"Let's be practical"

They says, no matter what you do, and no matter what your status in life was, your child should have a sibling. I said why? Is that required? It doesn't seem like it was. They says it's simple because, when I and my partner died, our child must still have a family. Literally a family, the blood relative, not as cousin nor a nephew's/niece's, but a siblings itself. Because by the time you are no longer exists as their parents, your child still have someone to lean on and to rely on, and that is each other. In this world, there is nothing like the support and love of your own family members. So do not leave your child alone when the time comes.

What they says made me think, actually they have a point. As also based on my own experience, in every challenges or trials of my life I really have nothing else to expect but the support of my own family. Though I have some relatives who supported me before. But at the end it was hard to be grateful, because no matter what I do, everything still not enough as compensation for the help that they've given me. At the end I've still heard some criticism. It's hard to ask some favour, as they will surely expect for something in return.

But because of the hardships of life that I went through with my large family, I did not really want to have many children's. I always told myself back then, that when I had my own family I wanted only one child. Yes, it is good to have siblings, but it is not good to have nothing to eat because your parents do not have enough money. Though it feels good when someone is fighting for you, there is a brother/sister who will defend you. But not all siblings will defend you, the others are also the ones who bully you. Then for sometime they are also your rivals too, but I know not every siblings is like that. Some siblings will truly stand at your side no matter what.

Yesterday I was putting my things in my drawer, I put some clothes back in my luggage and I also took some clothes from there. I saw my son's things when he was a newborn. I saw some clothes that were really new, he didn't use them because he grew up right away, I gave away the others as well. I was about to take pictures of it, because I said I would post it to a barter group, maybe somebody will need it, and they can give anything in return, it's okay. My partner saw me fixing the clothes, because yesterday he came home for lunch to eat. He asks if what am I doing, I said, I'm gonna post them in a barter group. He asked, Why? I said, because it's no longer usable, it's just stocked here so let's barter it. He said, don't you want to get pregnant again? I laughed at what he said, I don't know why, but I laughed at the look of my partner. I reminded him that from the beginning, I only wanted one child and he knows that and until now it's still didn't change. I thought he understand me, but then he said, didn't they said that having only one child is not good?

My defense was, it's not that it's not good, what's not good is that we will have many children's and then we can't afford to provide their needs. We must be practical, because we know that life is hard nowadays, it is hard to earn money. He said, two child isn't many, just give Garreth a siblings. Besides, I'm going abroad to make sure you have a good future. By that, I didn't say anything, I know he's plans and I know he wants he's son to have a sibling. I don't wanna make an argument so I just stop talking.

I looked at my son, and I suddenly asked myself, am I selfish? Is it wrong that I don’t want to give him a siblings? All I'm thinking about is his future, I don't want my child to suffer and I don’t want to miss out.

Actually, it was fine to have two or three childrens, as long as you can afford to provide their needs. You are financially stable and both of you as parents are responsible to guide your children's in their growth. As we all know, as parents we are the one who's responsible for our children's future, and we are responsible to give them a proper education. But we can't deny that there were also some parents who have shortcomings to their children's, some, because they are busy with their works and some because they can't afford to give them education. But I know there's no parents who don't want to see their children's being successful, it's just sometimes they can't afford to give them every thing that they need because of poverty. That is why, as parents we should always consider our children's future. We should always be very careful in every decision we will be making.

Anyway this blog is just base of my own opinion and experience too, I'm not talking it as generally. I know all of us has different perspective in our lives. As I grow up in a big family, I have seen how my parents struggled to give us our needs because they don't have enough source of income, they sometimes can't afford to buy us our needs in school because they don't have money. That is why I don't want to have many children's since then. But I'm still proud of my parents tho, as they raised us to become a better person.

Anyway this is all for now guy's.

Thank you for reading ❤️

November 27,2021 23:20

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