Me and My Thoughts about Marriage

Marriage is a beautiful thing shared by two people in love with each other. It is a sacred union and a promise to hold that two people will be together, in the end, no matter where life would take them.

My parents have been married for more than 25 years now. I can see that they are still in love even for the long time that they’ve been together. For sure they have encountered hardships and different casualties in life, but still after all the years; they’re still together, which I’m very much proud of.

I am 22 years old now. Working as a school teacher I haven’t experienced yet having a long time relationship. Well, I’ve been to some relationships back at college but nothing lasted for years. With my experiences, I have realized that the problem was on me like I don’t know how to keep up a relationship. I just think that I’m still young for all of these. But, whenever I go to family reunions, questions like, “Who’s your boyfriend?,” “Are you dating now?” bla… bla…bla… Why do I get to answer those questions? Can I not enjoy my single life?

When my sister got married, she moved out of the house. Since their house is still under construction, she lived with her in-laws. She told me that at first, their treatment was fair and she could really feel belongingness not until she heard her mother-in-law talking about her behind her back. It’s not that she doesn’t help to do the chores in the house, in fact, she does all of it, from cleaning to cooking. Her husband’s family found her as their rival on the packages and allotment that they receive monthly.

One time, she came home crying because she argued with her sister-in-law. It was just a very small matter but their family made it big. I felt pity for her. I told her to tell her husband about it so she could go back to our house while waiting for their house to be done. She refused because she doesn’t want her husband to worry about her knowing that he is working abroad. It would just lead to more ruckuses to the issue.

So then I thought I don’t like to mess with in-laws. Well, lucky for those who have understanding and supportive in-laws. It’s like it doesn’t matter how respectful of the kind you are, if they find you a threat to their family, you will find no peace living with them. I don’t like to deal with other family matters.

Aside from the issue about dealing with in-laws, I also don’t want to move out of the house. I don’t like to live far away from my family. I am also considering living with my parents if ever I get married. But that would be another issue if my husband doesn’t agree with the setup.

It’s a very complicated thing. As for my sister, she has already moved out from her in-laws' house since their house is almost done. Her relationship with them is not as good as the first time she was introduced to the family. You will really know the real character of those people, once you lived with them.

As for me, I’m not for marriage. As of now, that’s what I’m thinking. I don’t want to live a complicated life and I don't like to be away from the freedom that I am enjoying. But, who knows, I do not know what's ahead of me, there could be someone who will change my thoughts about marriage.

What about you, what are your thoughts about it?