Anger is not only destructive, there are good side to it.
I have always had two perspectives on anger, life helped me discover this a long time ago. A lot of people see just one thing about anger, which is the path to destruction and I won't dispute the fact that anger has led to the destruction of lots of things including lives but it doesn't end with that.
Anger can be a tool that initiates destruction and it can be an inspiration to achieving great things in life. The fact that anger can be channeled into getting positive results or change in life isn't surprising but people's obsession with the idea that anything related to anger is destruction prevents them from making any right decision when angry. They just want to cause havoc then because they think that's the best thing to do when angry, there are some situations you just have to react and speak out but not violently.
My mom use to tell me that you only know the beginning of violence, you can't tell how much it escalates, and you don't know what the end will be.
Every human is born with the ability to get angry but many people have been able to control it perfectly, I rarely get angry, and I have been told I smile too much even when I am supposed to be angry. I don't do that because I love smiling always but it is the best way for me to keep my anger in check.
As cheerful and happy as I was while growing up, I was an angry child because I understood the fact that the life we were living wasn't ours.
My family struggled to keep our shelter, struggled to feed, struggled for education, and many other things. It was frustrating and it becomes more frustrating when you know someone who could just pick you up and give you the life you have always dreamt of.
I wasn't the only one, there were kids like me then. There are days when we talked about these things on the football field and we made wishes to be great men in the future which is today, there was anger in us because of what we were going through but we channeled it differently.
Unfortunately, some did the wrong thing by allowing their anger to push them to a destructive path and ended their life while others made their anger propel them to success.
Anger leaves us with two options, whether to allow it to destroy us or help us be great people. In my case, I was angry because I was abandoned by someone which made life challenging for me. Every effort to make him do what he was meant to do didn't work out well so it got me more pissed and instead of letting that anger ruin me, I vowed to do things without his help.
During that time, there are days I feel very tired to carry on but my anger kept fueling me. It inspired me to do the things that they thought I would never do, I wanted to prove them wrong and make them know that I was going to be fine with or without them.
Anger drove me hard and it almost broke me. This made me realize that even when your anger fuels you, it can still end up as a big problem and that makes anger a complicated thing.
Forgiveness can't be ignored forever, the need for it will definitely arise. I started having this awkward feeling and I realized that I was letting my anger get too much of me so I had to forgive and just let my dreams be my drive.