take advantage of you once they have the opportunity.
Ayo, have you forgotten how trusting people affected your saving from your previous job? Some of the people you helped into the job, went on to owe debts the company held you responsible for because you took them in. It is not everyone you meet in life that deserves help, you might hurt yourself very badly if you continue living like this because more people will take advantage of you".
The memories she brought back to life made me down, I buried them since God has compensated for my loss but some things can't be completely wiped off because fresh incidents would bring them back. I went through the experience again and shook my head, I have lost a lot financially just for trusting and helping that backfired at me but does that mean that I should be cruel and allow no form of relationship with people?
A short story you can learn from...
I had this friend I met in school then, he needed accommodation and I talked to the owner of the house where I stayed, it was a two-room apartment. We started living together and Gbade was a very cool guy, we understood ourselves quite well but there was something I detest a lot about him. He is a flirt, he changes girlfriends like clothes and it annoys me seeing him introduce a new girlfriend almost every month.
On this fateful, he came with this young girl and I wasn't happy about it. While he was introducing her to us, I walked out of the room. The girl didn't feel comfortable and she was in haste to leave, Gbade asked why I behaved that way and I told him I didn't like how he uses and dumped those girls, they are someone else children.
Gbade requested we went for a walk and I agreed to that, he said he wants to tell me what led to his terrible way of life with girls and relationships. Like I care, nothing justifies being cruel to people and if you can't keep a relationship, why not just remain single?
He said Lagos State Poly wasn't the first school he studied in, he was in a University but something happened that changed his life. He had a girlfriend he was planning to make his wife after school, he cared and treated her like someone he was going to have a future with.
He had an evening job that pays well and aside from that, he sells novels and second-hand clothes in school, these things made him financially okay as a student. He was taking responsibility for the girl but a few days to their 300 level first semester examination, he discovered she was pregnant.
How is that possible? They haven't had sex in a while and she never allowed him with using protection. He confronted her and she opened up about it, my friend was just her money bag and she had a true lover somewhere outside the campus. He said he left his room that day and intentionally ran across the road intending to get hit by a vehicle but his life didn't end there.
Due to the incident, he left the school before the exam and never returned there. He wasted another four years after the incident before trying to complete his education again. I didn't believe my ear but what does that have to do with the girl he was dumping?
He said he feels nothing for them, they just satisfy his sexual desires. We talked at length and I made him understand that no matter how broken you are, people can't change you if you have a good heart because no matter how much heartbreak you get, you won't stop loving even though there might be limits due to experiences.
I said he had terrible feelings and those girls ain't the one who betrayed you why then would you take revenge on them? He allowed the beast in him completely to take over him but he is now happily married with a beautiful daughter when he decided to give out that good heart again.
The world is a beautiful place to live in but it is impossible for you not to come across people whose intention is to take advantage of you, they will come as angels but they are the real devil. They are ready to stab you repeatedly if they have the chance to do so and going on to take vengeance by refusing to help, trust, give opportunities, love, and accommodate people would only deprive you of that happiness of making a difference in peoples lives.
I have concluded that every person that stabs you in life has only taught you to me to defend yourself as you still journey through life and that doesn't mean you should stop trying to help or have an impact on people's lives but we must be careful and shouldn't allow ourselves make the same mistakes again.
Don't make decisions with how you feel about things, every action we take shouldn't be about emotions. Give your brain a chance to interfere, let it add its opinion. There is a reason why the brain is bigger than the heart or don't you think so?
In my case, I learned my lessons but that shouldn't make me a cruel farmer. I can recover my loss by cheating my customers, removing some grams from small unit buyers and kilograms the bulk buyer would cover losses but what would that make me?
I wouldn't be different from the woman who took advantage of me, you can't afford to be damaged no matter how broken you are.
Click image for source.
Thanks for reading, happy new month in advance.
You are a kind person bro. I hope you recover from this pain, always rember that every heartache there's a lesson. And I know God always with us. Keep on going and writing a good piece like this.