"The love that didn't last" Blog#145 February 11,2022 no.10 Hello my dear friends and family, how are you? The valentine's Day is almost here, so any plans with your special someone? Anyway this past few days I have read some stories from some users about their past , and since this month is called love month. This month could be as sweeter than usual to those who are in peacefully inlove, and bitter as bitterest to those who are in a warzone, charot.. somehow let me share to you my past and yet not interesting pastπ but please bear with me π. I'll start sharing with you my four days relationship that I had with my second boyfriend. As I remember I am just 20 years old and my boyfriend is already 27 years old that time when we meet. He is working as a security guard while I am working as a salesclerk in the same Mall. He courted me for like more than two months before I say yes to him. His not a good looking guy anyway, but because he showed me his sincerity and respect to my whole family, he finally got a special place in my heart.
Eventually, when we become girlfriend and boyfriend he suddenly becomes so touchy and I felt uncomfortable by him, since I was born conservative. Holding hands is a big NO NO to me π , but everytime were together he keeps on holding my hands although he already knew that I don't feel comfortable about it. I don't know why but I felt awkward everytime he holds my hands, I'm not comfortable and I found it disgusting lol. I think it was maybe because I really don't like him that muchπ or was it only because I'm very conservative, I don't know. Since we work in the same Mall, we use to see each other everyday and every day he used to accompany me to the jeep station before I go home after our work.
We are just four days of being in relationship when he sneak a kiss on my cheeks and that's how everything changed. I really didn't expect that he would kiss me. Our relationship was just new, so I thought he wouldn't do that. I was really disappointed on him that time as I felt that his being disrespectful. I almost cursed him by doing that in public. I really felt ashamed to all those who saw what he did and how I wish the road would swallowed me that night lol. I was really mad at him and right away I broke up with him. He was very curious with my reaction as for him a kiss on cheeks isn't a big deal, well it's on him, not to me. He tried to calm me down as he wanted to talk to me and say sorry but I just push him away and when he tried to come near to me I punch him. I really don't want him to touch me nor come near to me anymore. When the jeep came, I immediately go inside the jeep without looking back at him. I was crying with anger that night, I was really disappointed and all I felt was shameful. Because of what he did, I regretted that I trusted him (sobrang OA noh?lol).
On the next day, I didn't saw him in our workplace. At first I thought he was just absent, and he would go to work on the next day. But eventually he didn't come anymore. I didn't heard anything about him for a week, not until I heard from our co-workers, that he already went back to Cebu, which is his hometown. His friends say's that he wanted to say sorry to me personally, but he just can't find a courage to talk to me. He was afraid to approach me, so he just keep looking at me from outside the mall. I suddenly feel guilty,but what can I do, he was gone already. That time mobile phone is very expensive so I still don't have phone even I'm already earning my own money . That time, my family's expenses is more important than having a mobile phone.
Message to him; Wherever you are, I hope you really do understand with my reaction that time. You know that I'm still young and you know how conservative I am and my family. You might be matured enough that time and a kiss is just normal for you, but I hope you also consider my conservativism. I think our relationship won't ended up that too soon, if you only waited for the right time and until we fully know each other. I know I also made mistakes and misunderstood you, but I hope you have forgiven me now. I hope you are happy now with your family. I have already forgiven you. Anyway past is past, and so Happy Valentine's Day. __________________________________________________________ Anyway after I broke up with him, I stayed single for more than a year. I was already 22 when I had another relationship with my third fling boyfriend. My third boyfriend courted me for six months and yet our relationship only last for one month, and I think he was my karma as he was the opposite of my second boyfriend lol. I will share it to you next time... Thank you for reading.. Lead image source edited using Canva
40 comments
well, I can understand about being conservative, and the way you conveyed your message in last paragraph is of highly emotional intellignece.
