Hello reader's and writer's, happy weekend. How do you normally spend your weekend anyway? We? We just stay at home and sleep, meanwhile our neighbors are having karaoke/ vedioke . Furthermore our place looks like it's fiesta, karaoke here, karaoke there lol. Luckily my son can still sleep despite how noisy our neighbors are.

Anyway let's go back to my main topic. This idea pop up in my mind because of our neighbors today's gathering.

Those Days..

I remember when my partner are still working in abroad. Every time he went home for his vacation, this neighbors of ours are very friendly and accommodating to him. They keep on inviting my partner to join with them, in any kind of gatherings. They sometimes come to our house to fetch him, because sometimes my partner feel lazy going out. I saw how close they are before, and how happy they are together through their photos. Then whenever my partner has his vacation here in the Philippines, he always buy some present for them. It is because my partner threat them as a real friends, and it is also common to us Filipinos of giving a present specially that it was bought from the other country. They always have long road trip in every weekend, but the bad part was sometimes they asked my partner to treat them with their motorcycle gas and even their food for their trip. Sometimes my partner shoulder all the expenses. At first he was fine with that, but slowly he felt like his being abused. So sometimes he refuses to come with them. And since my partner has knowledge about repairing of motorcycle, they always call my partner for help. But everything has changed, when my partner and I decided to go home for good since both of us are working abroad. He came earlier than me. At first our neighbors who is his friends is still ok with him, they are still kind and friendly. But when he refuses them too often with their invitation, they begun gossiping him behind his back. I mean they start to become bitter towards him and talk mean things about him. It is just because my partner notice their actions, on how they threat him, that's why he fall apart from them. They are too nice if they want something favourable to them and when he refuse they will ignore him.

The actions more worsen when my partner didn't go back working in abroad and also the pandemic has begun. They become totally strangers and sometimes even they meet outside they ignore my partner. And now he totally saw their true colors, he realize that they are just friends when he has something to give, and they become strangers when he had nothing. I felt a little discourage with them and maybe that is why from the very beginning I don't like them being friends with my partner. I saw how my partner open his self to them because he thought they are friends, and now they neglected him.

Well, I guess this is one of the reality that we must accept.

In terms of friendship we cannot avoid not to encounter those kind of person. We can't avoid bitter friends, stingy friends and even fake friends lol.

Speaking of fake friends, I know or most of us known this kind of friends is a very common. Where that person naturally act like they are a real friends, try hard to make you feel how supportive they are. Like they will keep on pushing you to reach your goals, but deep inside they have this little bitterness lol. I was just lucky that I didn't encounter those kind of person. I don't have any fake friends to be called.

Message:

Choose a steady friends who like you for who you are, not fickle ones who like you for what you have. Choose a friend who will stand by you, through your ups and downs. Be proud of you with your achievements and be there for you when you fail.

Make as many friends as you can, but never center your life to them.

October 17,2021 20:22

Lead image source is originally my own edited photo.