Thank you for understanding the young me mate.
wow that's a huge word for me:D
It wasn't your fault sis, kung naantay ka nga nya for two months he should have wait for the right time para sa skinship, unang una mas matanda sya sayo, he should be the bigger person between you two. Anyway, yaan mo na sya baka masaya na rin sya sa lovelife nyaπ
May asawa na yata yun ngayon sis, hahahahhaha
Hahaha! Oo nga matagal naman na un eh
Well I can understand because I too belongs to a conservative family. He should not kiss you so sudden and in public but let you know him well and take Your time
Exactly my dear friend, but it's all been done and we haven't seen each other again.
Natakot ka sa kanya kaya break mo siya agad ,nahiya naman siguro siya sa ginawa niya
Baka ganun nga siguro sis, isip bata pa din kasi ako nunπ
Oo nga sis siguro kaya
A relationship that lasted for just four days? Wow... A very weird one. Your reaction to the kiss was a little over the top.
I just realized it when I grow older π .
You don't have a fault sis. He must ask you a permission first when he did that thing because ladies are not the same. We have a differences. As a respect to you, he must ask you first but he did it without your permission. He's totally wrong sis. I think he never talk to you back because he realized what he did and he felt conscience and shy sis.
Indeed sis, how I wish he realised that. Thank you sis
I'm sure na realize niya yun sis. You're welcome sis.
There are many loves that do not last. You talked about a four-day relationship. I saw love one day. I didn't know where the relationships were going day by day.
Most of my love story didn't last π
I am No expert in relationship, I just know be single be happy haha
Indeed my friend, being single is more happier than being in a relationship π
You are married now right ?
There love that was season and it will not last.
Truth, hindi din talaga lahat nagtatagal
Ang aga mo mag great pero infernis hah layo ng agwat niyo 27 siya ikaw 20 years old pero oka na rin siguro kapag walang asawa ang boyfie mo haha. Sigiraduhin lang na wala
Hahahaha wala cguro un, pero ok lng Hindi din namn kami nagtagal π€£
Dear Garreth, you described your memories very beautifully. How good it was to be in a relationship between two people, both of whom respected each other's values, then the relationship became more lasting. You describe your memories very sweetly. I look forward to reading more of your memoirs... π
Thank you so much my dear..
So he left his work because he couldn't stand to meet you one on one in the same mall. It must have painned him so much to have taken that decision. I just wish you both can meet again and talk and laugh over the encounter
Yeah, that's actually makes me sad And feel guilty, I'd realize that I'm bad to him.
It's well. It's passed now
Ae ganyan dn ako sis kahit inaakbayan lng ako nung nglalakad kmi sa mall hahhaha I even pull out his hands hahha I don't like that act especially when in public. Pero kawawa nmn sya nuh ng stop sya sa work nya, nahiya yun for sure.
Oo nga sis, kaya nga na guilty din ako π , pro wala na eh, tapos na kaya wala na akong nagawa pa π
Pero siguro dahil sabi mo nga sis na hindi mo siya masyado gusto kaya parang ayaw mong magpahawak kamay isa din yun sa dahilan.
Getting to know each palang kc Sana kami nun sis, kaso ambilis nya din naman kc may pa kiss kiss pa..pero na guilty din talaga akoπ
Ayy pero tama ka namn sis kahit pa ba kayon na lahat dapat all acts are consensual to both sides. Anyways masaya namn maging single so far hahaha.
a love story that must end so quickly but you must take a lesson for all these events because he may not be your soul mate. speaking of this month maybe I should declare it a pseudo month for me because it's not like other friends who have a partner. I have to part with my lover and I have to live this alone. maybe this is a dramatic path of love.
You love story is really touching but I wonder why he did like that but I am glad you have forgiven him and I am also happy that you have found someone to spend your life with . I pray that the two of you enjoyed your selves to the end
If I were there in your place then I would do the same with him, you can't kiss or make the person feel uncomfortable in public just because you love him or her. One need to seek one's permission before doing this kind of thing.
He was so truthful to you thats why he left after the incident, I suppose.
Interesting. I suppose as a guy, it is important to wait until a lady is comfortable around you before you try to be intimate with her in terms of kissing and all. Even if you two are dating